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Loveinyoureyes你眼中的爱

Sittingsilentbymyside就是静静地坐在我身边

Goingonholdinghands一直牵着手

Walkingthroughthenights走过夜晚

Holdmeupholdmetight紧紧地抱着我

Liftmeuptotouchthesky高高举起让我摸到天

Teachingmetolovewithheart教我用心去爱

Helpingmeopenmymind帮我打开心门

Icanfly我能飞翔……I'mproudthatIcanfly我为自己能飞而骄傲

Togivethebestofmine奉献自己最珍贵的

Tilltheendofthetime直到生命的最后一刻

BelievemeIcanfly相信我，我能飞翔

I'mproudthatIcanfly我为自己能飞而骄傲

Togivethebestofmine奉献自己最珍贵的

Theheaveninthesky空中的天堂（神）

Starsinthesky空中的星星

Wishingonceuponatime很久以前的愿望

Givemelovemakemesmile给我爱让我微笑

Tilltheendoflife直到生命的最后一刻

Holdmeupholdmetight紧紧地抱着我

Liftmeuptotouchthesky高高地举起让我摸着天

Teachingmetolovewithheart教我如何用心去爱

Helpingmeopenmymind帮我打开心门

Icanfly我能飞翔

I'mproudthatIcanfly我为自己能飞而骄傲

Togivethebestofmine奉献自己最珍贵的

Tilltheendofthetime直到最后一刻

BelievemeIcanfly相信我吧，我能飞翔

I'mproudthatIcanfly我为自己能翱翔于空中而骄傲

Togivethebestofmine奉献自己最珍贵的

Theheaveninthesky空中的天堂

Can'tyoubelievethatyoulightupmyway难道你不相信你照亮了我的道路

Nomatterhowthateasemypath不论我的路途有多舒适

I'llneverlosemyfaith我决不会放弃我的信念

Seemefly看我飞翔

I'mproudtoflyuphigh我骄傲的高高地向上飞

Showyouthebestofmine将我最好的展示给你看

Tilltheendofthetime直到最后一刻

BelievemeIcanfly相信我能飞

I'msinginginthesky我在空中歌唱

Showyouthebestofmine将我最好的展示给你

Theheaveninthesky空中的天堂

Nothingcanstopme没有什么能阻挡我

Spreadmywingssowide大大的张开我的翅膀

1.Takealookatyourselfinthemirror.Thatshouldgiveyouplentyofconfidence.

2.Knowurabilitiesandurlimits..Dowhatucandoaccordingtourabilitiesanddon'tdowhatisoutofurlimits..saywhatusureknowandsayidon'tknowwhenudon't..sayyeswhenuwantandsaynowhenudon't..saythetruthalwayswhatevertheconsequances..Thenu'llgetmuchmoreconfidance.

3.well,imyopinion,ushouldfindyourstrengthandwellunderstandyourspeciality.whenyouarenotconfident,donotalwayslookothersstrengthandneglectyours.Alwaysthinkaboutgoodthingsthenuwillbegetmoreconfidence.well,sometimestrytobeyourselfandappreciateyourstrength,thatwillbebetterforu.ihopethatcanhelpu.

当我们没自信时，我们会做出错误的决定。

我们会在恐惧的前提下做出选择，而不是以那些最好的东西为基础。

如果你缺乏自信，生活可能会过得很糟糕。

Fearisthepathtothedarkside.Fearleadstoanger,angerleadstohate,hateleadstosuffering.—Yoda

LastweekIdidsomethingthatscaredthehelloutofme.Istoodinfrontofnearly200financialplannersandItalkedtothemaboutwhyfinancialblogsareagoodthing.

I’maconfidentwriter.I’vebeendoingthislongenoughthatIknowmystrengthsandmylimitations.I’vehadenoughfeedbacktounderstandthatI’maneffectivecommunicator—whenIusethewrittenword.I’mlessconfidentasaspeaker.Idon’thavetimetopausetoformulatemythoughts.I’mnotabletoedit.I’mafraidofbeingtrappedinacornerwithoutbeingabletotalkmywayout.Basically,I’mscaredtospeak.

