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身体语言的秘密secretsofbodylanguage

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Awalktoconveypower;agreetingthatgetstheupperhand;agesturethatcanhidealie,bodylanguagecanbetrayus.Whenapresidentisunderpressure,oracelebrityisinthemediaglare,lookbeyondthewords,theirbodylanguagesaysitall.

Thisisacertainpoise,self-touchgesture,hotspot,ormicro-expressions.

Inthisspecial,expertswilldissectthebody,thefaceandthevoice—It’saboutourcountry.—torevealitshiddenmeanings,itssecrets.

Thisisaworldwherewhatwesayisallimportant.—Theysaidthisdaywouldnevercome.—Wehangoneveryword.—Tomorrowwebeginagain.Thankyou.—Butarewegettingallthemessage

—Older,darker,meanpsychopaths,serialkillershangaround…

Researchhasshownthatjust7%ofhumancommunicationisthroughtheactualwords.

93%ofwhatwecommunicatewithothersisnon-verbal.—Bang,bang,bang!

—93%!

Thinkaboutthat.93%!

Soit’sourtoneofvoice,ourpitch,ourposture,micro-expressionsonourfaceanddifferentgesturesthatwemightuse.Soweputallthesignificanceon7%forwords.Weshouldn’thavereallybeendoingthat.

Beyondthewordsliesafascinatingworldofnon-verbalcommunication,thesecretworldofbodylanguage.Weareabouttowatchouroneoftheworldleaders,oursportsstars.—Goodmorning.—We’llrevisitfamousfiguresfromrecenthistory.

—DidyoukillthePresident

—Becausepeoplehavegottoknowwhetherornottheirpresidentisacrook,well,butIamnotacrook.I'veearnedeverythingI’vegot.

We’llviewourcelebritieswithfresheyes.Wearegoingtoshowhowpeopleinthepubliceyetrytocontrolthewayweperceivethem,andhowsometimes,despitetheirbestefforts,thetruthleaksout.

—Whomeveritmightbe,ifthetruthistold,thenmynamewillbeclearedandIcanmoveonwithmylife.

Ifyouknowwhattolookfor.

—It’snotwhatyouareseeing.It’swhatyouarenotseeing.Andyouarenotseeingan,anangerresponse.

Wearegoingtoequipyouwiththetoolstoreadthosebodylanguagegiveaway.

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You’regettingahiddenpeek,apeekintotheworldofwhat’sreallygoingonthere.Whenyoucanreadbodylanguage,everymomentyouspendwithothers,youcanmakeitvaluable,andifyouareinbusiness,youcanmakeitprofitable.Bodylanguageiscrucial.

Forthosewhostudynonverbalcommunication,oneofthefirstindicatorstheylookoutforisthewaysomeone’sbodymoves.

AtthisCampDavidSummit,PresidentBushisthehosttovisitingRussianPresidentVladimirPutin.

VladimirPutinknowstheworldiswatchinghimonAmericansoilandhealsoknowsthathispeoplearewatching,sohemustshowstrength.

Herethough,bothleadersaremakingastrongbodylanguagestatement.

Nowhereweare,twopowerfulworldleadersinasortofstridingcontest,becauseofcourse,thefasteryoustride,themorestrong,powerfulandfityouare.

Butit’snotjustthespeedofwalkingthatsendsoutmessages.

VladimirPutinandGeorgeBush,bothofwhomarefantasticallypowerfulmen,havetwocompletelydifferentkindsofpowerandit,evidencesitselfthroughbodylanguage.

Ithankyouallforcoming.

VladimirPutinhas,whatIwouldcall,averyanimalpower,astrongmanpower.Andhewalksbyhavinghisshouldersthatareactuallybouncingbackand,backandforth.Andhewalks.Healsomakesgestures.Heisveryactive.Iwouldalmostcallitakindofsexypower.GeorgeBush,ontheotherhand,hasamoretraditional,andIwouldsay,Americanpower.Thereisaverylittlemovementabovetheshoulders.He’stryingtolooklikehe’scontrolled.Thereisnoextrawastedenergy.

Ithankyouallforcoming.

PerceivingthebodylanguagemessageofthesetwopowerfulPresidentsisstraightforward.Butbodylanguageisoftencomplexandeasilymisunderstood.

HerePresidentClintonleadsIsraeliandPalestinianleadersEhudBarakandYasserArafatoutbeforethepressduringpeacenegotiations.It’sallsmilesforthecameras.Butbehindthefacadeofbonhomie,thereisapowerstrugglegoingon.Clintonjokinglyexplainsthatnoneofthemwilltakeanyquestions.

Wepledgedtoeachotherthatwewouldanswernoquestionsandoffernocomments.So,Ihavetosetagoodexample.

Thebodylanguagethenrevealedjustwhythatwas.

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Oh,my!

Well…

Wow,almostaphysicalfight.

Manyviewthisapparentlylight-heartedtussleasasignthatArafatandBarakweregettingonwell.Thinkagain.

Thereisa,agreatmeaningbehindwhogoesthroughthedoorfirst.Now,ofcourse,seethathereintheWest,lettingsomeonethroughthedoorfirstthatdoesn’treallymatter,politemaybe.ButintheMiddleEast,ithassignificantculturalimpact.

Thehost,thepowerpersonsaysI’mincontrol,I’llhelpyouthroughthedoor,I’llshowyoutheway.

Thankyou.

