桑德伯格在加州大学伯克利分校毕业典礼上的演讲Word文档格式.docx

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5月14日，Facebook首席运营官、《向前一步》作者雪莉?

桑德伯格（SherylSandberg）在加州大学伯克利分校（UCBerkeley）2016毕业典礼上发表演讲。

在丈夫离世一年之际，她讲到了痛失爱人的痛苦以及应付挫折的韧性。

丈夫去世后，她在“向前一步”方面有些新思考，近来也引发不少讨论。

UNIVERSITYOFCALIFORNIA,BERKELEY2016CommencementAddress

Thankyou,Marie.Andthankyouesteemedmembersofthefaculty,proudparents,devotedfriends,squirmingsiblings.

Congratulationstoallofyou…andespeciallytothemagnificentBerkeleygraduatingclassof2016!

ItisaprivilegetobehereatBerkeley,whichhasproducedsomanyNobelPrizewinners,TuringAwardwinners,astronauts,membersofCongress,Olympicgoldmedalists….andthat’sjustthewomen!

Berkeleyhasalwaysbeenaheadofthetimes.Inthe1960s,youledtheFreeSpeechMovement.Backinthosedays,peopleusedtosaythatwithallthelonghair,howdoweeventelltheboysfromthegirls?

Wenowknowtheanswer:

manbuns.

Earlyon,Berkeleyopeneditsdoorstotheentirepopulation.Whenthiscampusopenedin1873,theclassincluded167menand222women.Ittookmyalmamateranotherninetyyearstoawardasingledegreetoasinglewoman.

OneofthewomenwhocamehereinsearchofopportunitywasRosalindNuss.RozgrewupscrubbingfloorsintheBrooklynboardinghousewhereshelived.Shewaspulledoutofhighschoolbyherparentstohelpsupporttheirfamily.Oneofherteachersinsistedthatherparentsputherbackintoschool—andin1937,shesatwhereyouaresittingtodayandreceivedaBerkeleydegree.Rozwasmygrandmother.ShewasahugeinspirationtomeandI’msogratefulthatBerkeleyrecognizedherpotential.Iwanttotakeamomenttoofferaspecialcongratulationstothemanyheretodaywhoarethefirstgenerationintheirfamiliestograduatefromcollege.Whataremarkableachievement.

Todayisadayofcelebration.Adaytocelebrateallthehardworkthatgotyoutothismoment.

Todayisadayofthanks.Adaytothankthosewhohelpedyougethere—nurturedyou,taughtyou,cheeredyouon,anddriedyourtears.

Oratleasttheoneswhodidn’tdrawonyouwithaSharpiewhenyoufellasleepataparty.

Todayisadayofreflection.Becausetodaymarkstheendofoneeraofyourlifeandthebeginningofsomethingnew.

Acommencementaddressismeanttobeadancebetweenyouthandwisdom.Youhavetheyouth.Someonecomesintobethevoiceofwisdom—that’ssupposedtobeme.IstanduphereandtellyouallthethingsIhavelearnedinlife,youthrowyourcapintheair,youletyourfamilytakeamillionphotos–don’tforgettopostthemonInstagram—andeveryonegoeshomehappy.

Todaywillbeabitdifferent.Wewillstilldothecapsandyoustillhavetodothephotos.ButIamnotheretotellyouallthethingsI’velearnedinlife.TodayIwilltrytotellyouwhatIlearnedindeath.

Ihaveneverspokenpubliclyaboutthisbefore.It’shard.ButIwilldomyverybestnottoblowmynoseonthisbeautifulBerkeleyrobe.

Oneyearandthirteendaysago,Ilostmyhusband,Dave.Hisdeathwassuddenandunexpected.Wewereatafriend’sfiftiethbirthdaypartyinMexico.Itookanap.Davewenttoworkout.Whatfollowedwastheunthinkable—walkingintoagymtofindhimlyingonthefloor.Flyinghometotellmychildrenthattheirfatherwasgone.Watchinghiscasketbeingloweredintotheground.

Formanymonthsafterward,andatmanytimessince,Iwasswallowedupinthedeepfogofgrief—whatIthinkofasthevoid—anemptinessthatfillsyourheart,yourlungs,constrictsyourabilitytothinkoreventobreathe.

Dave’sdeathchangedmeinveryprofoundways.Ilearnedaboutthedepthsofsadnessandthebrutalityofloss.ButIalsolearnedthatwhenlifesucksyouunder,youcankickagainstthebottom,breakthesurface,andbreatheagain.Ilearnedthatinthefaceofthevoid—orinthefaceofanychallenge—youcanchoosejoyandmeaning.

I’msharingthiswithyouinthehopesthattoday,asyoutakethenextstepinyourlife,youcanlearnthelessonsthatIonlylearnedindeath.Lessonsabouthope,strength,andthelightwithinusthatwillnotbeextinguished.

EveryonewhohasmadeitthroughCalhasalreadyexperiencedsomedisappointment.YouwantedanAbutyougotaB.OK,let’sbehonest—yougotanA-butyou’restillmad.YouappliedforaninternshipatFacebook,butyouonlygotonefromGoogle.Shewastheloveofyourlife…butthensheswipedleft.

GameofThronestheshowhasdivergedwaytoomuchfromthebooks—andyoubotheredtoreadallfourthousandthreehundredandfifty-twopages.

Youwillalmostcertainlyfacemoreanddeeperadversity.There’slossofopportunity:

thejobthatdoesn’tworkout,theillnessoraccidentthatchangeseverythinginaninstant.There’slossofdignity:

thesharpstingofprejudicewhenithappens.There’slossoflove:

thebrokenrelationshipsthatcan’tbefixed.Andsometimesther