Itwouldbeeasytosimplyrefusetheopportunitiesthatcomemyway.Whensomebodyasksmetospeakinfrontofagroup,Icouldsay“no”.Whenradioandtelevisionstationscallforaninterview,Icouldsay“no”.Butforthepasttwoyears,I’vebeenfollowingmyownpolicytosay“yes”tonewopportunities（solongastheydon’tviolatemypersonalcodeofconduct）.

Tosay“no”istoliveinfear.Mygoalistocontinuallyimprovemyself,tobecomebetterthanIamtoday.Onewaytodothatistodothethingsthatscareme,totakethemonaschallenges,andtolearnfromthem—evenifIfail.

Themagicofthinkingbig

Inmid-November,alocalstationaskedmetoappearonlivetelevision.“Irealizeit’sshortnotice,”theproducerwrote,“butwe’dlovetohaveyouontheshowifyou’reavailabletonight.”

It’sonethingtosaythatyouwanttoovercomeyourfears,butit’sanotherthingtoactuallydoit.Fearisreal.WhenIwasaskedtoappearonlivetelevision,Iwasfrightened.IrememberedmydisastrousinterviewwithaSeattleradiostationinearly2007.IthoughtaboutrecenttapedtelevisioninterviewsthatIhadhated.Iwasafraidofwhatmighthappen.

ButIalsothoughtaboutthethingsthathadgoneright.Ithoughtofhowmyspeakingskillshadimprovedoverthepastyear.Ithoughtaboutmyenthusiasmforfrugalityandpersonalfinance.AndthenIthoughtofthebookIwasareading,abookthatIhadboughtfor$1.29atthelocalthriftstore.

TheMagicofThinkingBigwasahugebestsellerduringthe1960s.WrittenbyDr.DavidSchwartz,aprofessoratGeorgiaStateUniversity,thebookcontainsdozensofpracticalhintsandtips（andmanyanecdotes）toillustratethepoweroftakingriskstoachievebiggoals.Schwartzarguesthatnobodywillbelieveinyouuntilyoubelieveinyourself.

SowhenthetelevisionproduceraskedifIwantedtoappearonhisshow,Ithoughtbig.“Sure,”Isaid.“I’lldoit.”Iactedconfident,butontheinsideIwasfrightened.WhatIneededweretechniquestoboostmyconfidenceandtoovercomemyfear.

Rememberthatthosetimeswhenyoufeelthatyourideasaren’tgoodenough,orpeopleareputtingdownonyourideas,oryou’regettingfired—thatthesearethesameideasthatyou’regoingtobecelebratedfor30yearslater.Youalmosthavetohavecourage.—FrancisFordCoppola,TheGodfatherDVDcommentarytrack

Howtobuildconfidenceanddestroyfear

Withoutself-confidence,wehaveatendencytomakepoordecisions.Wemakechoicesbasedonfearinsteadofwhatisbestforus.Ifyoulackconfidence,youmightfillyourlifewithself-destructivebehavior.Youmightworkatajobyouhate.Youmayallowyourselftogetdeepindebt.Youmayfindyourselfmovingfromonebadrelationshiptoanother.Withoutconfidence,youdon’tallowyourselftopursueyourdreams.

InTheMagicofThinkingBig,DavidSchwartzarguesthatallconfidenceisdeveloped.“Nooneisbornwithconfidence,”hewrites.“Thosepeopleyouknowwhoradiateconfidence,whohaveconqueredworry,whoareateaseeverywhereandallthetime,acquiredtheirconfidence,everybitofit.”

