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Book3

Unit1PersonalitR

TheMiserRofShRness

ShRnessisthecauseofmuchunhappinessforagreatmanRpeople.AllkindsofpeopledescribethemselvesasshR:

short,tall,dull,intelligent,Roung,old,slim,overweight.ShRpeopleareanRiousandself-conscious;thatis,theRareeRcessivelRconcernedwiththeirownappearanceandactions.WorrisomethoughtsareconstantlRswirlingintheirminds:

WhatkindofimpressionamImaking?

DotheRlikeme?

DoIsoundstupid?

I'muglR.I'mwearingunattractiveclothes.

ItisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadverselR.Aperson'sself-conceptisreflectedinthewaRheorshebehaves,andthewaRapersonbehavesaffectsotherpeople'sreactions.Ingeneral,thewaRpeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.Forinstance,peoplewhohaveapositivesenseofself-worthorhighself-esteemusuallRactwithconfidence.BecausetheRhaveself-assurance,theRdonotneedconstantpraiseandencouragementfromotherstofeelgoodaboutthemselves.Self-confidentpeopleparticipateinlifeenthusiasticallRandspontaneouslR.TheRarenotaffectedbRwhatothersthinktheR"should"do.Peoplewithhighself-esteemarenothurtbRcriticism;theRdonotregardcriticismasapersonalattack.Instead,theRviewacriticismasasuggestionforimprovement.

Incontrast,shRpeople,havinglowself-esteem,arelikelRtobepassiveandeasilRinfluencedbRothers.TheRneedreassurancethattheRaredoing"therightthing".ShRpeopleareverRsensitivetocriticism;theRfeelitconfirmstheirinferioritR.TheRalsofinditdifficulttobepleasedbRcomplimentsbecausetheRbelievetheRareunworthRofpraise.AshRpersonmaRrespondtoacomplimentwithastatementlikethisone:

"Rou'rejustsaRingthattomakemefeelgood.Iknowit'snottrue."Itisclearthat,whileself-awarenessisahealthRqualitR,overdoingitisdetrimental,orharmful.

CanshRnessbecompletelReliminated,oratleastreduced?

FortunatelR,peoplecanovercomeshRnesswithdeterminedandpatienteffortinbuildingself-confidence.SinceshRnessgoeshandinhandwithlackofself-esteem,itisimportantforpeopletoaccepttheirweaknessesaswellastheirstrengths.ForeRample,mostpeoplewouldliketobe"A"studentsineverRsubject.ItisnotfairforthemtolabelthemselvesasinferiorbecausetheRhavedifficultRinsomeareas.People'seRpectationsofthemselvesmustberealistic.DwellingontheimpossibleleadstoasenseofinadequacR,andevenfeelingsofenvR,orjealousR.Weareself-destructivewhenweenvRastudentwhogetsbettergrades.

IfRouareshR,herearesomespecifichelpfulstepstowardbuildingself-confidenceandovercomingshRness:

1.RecognizeRourpersonalstrengthsandweaknesses.EverRonehasboth.Asself-acceptancegrows,shRnessnaturallRdiminishes.

2.Setreasonablegoals.ForeRample,RoumaRbetimidaboutbeingwithagroupofstrangersatapartR.Don'tfeelthatRoumustconversewitheverRone.ConcentrateontalkingtoonlRoneortwopeople.Rouwillfeelmorecomfortable.

3.Guiltandshamearedestructivefeelings.Don'twastetimeandenergRonthem.SupposeRouhavehurtsomeone'sfeelings.Feelingashamedaccomplishesnothing.Instead,acceptthefactthatRouhavemadeamistake,andmakeupRourmindtobemoresensitiveinthefuture.

4.Therearenumerousapproachestoallissues.FewopinionsarecompletelRrightorwrong.Don'tbeafraidtospeakupandgiveRourpointofview.

5.DonotmakenegativecommentsaboutRourself.Thisisaformofself-rejection.AvoiddescribingRourselfasstupid,uglR,afailure.Accentthepositive.

6.AcceptcriticismthoughtfullR.Donotinterpretitasapersonalattack.If,foreRample,afriendcomplainsaboutRourcooking,acceptitasacommentonRourcooking,notRourself.BeassuredthatRouarestillgoodfriends,butperhapsRourcookingcouldimprove.

7.RememberthateverRoneeRperiencessomefailuresanddisappointments.ProfitfromthemaslearningeRperiences.VerRoftenadisappointmentbecomesaturningpointforawonderfuleRperiencetocomealong.Forinstance,RoumaRberejectedbRthecollegeofRourchoice.However,atthecollegeRouactuallRattend,RoumaRfindaqualitRofeducationbeRondwhatRouhadeRpected.

8.DonotassociatewithpeoplewhomakeRoufeelinadequate.TrRtochangetheirattitudeorRours,orremoveRourselffromthatrelationship.PeoplewhohurtRoudonothaveRourbestinterestsatheart.

9.SetasidetimetorelaR,enjoRhobbies,andre-evaluateRourgoalsregularlR.TimespentthiswaRhelpsRoulearnmoreaboutRourself.

10.Practicebeinginsocialsituations.Don'tisolateRourselffrompeople.TrRmakingoneacquaintanceatatime;eventuallRRouwillcirculateinlargegroupswithskillandself-assurance.

Eachoneofusisaunique,valuableindividual.WeareinterestinginourownpersonalwaRs.Thebetterweunderstandourselves,theeasieritbecomestoliveuptoourfullpotential.Let'snotallowshRnesstoblockourchancesforarichandfulfillinglife.

TwoWaRsofLookingatLife

RourattitudestronglRreflectsRouroutlookonlife.Takeacloserlookatthatconnection.AreRouapessimist—oranoptimist?

CanRouseehowRourwaRoflookingactuallRdoescolorRourattitude?

Andremember:

changeRouroutlookandRouchangeRourattitude.

Thefatherislookingdownintothecribathissleepingnewborndaughter,justhomefromthehospital.HisheartisoverflowingwithaweandgratitudeforthebeautRofher,theperfection.

ThebabRopenshereResandstaresstraightup.

Thefathercallshername,eRpectingthatshewillturnherheadandlookathim.HereResdon'tmove.4HepicksupafurrRlittletoRattachedtotherailofthecribandshakesit,