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中美婚姻观的差异英文论文汇总

中美婚姻观的差异英文论文汇总

OnDifferencesoftheMarriageConceptbetweenChineseandAmerican

Introduction

Tracedbacktoprimitivesociety,thereistheso-calledmarriage.Itisthelawofnaturethatoppositesattractmakesthemammalsliveandmultiply.Therefore,marriageisanormalandnecessarysocialphenomenon.Becauseofthedifferentsocialenvironment,thehumanconceptofmarriageandthemodeofcombinationarealsodifferent.ThecultureofChinaandAmericaisdifferent,especiallytheconceptofmarriage.TheUnitedStatesisacross-culturalsocialgroupanditiscomposedofmanyculturalgroupsofsociety.TheAmericans’mentalityarecharacterizedbyfreedomlove,independentandthefondnessofexploring,adventuringandenterprising;WhileweChinesementalitymainlyisakindofcareandtheconsciousnessofcompassion.Itisbasedonthetwodifferentpointsofviewthatpeople'sunderstandingofmarriageisdifferent.Aboutthemarriage,someonevividlymetaphor:

"fortheChinese,marriageismorelikeacommercialactivity,socalledmanagementmarriage;forAmericans,marriageismorelikeplayinghouse,fulloffreedom.SotherearemuchdifferencesofmarriageconceptbetweenChinaandAmerica.

ChapterOnetheDifferencesReflectedintheMarriageConceptBetweenChineseandAmerican

Ancientandmodern,thehumannaturesarethesame;theyallhavedesires,joys,sorrowsandthepsychologyofloveandhate.Butduetothedifferencesofgeographicalenvironment,historicalbackground,developmentprocessandotheraspects,eachnationandhasitsfeatures.Thedifferencesmayreflectinmanyaspects,suchasthewaysofchoosingmates,weddingceremonyandsoon.

1.1theWaysofChoosingMates

1.1.1theChineseWayofChoosingMates

Sinceancienttimes,“bematchedformarriage”isthewaysofchoosingmatesinChina,whichmeansbothsidesarewell-matchedinsocialandeconomicstatus.TheideaissoingrainedinChina.Although,sincethereformandopening,withthedevelopmentofeconomyandthedeepeningofthecommunicationbetweenChineseandwesternculture,theyoungergenerationisnolongersubjecttotheconstraintsofChina'straditionalthoughtandtheyarefreedomtochoosetheirmates,mostofpeoplecannotgetridoftheconstraintofsocietyandfamily.Iffreelovetochoosethemates,firstofall,theymustbeapprovedbytheirparents.Ifthereisbigdisparitybetweentwofamilyconditions,parentswillnotagree.Iftheman’sfamilyconditionispoor,herparentswillneveragreetoo.Asapopularsaying“Theeconomicbasedeterminesthesuperstructure”.Onlywellmaterialbasecanprovideastablelife.Nomatterinruralorcity,gettingmarriedisalargeexpense.Asweallknow,nowadayspeoplearegettingmoreandmorereality.Houseistheprecondition.Ifonemanhashouseandcar,hemustbeadmiredbymanypeople.Beforelong,thereisahotdebateinmicroblog,whichtalksabouthowmuchitspendswhenamangetsmarried.Theresultshowsitisverycommonthatmenmarriedadaughter-in-lawcanspendhundredsofthousands.Inafamousdatingshow,"ifyouaretheone”,onefemaleguestsaid,"shewouldrathercryinaBMW,thansmileonthebicycle”.Accordingtotheinternet,itreflectsthecurrentstateofmindofmanywomen.

TheTVplaysseries“Thenakedmarriageage"reflectstherealityofmodernmarriage:

firstly,togetparentsrecognition;secondly,arrangementofpregnantplan;thirdly,solvingfinancialdifficulties.Besides,refusingthelureoftheoutsidecityandachievingtheunityontheconceptoflife.Thisisallsortsofproblemsafter80s.

1.1.2theAmericanWayofChoosingMates

ThefreedomtochoosematesisthedominantconceptinAmerica.BecauseAmericanshavethecharacteristicofpersonalities.Forloveandmating,youngAmericansarecompletelybasedontheirfondness.InAmerica,menandwomenwhoinlovecaremoreaboutwhethertheyaresuitable,namelywhetherarefitincharacters.Theydonotcareabouteachother'sfamilybackground,educationlevel,andevenreligion.Parentswillnotinterferewiththeirchildrenbutgivetheirblessing.Marriage-seekingadoftencanbeseeninnewspapersandmagazinesthat,Chinesemenlisttheiraccomplishments:

degree,occupation,economicstatus,andsoon.WhileAmericanmenlististheirhobbiesandcharacteristics.BecausetheAmericanislookingforapartner,onethathassimilartastesandinterests,onethathavemutualaffinity.Americansdonotcaremuchaboutother'sappearance,statureandage.AbeautifulChinesewomanwasmarrytoanAmerican,shejokinglyaskedherhusbandifhefeltalittleproudwhentookherouttomeethisfriends,heaskswhy,whenhewastoldthereason,hebecamemorepuzzled.HesaidthatImarryyounotbecausewhatyouaresocall"goodcondition",butfeelthatwesharecommoninterestandpursueasimilarlife.Healsosaidcertainlythatyouarebeautiful,butwhyothersenvyme?