ThrowingthefearandtensionpresentedinmostMiddleEastnegotiations,andsuddenlythedesireofbothArafatandBaraknottogothroughthatdoorbeforetheotherstartstomakesense.

Thisisaclassicexampleinanextremewayofhowthelastmanthroughthedooristhewinner.SoBarakreachesforYasserArafat.Arafatliterallygrabsthison,movesaroundandstartswagglinghisfingeratBarakwhothen,Barakthenusesitasanopportunitylikeawrestlingmatchtomovearound,toactuallybebehindArafatandthenliterallygrabsArafat,toholdhimbythearmandshoveshimthroughthedoorboldly.

Soyou’vegotfearandpowerstruggleshowinginbig,big,big,big,boldbodylanguagemovements.

ArafatandBarakarenottheonlyonestoappreciatethesignificanceofthelastmanthroughthedoormove.Evenwhenfriendsandalliesmeet,subtlecuesrevealwho’stopdog.

2003,BritishPrimeMinisterTonyBlairplayshosttoPresidentBush.

Inthisparticularexample,wearelookingatDowningStreetandonewouldexpectTonyBlairtobeveryterritorial.It’shisterritory.Heshouldbehost.Heshouldbeinchargeandthebossintermsofwhoatleastgoesthroughthedoor.

Andyet,TonyBlairthePrimeMinisteracceptsthattheseniorityinplacehereisthePresident.SoPresidentBushsaysphotojobisover,giveshimalittlenod,andsotheystartgettingin.The…

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Thepresidentisinchargeofthechoreography.

Hegoesthroughthedoorlast.HeuseshislefthandandtapsBlairforward,notshovingBlairthroughthedoor,buthelpinghimthroughthedoor,meaningBushisincharge.

Astheygoin,thepresidentbeinginchargeandwantinghimtobeclearthatheisincharge,notonlydisplaystheownershipsymbolofputtinghishandonTonyBlair'sback,butthenhedisplaysafurtherbitofdominance—giveshimthreelittletaps,justtolethimknowthatactuallyheisagoodlittleboyandthatGeorgeW.Bushisboss.

Apatonthebackisonewaytodemonstratepower.Gettingtheupperhandisanother,quiteliterally.

Whenbodylanguagesavvyworldleadersgettogether,theyknowthere'sonesurefiremomenttodemonstratedominance,thehandshakephotowhile.

Ifyou'relookingattheleftofthepicture,theyalwayswannabestandingontheleftofthepicture.Letmedemonstrate.IfI'mshakinghandshere,what'sgonnahappenI'matthebottomofthehandshake.Mypalmisfacingup.That'saveryvulnerableposition.IfI'mshakinghandshere,andI'vegotmyarmaroundthepersonI'mshakinghands,whoisin,who’sgottheupperhandI'vegottheupperhand.

Ifsomeone'scomingintoshakeyourhandlikethis,here'sthenicesolidhandshake.Itshouldbestraightandfirm.Ifit'snot...

JanineDriverteachesbodylanguageeveningclasses.

It’skindofhardtodominate.Youareapowerfulboy...

Shebelievesthevisualimpactofimportanthandshakeswasfirstappreciatedin1970whenElvisPresleyfamouslypaidavisittoPresidentNixonattheWhiteHouse.

WeseeapictureofNixonandhe’sshakinghandswithElvisPresley.Nixon'sgottheupperhand.That'swheretheexpressioncomesfrom—I'vegottheupperhandhere.Sonowthatpeopleknowaboutthisinpolitics,youseethemjoggingforpositionwhenitcomestimetotakethepicture.

AtthisSummitin2006hostedbyVladimirPutin,theRussianleaderwasonfullhandshakealert.

He’sstrategicallyplacedhimselfinapositionwherewhenthey'recomingforward,he'sgonnagetthedominantposition.Theyarecomingoutofcars,thiswaythey'recominguptohim.Thecamerasarehere.Everysinglepicture,whogetstheupperhandPutin.

ThenupstridesTonyBlair.

WeseethatTonyBlairisgoingtoactuallygrabontoVladimirPutin'shandsthat,thisclassicthingofgrabbingsomebodybytheelbowtoshowwhoisactuallytheleader.

ScoreoneforBlair.

PS：

开篇的“The”为续片段3片末的最后一个单词。

Glossary:

choreography：

编排，编舞

savvy：

精明的

gettheupperhand：

处于有利地位

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Next,it’sPresidentBush’sturn.

GeorgeBush,ontheotherhand,thencomesinandrealizeshe’sonthewrongsideofthephoto.

Goodmorning.

Sowhenhereachesintograb,heimmediatelycrowdsPutin.SoinsteadofjustgrabbingandlettingPutingrabhisarm,GeorgeBushputshisshoulderagainstPutinsothatPutin’sleftarmisinnowayinthepositiontograbholdofBush’srightarm.ThenassoonasBushturnsout,heimmediatelygoesforalittletapbutstillonPutin’sbacktoactuallygivehimapush.AndPutin,makingsurenottobeoutdone,putshisrightarmoutandgivesBushalittletapaswell.

We’llcallthatadraw.Evenseated,thebodiesofworldleaderscanspeakvolumes.HereisamasterclassfromFDR.

WithPresidentRooseveltpresiding,thehistoricconferencebegan.

February1945,FranklinD.Roosevelt,JosephStalinandWinstonChurchillfamouslymeetattheYaltaconference.

Bigthree,surroundedbytheChiefsofStaff,withtheirstaffsandcivilianofficials,poseforthec