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day6LoveConditionMarriage

  IsRomanticLovetheMostImportantConditionforMarriage?

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                               ChoosingaSpouse

   Ifyouareyoungandunmarried,youmusthaveinyourmindtheimageofanidealhusbandorwife.Mostyoungpeopleliketoindulgeinfantasies,andyourimagemayta.ketheformofacertainfamousfilmstarorpopsinger.Butifyouareofapracticalturnofmind;your"ideal"wouldbemoredowntoearth,andyour"image"wouldbemodelledafterwhatyouseearoundyou.Thoughimagesdonotalwayscoincidewithrealities（forafterall,anidealisanideal）,itisneverthelessaninterestingsubjectforstudy,forittellsuswhattheyoungpeopleexpectfromthepresentsociety.

   Dr.LiYinheoftheSociologicalInstituteofBeijingUniversityhasmadeastudyofacertainamountofmatrimonialadvertisements,andhefoundthatthepresentgenerationofChinaputgreatemphasison,inorderofimportance,

（1）age,

（2）height,（3）educationasthethreemostimportantstandardsinchoosingaspouse.Nextcomes（4）characterandtemperament,（5）profession,（6）maritalstatusandpersonalhistory,（7）appearanceand（8）health.

   SuchorderofemphasisispeculiarlyChinese.Otherconditionssuchasreligion,raceandlove,soimportanttopeopleofothernationsarecompletelymissinginDr.Li,slist.ManyforeignscholarsarealsointerestedintheChineseideaofanidealspouseandtheyjustcan'tunderstandwhytheChinesemenespeciallysetsomuchstoreby"age"whentheychooseaspouse.Amanofoverfortywouldwantawomanunderthirtyandamanofthirtywouldwanthisfuturespousetobeundertwenty-five.Onepossibleexplanationisthatyouthisalmostsynonymouswithbeauty.Atleastthetwowordsyoungandbeautifulalwaysgotogether.TheChinesepeoplehavenotyetdiscoveredmaturebeauty.

   HeightdefinitelyisuniquelyChineseinplayingsuchanimportantrolewhenpeoplechooseaspouse.Tobeeligibleamanhastobeatleast1.70m.inheight.Itissaidthattoachoosygirl,anymanunder1.70m.isconsideredasemiinvalid!

Sofarnoonehasofferedasatisfactoryexplanationtosuchastrangephenomenon.

   Astothethirdimportantcondition,thatofeducationallevel,peoplefinditapuzzletoo,becauseinpresentdayChinaeducationdoesn'tgiveyouhighsocialstatus,nordoesitbringyougoodpay.Yetbothsexessetagreatstorebyit.Thethingtonoticeisthatamanwithauniversityeducationiscontenttohaveawifewithseniormiddleschooleducationwhileawomanwithauniversityeducationwouldneverconsideramanwithonlyaseniormiddleschooleducation:

Herhusbandhastobeatleastauniversitygraduatetoo,preferablysomeonewithapost-graduatedegree.

   Whatconclusioncancanwedrawfromallthis?

Ithinkthatinseekingahusbandorwife,weChinesehavenotyetfreedourselvesfromourfeudaltraditionofarrangedmarriages.Insteadofhavingourmarriagesarrangedbyourparents,wenowarrangeourownmarriages.Intheolddaysstresswasputonequalsocialandeconomicstatusofthetwofamilies,whichwasconsideredaconditionofagoodmatch.

 Nowlovemarriagesboil4downtomoreorlessthesamething,exceptthatstressisnolongerplacedontheconditionofthetwofamilies,butonthetwoindividualsthemselves.Andconditionsvarywiththetrendofthetimes.NotsolongagoitwasPartymembershipthatwasallimportant.AgirlwhowasaPartymemberwouldnotbesatisfiedwithamanwhowasonlyaLeaguemember.HehadtobeatleastaPartymember,andpreferablyaPartymemberwitharesponsibleposition.

   Inessencewearestillsellingourselvestothehighesthidder.Toputitanotherway:

Wearestilltryingtogetthebestbargainwithwhatcapitaiwehave.Isitsomuchdifferentfromtheoldmercenarymarriage?

II.Read

   Readthefollowingpassages.Underlinetheimportantviewpointswhilereading.

                     1.HusbandandWifebyArrangement.

   YoshioandHiromiTanakaareayoungJapanesecouplelivingintheUSAwhilehestudieselectricalengineering.Theyclearlyloveeachotherverydeeply,but,saysYoshio,"Wedidn'tmarryforloveintheWesternsense.Wegotmarriedinthetime-ItcanouredJapaneseway.Ourparentsarrangedourmarriagethroughamatchmaker.lnJapanwebelievethatmarriageissomethingthataffectsthewholefamily;notjusttbeyoungcoupleconcerned.

Sowethinkitisveryimportanttomatchpeopleaccordingtotheirsocialbackground,educationandsoon.Matchmakersareusuallymiddle-agedwomenwhokeeplistsofsuitableyoungpeoplewithinformationabouttheirfamilies,educationandinterests.Whenourparentsthoughtitwastimeforustogetmarriedtheywenttoalocalmatchmakerandaskedherforsomesuggestions.We