Confidenceisbuiltslowly,onesuccessatatime.I’velearnedthatinordertoovercomefear,Ineedtoemployavarietyoftechniques.HereareafewthatI’vepickedovertheyears,andwhichI’veusedtohelpmyselfgetoutofdebt,andtodevelopthecouragetospeakbeforegroupsortoappearonlivetelevision:

·Don’tdwellonfailures.Drawfromthethingsyou’vedoneright.Mytalklastweekwasfarfromperfect.ButifIdwellonthethingsIdidwrong,I’llpsychmyselfoutoffutureopportunities.I’llbescaredtosay“yes”whensomebodyasksmetospeak.Instead,I’mtryingtofocusonthethingsIdidrightsothatIcanemphasizetheminfuturepresentations.

·Rehearseapositiveoutcome.Beforemylivetelevisionappearance,Iwatchedclipsofsimilarinterviewsonthesameshow.（I’mnotaregulartelevisionwatcher,sothiswasnew.）Iarrivedatthestationearly,soIsatinthecar,closedmyeyes,andimaginedtheintervieweraskingmequestionsaboutthesubject.Iimaginedjokingwithher.Iimagineditasapositiveexperience.

·Donotprocrastinate.Procrastinationpromotesfear.Whenyou’reafraid,thinkingisyourenemy.Act.Dowhatyouthinkisbest,anddoitquickly.Thelongeryoutaketoact,themoretimeyouhavetotalkyourselfoutofit,thelongeryouhavetoimaginethethingsthatmightgowrong.It’snotenoughtohope.Takeaction.

Hereisapsychologicalprinciplethatisworthreadingover25times.Readituntilitabsolutelysaturatesyou:

Tothinkconfidently,actconfidently.—fromTheMagicofThinkingBigbyDavidJ.Schwartz

·Tothinkconfidently,actconfidently.You’veheardthephrase“fakeit’tilyoumakeit”.Researchhasshownthatfakingconfidenceactuallyleadstotherealthing.Ifyou’reinasituationwhereyou’renotsurewhattodo,actlikeyouknowwhattodo.Actconfidentandyouwillbecomeconfident.（Notethatthisisn’tlicensetobeajerk.It’snotalicensetolie.）Schwartzsaysthatwecanchangeourattitudesbychangingourphysicalactions.Herecommendsfivespecificbehaviors:

sitinfront,makeeyecontact,walkfaster,speakup（offeryouropinion）,smile.

·Thinkliketheotherperson.Rememberthatpeopleareallthesame.Weeachhavethesamefearsandthesamedesires.Underneath,mostfolksareprettynice.Whenyou’reinanuncomfortablesituation,putyourselfintheotherperson’sshoes.Whilepreppingformytalklastweek,IusedthistechniquetoplanwhatIwasgoingtosayandhowIwasgoingtosayit.Italkedwithadozenfinancialplannerstofindouttheirconcerns,andtriedtoaddresstheminmytalk.Bydoingthis,IremovedthefearthatIwasn’taddressingtheirinterests.

·Maintainapositivementalattitude.InSuccessThroughaPositiveMentalAttitude,theauthorswrite:

“When[aperson]iswrappedinthewarm,securebeliefthathewilldowell,heisactuallyabletodobetterthanheknows.Hisdefensesarerelaxed;hisguarddown;heisabletostopspendingemotionalenergyprotectinghimselffromthepossiblehurtsoffailure;insteadhespendshisenergyreachingfortheprobablyrewardsofsuccess…Confidencehashadameasurableeffectonhim—ithasbroughtoutthebestinhim.”

·Getoffyour“but”.InFeelingGood:

TheNewMoodTherapy,DavidD.Burnsoffersavarietyofsuggestionsforbuildingconfidenceanddestroyingfear.Oneoftheseistolearntodefeatacaseofthe“buts”.Schwartzcallsthisexcusitis,the“diseaseoffailures”.Burnssaysthatthebestwaytodealwithexcusesistoarguewithyourself.Everytimeyousay,“I’dliketosavemoney,but…”,comeupwitharebuttaltoco