TED英语演讲稿 二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译.docx

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TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译

TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴（附翻译）

wheniwasinmy20s,isawmyveryfirstpsychotherapyclient.iwasaph.d.studentinclinicalpsychologyatberkeley.shewasa26-year-oldwonnamedalex.nowalexwalkedintoherfirstsessionwearingjeansandabigslouchytop,andshedroppedontothecouchinmyoffiandkickedoffherflatsandtoldmeshewastheretotalkaboutguyproblems.nowwheniheardthis,iwassorelieved.myclasstegotanarsonistforherfirstclient.（laughter）andigotatwentysomethingwhowantedtotalkaboutboys.thisithoughticouldhandle.

butididn'thandleit.withthefunnystoriesthatalexwouldbringtosession,itwaseasyformejusttonodmyheadwhilewekickedthecandowntheroad."thirty'sthenew20,"alexwouldsay,andasfarasicould,shewasright.workhappenedlater,rriagehappenedlater,kidshappenedlater,evendeathhappenedlater.twentysomethingslikealexandihadnothingbuttime.

butbeforelong,mysupervisorpushedmetopushalexaboutherlovelife.ipushedback.

isaid,"sure,she'sdatingdown,she'ssleepingwithaknucklehead,butit'snotlikeshe'sgoingtorrytheguy."

andthenmysupervisorsaid,"notyet,butshemightrrythenextone.besides,thebesttimetoworkonalex'srriageisbeforeshehasone."

that'swhatpsychologistscallan"aha!

"moment.thatwasthemomentirealized,30isnotthenew20.yes,peoplesettledownlaterthantheyusedto,butthatdidn'tkealex's20sadevelopmentaldowntime.thatdealex's20sadevelopmentalsweetspot,andweweresittingthereblowingit.thatwaswhenirealizedthatthissortofbenignneglectwasarealproblem,andithadrealconsequens,notjustforalexandherlovelifebutforthecareersandthefamiliesandthefuturesoftwentysomethingseverywhere.

thereare50milliontwentysomethingsintheunitedstatesrightnow.we'retalkingabout15perntofthepopulation,or100perntifyouconsiderthatnoone'sgettingthroughhoodwithoutgoingthroughtheir20sfirst.

raiseyourhandifyou'reinyour20s.ireallywanttoseesometwentysomethingshere.oh,yay!

y'all'sawesome.ifyouworkwithtwentysomethings,youloveatwentysomething,you'relosingsleepovertwentysomethings,iwanttosee—okay.awesome,twentysomethingsreallytter.

soispecializeintwentysomethingsbecauseibelievethateverysingleoneofthose50milliontwentysomethingsdeservestoknowwhatpsychologists,sociologists,neurologistsandfertilityspecialistsalreadyknow:

thatclaimingyour20sisoneofthest,yetmosttransfortive,thingsyoucandoforwork,forlove,foryourhappiness,ybeevenfortheworld.

thisisnotmyopinion.thesearethefacts.weknowthat80perntoflife'smostdefiningmomentstakeplabyage35.thatmeansthateightoutof10ofthedecisionsandexperiensand"aha!

"momentsthatkeyourlifewhatitiswillhavehappenedbyyourmid-30s.peoplewhoareover40,don'tpanic.thiscrowdisgoingtobefine,ithink.weknowthatthefirst10yearsofacareerhasanexponentialimpactonhowmuchmoneyyou'regoingtoearn.weknowthatmorethanhalfofamericansarerriedorarelivingwithordatingtheirfuturepartnerby30.weknowthatthebraincapsoffitssecondandlastgrowthspurtinyour20sasitrewiresitselfforhood,whichmeansthatwhateveritisyouwanttochangeaboutyourself,nowisthetimetochangeit.weknowthatpersonalitychangesmoreduringyour20sthanatanyothertimeinlife,andweknowthatfelefertilitypeaksatage28,andthingsgettrickyafterage35.soyour20sarethetimetoeducateyourselfaboutyourbodyandyouroptions.

sowhenwethinkaboutchilddevelopment,weallknowthatthefirstfiveyearsareacriticalperiodforlanguageandattachmentinthebrain.it'satimewhenyourordinary,day-to-daylifehasaninordinateimpactonwhoyouwillbee.butwhatwehearlessaboutisthatthere'ssuchathingasdevelopment,andour20sarethatcriticalperiodofdevelopment.

butthisisn'twhattwentysomethingsarehearing.newspaperstalkaboutthechangingtimetableofhood.researcherscallthe20sanextendedadolesn.journalistscoinsillynicknamesfortwentysomethingslike"twixters"and"kidults."it'strue.asaculture,wehavetrivializedwhatisactuallythedefiningdecadeofhood.

leonardbernsteinsaidthattoachievegreatthings,youneedaplanandnotquiteenoughtime.isn'tthattrue?

sowhatdoyouthinkhappenswhenyoupatatwentysomethingontheheadandyousay,"youhave10extrayearstostartyourlife"?

nothinghappens.youhaverobbedthatpersonofhisurgencyandambition,andabsolutelynothinghappens.

andtheneveryday,srt,interestingtwentysomethingslikeyouorlikeyoursonsanddaughterseintomyoffiandsaythingslikethis:

"iknowmyboyfriend'snogoodfor