ThisreflectstheAmericanwayofchoosingmatesaccordingtoonesdispositionandhobby,withoutcaringtoomuchabouteachother'sfamilybackground,appearanceandeconomicconditions.

1.2theAttitudeTowardMarriage

1.2.1theChineseAttitudeTowardMarriage

OneofthemainreasonsresultedindifferentwayofchoosingmatesbetweenChineseandAmericanisthattheyhavesignificantdifferenceontheirattitudetowardmarriage.Chinesepeoplepayattentiontointerpersonalrelationofinterdependence,marriageisabsolutelynotthesimplecombinationoftwoindividuals.Parentshelptheirsonstomarrydaughter-in-law,whichsuperficiallyhopethathissoncansoonorganizehisownfamily,butactuallyitisforthewholefamily.Intheancienttimes,marriageisanimportanteventamongfamilies.Eventherelativesofmanygenerationswouldbeinvolvedin.Undoubtedly,thenewlymarriedcouplewouldworshiptheancestorsassoonastheyenterinthefamily.Recently,apopulartopic"thefeelingofhappiness”,althoughmostpeoplelivingstandardshaveimproved,thefeelingofhappinessfellinstead.Marriagedirectlyaffectthefeelingofhappiness.ChinesepeopletreatmarriagelikeaChinesemanforawoman;theyhavenoequalpointofview.AccordingtoasamplesurveyoftheTianjinwomen'sfederation,81.7%ofpeopletreatthechildrenasanimportantfactortomaintainmarriage.Fromthat,wecandefinitelysaythatthemarriageofChinesepeopleisforothers,asthemarriageismainlyforcarryingonancestralline,servingfortheold,whichisseenastheobligationandresponsibilityofthefamily.Besides,Chinesewomenarethemostpatiencewomenintheworld.Thethinkingof“Marriagewomanlikesthewaterwhichispulingout.”Theythinkaftermarriagetheyalreadyanindividual;andneedtosolveherproblembyherself.Chinesepeoplehavebettertoleranceisalsobecausetheylovetopintheirdesiretoachieveinthenextgeneration.Havingthishope,tobearanunhappyrelationshipinamarriage,isnotabigdealanymore.

Ofcourse,withthedevelopmentofthesociety,moreandmorepeople,especiallyyoungpeoplegraduallygetridofthebondageofsometraditionalconcepts.Theynolongersimplythinkthatmarriageisjustforcarryingonancestralline.Forthem,marriageisnotonlyakindoffamilyobligationbutthepersonalright.What’smore,asamemberofsociety,theyhavetheinexorablerighttoberesponsiblefortheirownlifeandfuture.

1.2.2theAmericansAttitudeTowardsMarriage

Americaisayoungcountry,whichconsistsofmanypartsoftheworldandmanyimmigrants.Untilnowthereisstillalargenumberofimmigrantsenterthecountryeveryyear.Theyhaveastrongpersonalstruggleandcompetitiveconsciousness.ThediversityofAmericancultureandsocialenvironmentmakemanypeopletoacceptsuchlifecreed:

EverymanforhimselfandGodforusall;everymanisthearchitectofhisownfortune.Theythinkmarriageisacombinationoftwoindividuals,aslongasbothsidesreachthelegalagetomarried,thethirdpartyhasnorightstointervene.Americansareindependentandreality,veryfewpeoplemarryforformingafamily.InAmerican’scharacter,equalityplaysasignificantrole.TherealizationofbeingequalityisdeepineveryAmerican’sheart.ComparedwithChinesepeople,theyhavelessabilitytotoleratethepartner.Theyneveroppresstheiraffection.Theyknowitveryclearthatasanindividual,theyhaverightstogainequality,eveninspiritualormarital.Theythinkmorehighlyoftheromanceinmarriage,theyhavehigherexpectationofthequalityoftheirlife.Theywouldnottobearinmarriage.Themainpurposeistofindalastingheterosexuallifepartner,sothattheycansatisfythemselvesinphysical,psychologicalandsocialcommunication.Sotheymustchooseacongenialpeople.Theyconsiderthatmarriageisoneoftheirindividualrightsbutnottheobligation;itisakindofformratherthanaresponsibility.Whenaskedwhatisthepurposeofmarriage,three-quartersofAmericanssaidthatitisthe"mutualhappinessandfulfillment"ofadultsratherthan"birthandraisingchildren”.Theythinkthatloveistheguaranteetomaintainalastingmarriage.

1.3theWeddingCeremony

1.3.1Jollification-ChineseWedding

TraditionalChineseweddingsarealwaysfilledwithredthingstobringauspiciousblessingsandrespects.AndevenweddingcustomsreflecttraditionsfromChinesephilosophy.TheChineseregardthecolorredasthesymbolofhappiness,success,luck,faithandgrowth.Theylikeredverymuch,whichcomesfromworshipoftheSun.IntraditionalChineseweddings,therearedoubleXicharactersinred,redscarves,redflowersandthebridewearsaredcoat.Theweddingceremonyshowsharmonybetweennatureandp