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TheComparisonofFamilyEducationbetweenChinaandWesterncountries新

THECOMRERISIONOFFAMILYEDUCATIONBETWEENCHINAANDWESTERNCOUNTRIES

By

WangXiulan

Underthesupervisionof

LiYi

AThesisSubmittedto

ForeignLanguagesDepartment

inPartialFulfillmentoftheRequirements

fortheDegreeofBachelorofArts

QinghaiNormalUniversity

May，2012

Acknowledgments

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Abstract

Thefamilyeducationisrelatedtoaperson’slife.Nowadays,socialdevelopmentneedshighqualifiedtalentsandgoodfamilyeducationisthekeypointtothehighqualifiedtalents.Becauseofthedifferentsocialsystems,culturebackgrounds,educationaimsandsoon,familyeducationforthechildrenaredifferentinmanyaspectsbetweenChinaandAmerica.Intheeducationprojectsoftrainingnewcenturytalentsintheworld,allthecountriesputfamilyeducationinaveryimportantposition.Althoughfamilyeducationnowattractssocialcircles’attention,especiallyeducationalcircles’attention,thefamilyeducationbetweenChineseandwesterncountriesstillhadalotofproblems.Thispaperpointsoutthemainproblemsintoday’sChinesefamilyeducationandwesterncountries.Bycomparing,thispaperpointsoutthedifferentfamilyeducationbetweenChinaandAmerica（mainlyonaspectsoffamilyeducation’scontents,aimsandmethods）.Familyeducationaimsfortrainingthechildrenintowhatkindofpersonthattheeducationcontentsandmethodschooseaccordingtotheaims.Finally,thepaperputsforwardsomemethodsthatsuitChinesefamilyeducation.

KeyWords:

familyeducation,comparison,American,Chinese

摘要

家庭教育是关系到一个人的生活。

如今，社会发展需要的高素质人才和良好的家庭教育是高素质人才的关键点。

由于不同的社会制度，文化背景，教育目标等，为孩子的家庭教育是在中国和美国之间的许多方面有所不同。

所有的国家在世界上的新世纪人才的培训教育项目，把家庭教育中一个非常重要的地位。

虽然现在家庭教育，吸引了社会各界的关注，特别是教育界的重视，中国和西方的家庭教育，仍然有很多问题。

本文指出，在今天的中国和西方家庭教育存在的主要问题。

通过比较，本文指出，中国和美国（主要是家庭教育的内容，目标和方法等方面）之间的不同的家庭教育。

为孩子培养成什么样的人，教育内容和方法的目标选择根据家庭教育的目的。

最后，提出了适合中国家庭教育的一些方法。

关键词:

家庭教育;比较;美国;中国

TableofContents

Acknowledgementsi

Abstractii

摘要iii

TableofContentsiv

I.Introduction1

II.MainProblemsinToday’sChineseFamilyEducation1

A.TheMistakeofParentinConceptionofValue2

B.TheExcessiveExpectationofChildren’sEducation2

C.RestrictTypeofFamilyEducation3

D.CarelessofFamilyEducation3

III.MainProblemsinToday’sAmericanFamilyEducation4

A.IndulgentTypeofFamilyEducation4

B.lackofCommunicationEachOther4

C.PayTooMuchAttentiononSharing5

IV.TheComparisonofTheFamilyEducation’sProcessbetweenChinaandAmerica5

A.TheComparisonoftheContentsofFamilyEducation5

B.TheComparisonoftheAimsofFamilyEducation7

C.TheComparisonoftheMethodsofFamilyEducation8

1.AmericanParentsAdvocatetheOpenEducation.......................................................................8

2.ChineseParentsAdvocatetheCloseEducation………………………………………………..9

V.TheComparisonoftheFamilyEducation’sResultsbetweenChinaandAmerica10

VI.Conclusion11

References12

I.Introduction

Fromancienttimestomoderntimes,familyeducationhasbeenplayinganimportantroleinthenationaleducationalcause.Thefamilyeducation,theschooleducationandthesocialeducationarethethreepartsofeducation.Theyareindispensable.

Atpresent,familyeducationmaintainsagoodmomentumofgrowthinChina.ItbecomesmoreandmoreimportanttoChinesefamilies.Nevertheless,therearestillalotofproblemsinfamilyeducation,thesystemisstillweak.Incurrentfamilyeducation,thereisstillmistakeofthemethod.Itmaybesummarizedas“threeexcess”and“oneexcessiveheight”:

thatis,someparentsareexcessivelyconcernedwiththechildren,excessivelyrestrainandpayattentiontothechildrenaffairs,excessivelycriticizethechildren,andsomethingexcessiveisexpectedofthechildren.Theseproblemsareinneedofsolution.Weallknow,ChinaisasocialistcountryandmostWesterncountriesbelongtocapitalistcountries.And,theyhavedifferenthistoryandcultures.ChinaadvocatesConfucianismandthewesterncountriesadvocatetherevivalofliteratureandart.Butthemostimportantpointisthattheirattitudeoffamilyeducationisalsodifferent.Inchina'straditionalfamily,parentsplayaleadingrolewhilewesterncountriesmainlyemphasizestruggle,equality,democracyandhumanrights.

