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oEnjoymentandpeaceofmind.Workaholicsoftenclaimtheyworksomuchbecausetheyenjoytheirwork.Butifyoufocusononlyonetypeofenjoyment,youarelikelytomissoutonthehappinessandpeaceofmindthatcomewithamorebalancedlifestyle,withtimetonurturemeaningfulrelationshipsandsavorsimplepleasures.

oPleasingGod.SomepeopleworkveryhardbecausetheyfeelGodhascalledthemtothisworkanditisofeternalsignificance.Ifthatdescribesyou,meditateonthesewordsfromtheBible:

“Cometome,allwhoarewearyandheavy-laden,andIwillgiveyourest.”Thissuggeststhatifyouareworkingtoohard,itisnotbecausethatiswhatGodwantsforyou.Ratheryouareprobablydoingitbecauseoftheexpectationsofotherpeopleoryourowndesires.

oMoney.What'

sthepointofhavingsomuchwealthifyoudon'

thavetimetoenjoyit?

Ifyouaredoingitforthesakeofthoseyoulove,rememberthatthegiftoftimeisworthmorethanthegiftofmoney.

oOnceyouhaveafirmdeterminationtotackleyourworkaddiction,thefollowingstepscanhelp:

2．Evaluatetheimpactofthevarioustypesofworkyoudo.Cutbackonworkwhichgivesrelativelylittlebenefitforthetimeinvested.Foranyitemofworkyoutakeon,askyourself:

“Howmanypeoplewillgetasignificantbenefitfromthis?

Howmanypeopleareeagerlywaitingformetofinishthis?

”Iftheansweris,“Hardlyanyone”thinktwiceorthreetimesaboutwhetheryoushouldreallydoit,orcontinuewithit.

3．Limitthenumberofworkassignmentsyouaccept.Finishoneitemofworkbeforestartinganotherone.Don'

tfeelthatyouhavetofinisheveryitemofworkthatyouhavestarted.Justbecauseyou'

vealreadywastedalotoftimeonapieceofwork,itdoesn'

tmeanyouhavetowastemore.Don'

tthrowgoodtimeafterbad.

oIfyouhavetroubleturningdownassignments,youmaybenefitfromreadingHowtoStopBeingaPeoplePleaserandHowtoBreakthe"

NiceGuy"

Stereotype.

4．Limittheamountoftimeyouspendworking.Setasideonedayoftheweek,suchasSunday,asadayofrest.Bestrictwithyourselfinnotworkingonthatday.Ifthecomputerisyourmainworktool,trynottousethecomputeratallonyourrestday.Setofficehoursforyourself,outsideofwhichyoudon'

tallowyourselftowork.Forexample,noworkbefore8a.m.orafter7p.m.

5．Beflexibleaboutwhenyouaimtofinishapieceofwork.Ifotherpeoplesetdeadlinesforyou,sobeit.Buttrynottosetdeadlinesforyourself.Don'

tdotodaywhatyoucanreasonablyputoffuntiltomorrow.

6．Whenappropriate,limitthequalityofworkyouaimtoachieve.Don'

talwaysaimforsuperhighqualityworkwhenitisn'

tnecessarytoachievethepurposeofthework.AsChestertonsaid,“Ifathingisworthdoing,itisworthdoingbadly.”Especiallyifthatfreesuptimetodosomethingelseevenmoreworthwhile.SeeHowtoControlPerfectionism.

7．Beefficientintheworkyoudo.Ifyoucanbehighlyproductiveinarelativelyshorttime,youcanuseyourachievementtocalmyourworkaholicconscienceandallowyourselftorelaxoutsideyoursetworktime.Ifyoustopbeingaworkaholic,itdoesn'

tmeanyoucan'

tworkhard,workefficiently,andaimforexcellentquality.Butyousetsensiblelimitsonyourworksothatitdoesn'

teatuptherestofyourlife.SeeHowtoWorkSmart,NotHard.

8．Meditateonthis:

Howmanypeoplesayontheirdeathbed,“IwishI'

dspentmoretimeintheoffice.”Makeitahabittoperiodicallyaskyourself,throughouttheday,"

IfIdiedinmysleeptonight,wouldIbehappywiththewayIspentmyday?

"

Assomberasitmaysound,lookingatyourlifefromtheperspectiveofyourdeathbedcanjoltyourprioritiesintoplace.

Tips

Developadailyorweeklyroutineofnon-workactivities,soyoulearntoenjoythingsotherthanwork.Thesecouldincluderegularexercise,prayerormeditation,readingrelaxingorupliftingbooks,listeningtoorplayingmusic,orwatchingfilms.It'

shelpfultohavearegularcommitmenttodoingsomethinginvolvingotherpeople,suchasgoingforawalktogether,playinggames,meetingforcoffee,callingorvisitingfamilymembersorclosefriends,orhavinganightout.Butbewareoftryingtopackintoomanyextraactivities,withtheresultthatyournon-worktimeendsupasbusyasyourworktime.

