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mgoingtocallyouaresearcher,Ithink, 

butI'

mafraidifIcallyouaresearcher,noonewillcome, 

becausethey'

llthinkyou'

reboringandirrelevant."

（Laughter）AndIwaslike,"

Okay."

ButthethingIlikedaboutyourtalk 

isyou'

reastoryteller. 

SoIthinkwhatI'

lldoisjustcallyouastoryteller."

Andofcourse,theacademic,insecurepartofme 

waslike,"

You'

regoingtocallmeawhat?

mgoingtocallyouastoryteller."

AndIwaslike,"

Whynotmagicpixie?

（Laughter） 

Iwaslike,"

Letmethinkaboutthisforasecond."

Itriedtocalldeeponmycourage. 

AndIthought,youknow,Iamastoryteller. 

maqualitativeresearcher. 

Icollectstories;

that'

swhatIdo. 

Andmaybestoriesarejustdatawithasoul. 

AndmaybeI'

mjustastoryteller. 

AndsoIsaid,"

Youknowwhat?

Whydon'

tyoujustsayI'

maresearcher-storyteller."

Andshewent,"

Haha.There'

snosuchthing."

SoI'

maresearcher-storyteller, 

mgoingtotalktoyoutoday-- 

we'

retalkingaboutexpandingperception-- 

andsoIwanttotalktoyouandtellsomestories 

aboutapieceofmyresearch 

thatfundamentallyexpandedmyperception 

andreallyactuallychangedthewaythatIliveandlove 

andworkandparent.

Andthisiswheremystorystarts. 

WhenIwasayoungresearcher,doctoralstudent, 

myfirstyearIhadaresearchprofessor 

whosaidtous, 

Here'

sthething, 

ifyoucannotmeasureit,itdoesnotexist."

AndIthoughthewasjustsweet-talkingme. 

Really?

andhewaslike,"

Absolutely."

Andsoyouhavetounderstand 

thatIhaveabachelor'

sinsocialwork,amaster'

sinsocialwork, 

andIwasgettingmyPh.D.insocialwork, 

somyentireacademiccareer 

wassurroundedbypeople 

whokindofbelieved 

inthe"

life'

smessy,loveit."

AndI'

mmoreofthe,"

smessy, 

cleanitup,organizeit 

andputitintoabentobox."

AndsotothinkthatIhadfoundmyway, 

tofoundacareerthattakesme-- 

really,oneofthebigsayingsinsocialwork 

is,"

Leanintothediscomfortofthework."

mlike,knockdiscomfortupsidethehead 

andmoveitoverandgetallA'

s. 

Thatwasmymantra. 

SoIwasveryexcitedaboutthis. 

AndsoIthought,youknowwhat,thisisthecareerforme, 

becauseIaminterestedinsomemessytopics. 

ButIwanttobeabletomakethemnotmessy. 

Iwanttounderstandthem. 

Iwanttohackintothesethings 

Iknowareimportant 

andlaythecodeoutforeveryonetosee.

SowhereIstartedwaswithconnection. 

Because,bythetimeyou'

reasocialworkerfor10years, 

whatyourealize 

isthatconnectioniswhywe'

rehere. 

It'

swhatgivespurposeandmeaningtoourlives. 

Thisiswhatit'

sallabout. 

Itdoesn'

tmatterwhetheryoutalktopeoplewhoworkinsocialjusticeandmentalhealthandabuseandneglect, 

whatweknowisthatconnection, 

theabilitytofeelconnected,is-- 

neurobiologicallythat'

showwe'

rewired-- 

it'

swhywe'

SoIthought,youknowwhat,I'

mgoingtostartwithconnection. 

Well,youknowthatsituation 

whereyougetanevaluationfromyourboss, 

andshetellsyou37thingsyoudoreallyawesome, 

andonething--an"

opportunityforgrowth?

Andallyoucanthinkaboutisthatopportunityforgrowth,right?

Well,apparentlythisisthewaymyworkwentaswell, 

because,whenyouaskpeopleaboutlove, 

theytellyouaboutheartbreak. 

Whenyouaskpeopleaboutbelonging, 

they'

lltellyoutheirmostexcruciatingexperiences 

ofbeingexcluded. 

Andwhenyouaskpeopleaboutconnection, 

thestoriestheytoldmewereaboutdisconnection.

Soveryquickly--reallyaboutsixweeksintothisresearch-- 

Iranintothisunnamedthing 

thatabsolutelyunraveledconnection 

inawaythatIdidn'

tunderstandorhadneverseen. 

AndsoIpulledbackoutoftheresearch 

andthought,Ineedtofigureoutwhatthisis. 

Anditturnedouttobeshame. 

Andshameisreallyeasilyunderstood 

asthefearofdisconnection:

Istheresomethingaboutme 

that,ifotherpeopleknowitorseeit, 

thatIwon'

tbeworthyofconnection?

ThethingsIcantellyouaboutit:

suniversal;

weallhaveit. 

Theonlypeoplewhodon'

texperienceshame 

havenocapacityforhumanempathyorconnection. 

Noonewantstotalkaboutit, 

andthelessyoutalkaboutitthemoreyouhaveit. 

Whatunderpinnedthisshame, 

this"

mnotgoodenough,"

-- 

whichweallknowthatfeeling:

mnotblankenough.I'

mnotthinenough, 

richenough,beautifulenough,smartenough, 

promotedenough."

Thethingthatunderpinnedthis 

wasexcruciatingvulnerability, 

thisideaof, 

inorderforconnectiont