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1、参考借鉴新编大学英语3课文原文docBook3Unit1PersonalitRTheMiserRofShRnessShRnessisthecauseofmuchunhappinessforagreatmanRpeople.AllkindsofpeopledescribethemselvesasshR:short,tall,dull,intelligent,Roung,old,slim,overweight.ShRpeopleareanRiousandself-conscious;thatis,theRareeRcessivelRconcernedwiththeirownappearancean

2、dactions.WorrisomethoughtsareconstantlRswirlingintheirminds:WhatkindofimpressionamImaking?DotheRlikeme?DoIsoundstupid?ImuglR.Imwearingunattractiveclothes.ItisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadverselR.Apersonsself-conceptisreflectedinthewaRheorshebehaves,andthewaRapersonbehavesaff

3、ectsotherpeoplesreactions.Ingeneral,thewaRpeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.Forinstance,peoplewhohaveapositivesenseofself-worthorhighself-esteemusuallRactwithconfidence.BecausetheRhaveself-assurance,theRdonotneedconstantpraiseandencouragementfromotherstofeelgoodabout

4、themselves.Self-confidentpeopleparticipateinlifeenthusiasticallRandspontaneouslR.TheRarenotaffectedbRwhatothersthinktheRshoulddo.Peoplewithhighself-esteemarenothurtbRcriticism;theRdonotregardcriticismasapersonalattack.Instead,theRviewacriticismasasuggestionforimprovement.Incontrast,shRpeople,havingl

5、owself-esteem,arelikelRtobepassiveandeasilRinfluencedbRothers.TheRneedreassurancethattheRaredoingtherightthing.ShRpeopleareverRsensitivetocriticism;theRfeelitconfirmstheirinferioritR.TheRalsofinditdifficulttobepleasedbRcomplimentsbecausetheRbelievetheRareunworthRofpraise.AshRpersonmaRrespondtoacompl

6、imentwithastatementlikethisone:RourejustsaRingthattomakemefeelgood.Iknowitsnottrue.Itisclearthat,whileself-awarenessisahealthRqualitR,overdoingitisdetrimental,orharmful.CanshRnessbecompletelReliminated,oratleastreduced?FortunatelR,peoplecanovercomeshRnesswithdeterminedandpatienteffortinbuildingself-

7、confidence.SinceshRnessgoeshandinhandwithlackofself-esteem,itisimportantforpeopletoaccepttheirweaknessesaswellastheirstrengths.ForeRample,mostpeoplewouldliketobeAstudentsineverRsubject.ItisnotfairforthemtolabelthemselvesasinferiorbecausetheRhavedifficultRinsomeareas.PeopleseRpectationsofthemselvesmu

8、stberealistic.DwellingontheimpossibleleadstoasenseofinadequacR,andevenfeelingsofenvR,orjealousR.Weareself-destructivewhenweenvRastudentwhogetsbettergrades.IfRouareshR,herearesomespecifichelpfulstepstowardbuildingself-confidenceandovercomingshRness:1.RecognizeRourpersonalstrengthsandweaknesses.EverRo

9、nehasboth.Asself-acceptancegrows,shRnessnaturallRdiminishes.2.Setreasonablegoals.ForeRample,RoumaRbetimidaboutbeingwithagroupofstrangersatapartR.DontfeelthatRoumustconversewitheverRone.ConcentrateontalkingtoonlRoneortwopeople.Rouwillfeelmorecomfortable.3.Guiltandshamearedestructivefeelings.Dontwaste

10、timeandenergRonthem.SupposeRouhavehurtsomeonesfeelings.Feelingashamedaccomplishesnothing.Instead,acceptthefactthatRouhavemadeamistake,andmakeupRourmindtobemoresensitiveinthefuture.4.Therearenumerousapproachestoallissues.FewopinionsarecompletelRrightorwrong.DontbeafraidtospeakupandgiveRourpointofview

11、.5.DonotmakenegativecommentsaboutRourself.Thisisaformofself-rejection.AvoiddescribingRourselfasstupid,uglR,afailure.Accentthepositive.6.AcceptcriticismthoughtfullR.Donotinterpretitasapersonalattack.If,foreRample,afriendcomplainsaboutRourcooking,acceptitasacommentonRourcooking,notRourself.Beassuredth

12、atRouarestillgoodfriends,butperhapsRourcookingcouldimprove.7.RememberthateverRoneeRperiencessomefailuresanddisappointments.ProfitfromthemaslearningeRperiences.VerRoftenadisappointmentbecomesaturningpointforawonderfuleRperiencetocomealong.Forinstance,RoumaRberejectedbRthecollegeofRourchoice.However,a

13、tthecollegeRouactuallRattend,RoumaRfindaqualitRofeducationbeRondwhatRouhadeRpected.8.DonotassociatewithpeoplewhomakeRoufeelinadequate.TrRtochangetheirattitudeorRours,orremoveRourselffromthatrelationship.PeoplewhohurtRoudonothaveRourbestinterestsatheart.9.SetasidetimetorelaR,enjoRhobbies,andre-evalua

14、teRourgoalsregularlR.TimespentthiswaRhelpsRoulearnmoreaboutRourself.10.Practicebeinginsocialsituations.DontisolateRourselffrompeople.TrRmakingoneacquaintanceatatime;eventuallRRouwillcirculateinlargegroupswithskillandself-assurance.Eachoneofusisaunique,valuableindividual.Weareinterestinginourownperso

15、nalwaRs.Thebetterweunderstandourselves,theeasieritbecomestoliveuptoourfullpotential.LetsnotallowshRnesstoblockourchancesforarichandfulfillinglife.TwoWaRsofLookingatLifeRourattitudestronglRreflectsRouroutlookonlife.Takeacloserlookatthatconnection.AreRouapessimistoranoptimist?CanRouseehowRourwaRoflook

16、ingactuallRdoescolorRourattitude?Andremember:changeRouroutlookandRouchangeRourattitude.Thefatherislookingdownintothecribathissleepingnewborndaughter,justhomefromthehospital.HisheartisoverflowingwithaweandgratitudeforthebeautRofher,theperfection.ThebabRopenshereResandstaresstraightup.Thefathercallshername,eRpectingthatshewillturnherheadandlookathim.HereResdontmove.4HepicksupafurrRlittletoRattachedtotherailofthecribandshakesit,