TED英语演讲稿 二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译.docx

1、TED英语演讲稿 二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴附翻译TED英语演讲稿 二十几岁不可挥霍的光阴（附翻译） when i was in my 20s, i saw my very first psychotherapy client. i was a ph.d. student in clinical psychology at berkeley. she was a 26-year-old wo n named alex. now alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she droppe

2、d onto the couch in my offi and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. now when i heard this, i was so relieved. my class te got an arsonist for her first client. (laughter) and i got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys. this i thought i could handle.

3、but i didnt handle it. with the funny stories that alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. thirtys the new 20, alex would say, and as far as i could , she was right. work happened later, rriage happened later, kids happened later, ev

4、en death happened later. twentysomethings like alex and i had nothing but time. but before long, my supervisor pushed me to push alex about her love life. i pushed back. i said, sure, shes dating down, shes sleeping with a knucklehead, but its not like shes going to rry the guy. and then my supervis

5、or said, not yet, but she might rry the next one. besides, the best time to work on alexs rriage is before she has one. thats what psychologists call an aha! moment. that was the moment i realized, 30 is not the new 20. yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didnt ke alexs 20s a d

6、evelopmental downtime. that de alexs 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it. that was when i realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequen s, not just for alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futur

7、es of twentysomethings everywhere. there are 50 million twentysomethings in the united states right now. were talking about 15 per nt of the population, or 100 per nt if you consider that no ones getting through hood without going through their 20s first. raise your hand if youre in your 20s. i real

8、ly want to see some twentysomethings here. oh, yay! yalls awesome. if you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, youre losing sleep over twentysomethings, i want to see okay. awesome, twentysomethings really tter. so i specialize in twentysomethings because i believe that every sing

9、le one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the st, yet most transfor tive, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, ybe even for the world. this

10、is not my opinion. these are the facts. we know that 80 per nt of lifes most defining moments take pla by age 35. that means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experien s and aha! moments that ke your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. people who are over 40, dont panic. this

11、 crowd is going to be fine, i think. we know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money youre going to earn. we know that more than half of americans are rried or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. we know that the brain caps off its second and

12、 last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for hood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it. we know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that fe le fertility peaks at age 28, and t

13、hings get tricky after age 35. so your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options. so when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. its a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life

14、 has an inordinate impact on who you will bee. but what we hear less about is that theres such a thing as development, and our 20s are that critical period of development. but this isnt what twentysomethings are hearing. newspapers talk about the changing timetable of hood. researchers call the 20s

15、an extended adoles n . journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like twixters and kidults. its true. as a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of hood. leonard bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time. isnt that

16、true? so what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, you have 10 extra years to start your life? nothing happens. you have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens. and then every day, s rt, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters e into my offi and say things like this: i know my boyfriends no good for