Inmodernsociety,familyeducationcontentsbecomevarious;itincludesnotonlyfamilylifeeducation,familyrelationeducation,familymoralityeducation,butalsochildreneducation,parents’educationandsoon.Inthispaper,Iwilldiscusstheeducationofthechildren.

II.MainProblemsinToday’sChineseFamilyEducation

A.TheMistakeofParentinConceptionofValue

Achild’sconceptionofmoralityandvaluelearnsfromadult,especiallyfromhisparents.Soparentsaffectthechild’smindgreatly.“（i）Ifparentsalwayssaysomepositiveview,suchas,‘Moneymakesthemarego’or‘Moneytalks.’”[1]P23thechildmayformaconceptionthatpeopleliveinordertomakemoneywhichisawrongviewofvalue.（ii）Parentssometimesendorsesomewrongbehavior;thechildmayformanideathatthosewrongbehaviorsareright.

Chineseparentswouldliketoprovideeverythingwhattheycanfortheirchildrenintheprocessofchildren’sgrowth.Inshort,theywouldliketosacrificeanythingiftheirchildrencanlivebetterwiththeirhelp.Therefore,intheprocessofchildren’sgrowth,themostimportantthingtheparentsconcerningistodevelopingtheirchildren’sintellect,exceptforcaringchildren’sdailylife.Inordertomaketheirchildrenhaveagoodperformanceinstudy,becomeoutstanding,orevenbecomeafamouspersoninthefuture,theywouldnotletchildrendoanythingexceptstudying.

B.TheExcessiveExpectationofChildren’sEducation

Chineseparentsproduceagreatimpactonchildren’sfuture.WhenababyborninaChinesefamily,hisparentsoftendesignafutureforhim,nomatterthechildlikesitornot.Thatistosay,Chineseparentswouldenforcetheirchildrenlivingunderthedesignedfutureinsteadofconsideringchildren’sfeelingsandabilities.“JustasPhierbahasays‘Parents’biggestfalseistheystandintheirpositionandinterferechildren’snaturedevelopment.’”[2]P24inChina,wecanfindthefollowingsceneseasily:

Parentstaketheirchildrentokindsoflessonsafterschool.Childrenwouldbepunishediftheydidn’tgetagoodmarkinexaminations.

ParentsinChinaonlycareaboutwhetherthechildrenhaveapromisingfuture,agoodjob,agoodlifeornot.Basedontheseexpectations,themajorityofparentsfeelthattheirresponsibilityfortheirchildrenistocreateasgoodconditionsaspossibletheycansothatthechildrenwillnotworryaboutanythinginthefuture.

C.RestrictTypeofFamilyEducation

InsomeChinesefamilies,parentsrequiretheirchildrenshoulddowhatevertheywanttheirchildrendo.Ifthechildrendidn’tdoastheirorder,theywillscoldthechildren,evenworse,theywillpunishthechildren.“Aquestionnaireof300studentsinamiddleschoolshows:

Ninetypercentofthestudentshadbeenpunished!

”[3]P24.Theycan’tbearthatchildrendidn’tobeythem.Theyrestricttheirchildren.Theychecktheirchildren’scellphonewhenchildrenforgetitathome.

Theyprotecttheirchildrenexcessivelyinsocialactivities.Manyparentsfearthattheirchildrenwillfacealotofdifficultiesorbecomebadboysinthesociety;theyalwaysreducetheirchildren’schancestocontactwithsocietyordonotletthemgototheoutsidealone.Oncethereisadisputeoranunpleasantthinghappenedbetweentheirchildren,theyusuallydonotliketolearnthetruthbutonlyaccuseothers.Thatmakesthedisputeintoaseriouslyconflictoradisputeamongparents.Theseparentsalwaysareproudofwhattheydidfortheirchildren,becausetheythinkthattheyhavesafeguardedtheinterestsoftheirchildren.But,infact,theydonotrealizedthatwhattheydidfortheirkidshaveanegativeeffectonthechildren’sgrowthbecausethesebehaviorshavedeprivedoftheirchildren’srightandopportunitiestoexperiencethelifewhattheyshouldlearnintheearlyage.Andtheymaybehavenochancestolearnhowtodistinguishbetweenrightandwrong.

D.CarelessofFamilyEducation

Itusuallyreferstoparentswholackofresponsibilitytotakecareoftheirchildren.Youngparentsareworkinghardtomakemoney.Theydon’thaveenoughtimetogetalongwiththeirchildren.Accordingtoasurvey,thechildrenwhoseparentsareindividualtaxidriverorlaborcontractorbreakthelaweasily.Themainreasonistheparentsmentionedabove,whohavefewtimeathome.Eventheyareathome,theyseldomputtheirheartsontheirchildren.Theysimplythinkiftheyprovideagoodlivingconditionfortheirchildren,theywillbecomeatalent.Thistypeoffamilyeducationisdangerous.Children’sthoughtisnotmatureenoughtojudgeallthethingsinarightway.Itiseasyforchildrentochoosethewrongway.

III.MainProblemsinToday’sAmericanFamilyEducation

A.IndulgentTypeofFamilyEducation

DifferentfromChinesefamilyeducation,Americ