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NineThingsSuccessfulPeopleDoDifferently

Whyhaveyoubeensosuccessfulinreachingsomeofyourgoals,butnotothers?

Ifyouaren'tsure,youarefarfromaloneinyourconfusion.Itturnsoutthatevenbrilliant,highlyaccomplishedpeopleareprettylousywhenitcomestounderstandingwhytheysucceedorfail.Theintuitiveanswer—thatyouarebornpredisposedtocertaintalentsandlackinginothers—isreallyjustonesmallpieceofthepuzzle.Infact,decadesofresearchonachievementsuggeststhatsuccessfulpeoplenotsimplybecauseofwhotheyare,butmoreoftenbecauseof.

1..Whenyousetyourselfagoal,trytobeasspecificaspossible."Lose5pounds"isabettergoalthan"losesomeweight,"becauseitgivesyouaclearideaofwhatsuccesslookslike.Knowingexactlywhatyouwanttoachievekeepsyoumotivateduntilyougetthere.Also,thinkaboutthespecificactionsthatneedtobetakentoreachyourgoal.Justpromisingyou'll"eatless"or"sleepmore"istoovague—beclearandprecise."I'llbeinbedby10pmonweeknights"leavesnoroomfordoubtaboutwhatyouneedtodo,andwhetherornotyou'veactuallydoneit.2.Seizethemomenttoactonyourgoals.Givenhowbusymostofusare,andhowmanygoalswearejugglingatonce,it'snotsurprisingthatweroutinelymissopportunitiestoactonagoalbecausewesimplyfailtonoticethem.Didyoureallyhavenotimetoworkouttoday?

Nochanceatanypointtoreturnthatphonecall?

Achievingyourgoalmeansgrabbingholdoftheseopportunitiesbeforetheyslipthroughyourfingers.

Toseizethemoment,,inadvance.Again,beasspecificaspossible.,"Ifit'sMonday,Wednesday,orFriday,I'llworkoutfor30minutesbeforework."）Studiesshowthatthiskindofplanningwillhelpyourbraintodetectandseizetheopportunitywhenitarises,increasingyourchancesofsuccessbyroughly300%.

3.Knowexactlyhowfaryouhavelefttogo.Achievinganygoalalsorequireshonestandregularmonitoringofyourprogress—ifnotbyothers,thenbyyouyourself.Ifyoudon'tknowhowwellyouaredoing,youcan'tadjustyourbehaviororyourstrategiesaccordingly.Checkyourprogressfrequently—weekly,orevendaily,dependingonthegoal.4.Bearealisticoptimist.Whenyouaresettingagoal,byallmeansengageinlotsofpositivethinkingabouthowlikelyyouaretoachieveit.Believinginyourabilitytosucceedisenormouslyhelpfulforcreatingandsustainingyourmotivation.Butwhateveryoudo,don'tunderestimatehowdifficultitwillbetoreachyourgoal.Mostgoalsworthachievingrequiretime,planning,effort,andpersistence.Studiesshowthatthinkingthingswillcometoyoueasilyandeffortlesslyleavesyouill-preparedforthejourneyahead,andsignificantlyincreasestheoddsoffailure.5.Focusongettingbetter,ratherthanbeinggood.Believingyouhavetheabilitytoreachyourgoalsisimportant,butsoisbelievingyoucangettheability.Manyofusbelievethatourintelligence,ourpersonality,andourphysicalaptitudesarefixed—thatnomatterwhatwedo,wewon'timprove.Asaresult,wefocusongoalsthatareallaboutprovingourselves,ratherthandevelopingandacquiringnewskills.

Fortunately,decadesofresearchsuggestthatthebeliefinfixedabilityiscompletelywrong—abilitiesofallkindsareprofoundlymalleable.Embracingthefactthatyoucanchangewillallowyoutomakebetterchoices,andreachyourfullestpotential.Peoplewhosegoalsareaboutgettingbetter,ratherthanbeinggood,takedifficultyinstride,andappreciatethejourneyasmuchasthedestination.6.Havegrit.Gritisawillingnesstocommittolong-termgoals,andtopersistinthefaceofdifficulty.Studiesshowthatgrittypeopleobtainmoreeducationintheirlifetime,andearnhighercollegeGPAs.GritpredictswhichcadetswillstickouttheirfirstgruelingyearatWestPoint.Infact,gritevenpredictswhichroundcontestantswillmakeittoattheScrippsNationalSpellingBee.

Thegoodnewsis,ifyouaren'tparticularlygrittynow,thereissomethingyoucandoaboutit.Peoplewholackgritmoreoftenthannotbelievethattheyjustdon'thavetheinnateabilitiessuccessfulpeoplehave.Ifthatdescribesyourownthinking....well,there'snowaytoputthisnicely:

youarewrong.AsImentionedearlier,effort,planning,persistence,andgoodstrategiesarewhatitreallytakestosucceed.Embracingthisknowledgewillnotonlyhelpyouseeyourselfandyourgoalsmoreaccurately,butalsodowondersforyourgrit.

7.Buildyourwillpowermuscle.Yourself-control"muscle"isjustliketheothermusclesinyourbody—whenitdoesn'tgetmuchexercise,itbecomesweakerovertime.Butwhenyougiveitregularworkoutsbyputtingittogooduse,itwillgrowstrongerandstronger,andbetterabletohelpyousuccess