Ifyouwakeuptooearlyinthemorning,don'

tgetupanddosomethinguseful.Justliequietlyrestingonyourbed.Afteranhour,youmaygobacktosleepagain.Ifnot,youhavestillallowedyourbodytogetneededrest.

Payseriousattentiontoyourspouse/partner/parent/child/closefriendwhentheyurgeyounottoworksohard.

Trainyourselftorespondpositivelytointerruptions.Ifthepurposeofworkistobenefitotherpeople,theneachtimesomeonecomesandinterrupts,youcanregarditasagoldenopportunitytofulfillthatpurposethereandthen

Warnings

Bewareoftimemanagementgurus专家.Althoughtheygivehelpfuladviceaboutworkingefficiently,theirtechniquesoftenencouragethetendencytocraminasmuchusefulworkintoadayaspossible.Whereasasarecoveringworkaholic,youraimistoreduceyourwork,notincreaseit.

Waystoavoidworkaholism

ReaderCarolynrecentlyasked,“Howcananachievement-motivatedworkaholiclearntobackoff,relax,de-stress,andfeelgoodaboutdoingit?

Iamtoodriven!

”

Thisisacommonproblem,andonethathasseveralpartsweshouldlookatseparately:

1.Beingachievement-motivated.

2.Beingaworkaholic.

3.Learningtorelaxandde-stress.

4.Learningtofeelgoodaboutit.

Let’sstartbysayingthatthere’snothinginherentlywrongwithwork—itcanbefun,exciting,fulfilling,rewarding.IlovemyworkinawayIneverdidformostofmylife,untilafewyearsago,andworkisonethingIlivefor,thatIjumpoutofbedeachmorningtodo.

However,thereaderrecognizesthatthere’smoretolifethanwork,andthatrelaxingisimportant,andthatstressisamajorproblem.Whenworktakesoveryourlifeandcausesproblems—withyourrelationships,health,happiness—thenit’stimetostepbackandfigureoutabetterway.

Eachpersonneedstofigureoutwhatthatbetterwayis,andIcan’tofferonesolutiontofitall,butherearesomethoughtsonthefourpartsoftheproblemoutlinedabove.

1.Stopbeingachievement-motivated.

There’snothingwrongwithachievementsorbeingproudofthem—it’sanaturalthingtofeelgoodaboutwhatyou’veaccomplished.Butitshouldn’tbetheonlythingthatmotivatesyou.

What’sabettermotivation?

Doingthingsyoulove,creatingsomethinggreat,beingwithpeopleyoulove,doingthingsthatareexciting.

Ifyourworkissomethingyoulove,somethingthatexcitesyou,that’sgreat.You’rebetteroffthanmost,actually.Butthere’sgottabemore—whatelsegivesyoujoy?

Doyouhavehobbiesyoulove?

Doyoulikedoinganythingoutdoors?

Doyouhavefamilymembersorfriendsyoulove?

Figureout4-5thingsthattrulymakeyouhappyandexciteyou—atleastoneofthemshouldbeapersonorpersons,andoneoftheothersmustbenon-work-related.Youneedsomebalanceinyourlife.

Getexcitedaboutthesethings,andbemotivatedbyyourloveforthem.Ifyouhaveaspouseandkids,forexample,letyourlifebemotivatedwiththethoughtofspendingtimewiththem.

2.Stopbeingaworkaholic.

What’saworkaholic?

Someonewhooverdoeswork—longhours,can’tstopworkingevenatnight,obsessedwithwork,tothedetrimentofotherpartsofhislife.

Ifthisisyou,youmightneedhelp—beyondthehelpIcangiveyouinanarticle.Youmightneedtoreachouttofamilymembers,toatherapist,toagroup（onlineoroff）.There’snoshameinthis—sometimesthisiswhat’sneededtoconqueranaddiction.

Butifyouaren’tsofargone,youmightbeabletoimplementafewstepstostopfromworkingsomuch.

First,stopworkingafteracertaintime—say5or6p.m.Makethisahardline:

tellyourofficenottocallyouafterthistime,anddon’ttakeyourworkhome.Oncetheclockhitsthistime,you’redonefortheday.Therestcanwaituntiltomorrow.

Second,don’tcheckemailordootherwork-relatedcommunicationafterthispoint.TurnofftheBlackberry（黑莓手机）oriPhone,eventurnoffthecomputerathome,anddosomethingelse.Alsodon’ttakeyourmobiledevicestonon-workeventssuchasvacations,yourkids’activities,familypartiesandsoforth.

Third,scheduleotherthingsintoyourlife.Exercisewithafriendafterwork.Makedateswithyourpartner.Takeyourkidtosoccerpractice.Setasidetimeforabelovedhobby.Thesethingswillstopyoufromworking.

Thisshouldbegoodtostartyouout.Theotherstepsarebelow,bu