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Ted演讲稿脆弱的力量

Ted-演讲稿-脆弱的力量

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BreneBrown：

Thepowerofvulnerability

So,I'llstartwiththis:

 acoupleyearsago,aneventplannercalledme becauseIwasgoingtodoaspeakingevent. Andshecalled,andshesaid, "I'mreallystrugglingwithhow towriteaboutyouonthelittleflier." AndIthought,"Well,what'sthestruggle?

" Andshesaid,"Well,Isawyouspeak, andI'mgoingtocallyouaresearcher,Ithink, butI'mafraidifIcallyouaresearcher,noonewillcome, becausethey'llthinkyou'reboringandirrelevant." （Laughter）AndIwaslike,"Okay." Andshesaid,"ButthethingIlikedaboutyourtalk isyou'reastoryteller. SoIthinkwhatI'lldoisjustcallyouastoryteller." Andofcourse,theacademic,insecurepartofme waslike,"You'regoingtocallmeawhat?

" Andshesaid,"I'mgoingtocallyouastoryteller." AndIwaslike,"Whynotmagicpixie?

" （Laughter） Iwaslike,"Letmethinkaboutthisforasecond." Itriedtocalldeeponmycourage. AndIthought,youknow,Iamastoryteller. I'maqualitativeresearcher. Icollectstories;that'swhatIdo. Andmaybestoriesarejustdatawithasoul. AndmaybeI'mjustastoryteller. AndsoIsaid,"Youknowwhat?

 Whydon'tyoujustsayI'maresearcher-storyteller." Andshewent,"Haha.There'snosuchthing."（Laughter） SoI'maresearcher-storyteller, andI'mgoingtotalktoyoutoday-- we'retalkingaboutexpandingperception-- andsoIwanttotalktoyouandtellsomestories aboutapieceofmyresearch thatfundamentallyexpandedmyperception andreallyactuallychangedthewaythatIliveandlove andworkandparent.

Andthisiswheremystorystarts. WhenIwasayoungresearcher,doctoralstudent, myfirstyearIhadaresearchprofessor whosaidtous, "Here'sthething, ifyoucannotmeasureit,itdoesnotexist." AndIthoughthewasjustsweet-talkingme. Iwaslike,"Really?

"andhewaslike,"Absolutely." Andsoyouhavetounderstand thatIhaveabachelor'sinsocialwork,amaster'sinsocialwork, andIwasgettingmyPh.D.insocialwork, somyentireacademiccareer wassurroundedbypeople whokindofbelieved inthe"life'smessy,loveit." AndI'mmoreofthe,"life'smessy, cleanitup,organizeit andputitintoabentobox." （Laughter） AndsotothinkthatIhadfoundmyway, tofoundacareerthattakesme-- really,oneofthebigsayingsinsocialwork is,"Leanintothediscomfortofthework." AndI'mlike,knockdiscomfortupsidethehead andmoveitoverandgetallA's. Thatwasmymantra. SoIwasveryexcitedaboutthis. AndsoIthought,youknowwhat,thisisthecareerforme, becauseIaminterestedinsomemessytopics. ButIwanttobeabletomakethemnotmessy. Iwanttounderstandthem. Iwanttohackintothesethings Iknowareimportant andlaythecodeoutforeveryonetosee.

SowhereIstartedwaswithconnection. Because,bythetimeyou'reasocialworkerfor10years, whatyourealize isthatconnectioniswhywe'rehere. It'swhatgivespurposeandmeaningtoourlives. Thisiswhatit'sallabout. Itdoesn'tmatterwhetheryoutalktopeoplewhoworkinsocialjusticeandmentalhealthandabuseandneglect, whatweknowisthatconnection, theabilitytofeelconnected,is-- neurobiologicallythat'showwe'rewired-- it'swhywe'rehere. SoIthought,youknowwhat,I'mgoingtostartwithconnection. Well,youknowthatsituation whereyougetanevaluationfromyourboss, andshetellsyou37thingsyoudoreallyawesome, andonething--an"opportunityforgrowth?

" （Laughter） Andallyoucanthinkaboutisthatopportunityforgrowth,right?

 Well,apparentlythisisthewaymyworkwentaswell, because,whenyouaskpeopleaboutlove, theytellyouaboutheartbreak. Whenyouaskpeopleaboutbelonging, they'lltellyoutheirmostexcruciatingexperiences ofbeingexcluded. Andwhenyouaskpeopleaboutconnection, thestoriestheytoldmewereaboutdisconnection.

Soveryquickly--reallyaboutsixweeksintothisresearch-- Iranintothisunnamedthing thatabsolutelyunraveledconnection inawaythatIdidn'tunderstandorhadneverseen. AndsoIpulledbackoutoftheresearch andthought,Ineedtofigureoutwhatthisis. Anditturnedouttobeshame. Andshameisreallyeasilyunderstood asthefearofdisconnection:

 Istheresomethingaboutme that,ifotherpeopleknowitorseeit, thatIwon'tbeworthyofconnection?

 ThethingsIcantellyouaboutit:

 it'suniversal;weallhaveit. Theonlypeoplewhodon'texperienceshame havenocapacityforhumanempathyorconnection. Noonewantstotalkaboutit, andthelessyoutalkaboutitthemoreyouhaveit. Whatunderpinnedthisshame, this"I'mnotgoodenough,"-- whichweallknowthatfeeling:

 "I'mnotblankenough.I'mnotthinenough, richenough,beautifulenough,smartenough, promotedenough." T