day6 Love Condition Marriage.docx

1、day6 Love Condition Marriage Is Romantic Love the Most Important Condition for Marriage? Text Choosing a Spouse If you are young and unmarried, you must have in your mind the image of an ideal husband or wife. Most young people like to indulge in fantasies, and your image may ta.ke the form of a cer

2、tain famous film star or pop singer. But if you are of a practical turn of mind; your ideal would be more down to earth, and your image would be modelled after what you see around you. Though images do not always coincide with realities (for after all, an ideal is an ideal), it is nevertheless an in

3、teresting subject for study, for it tells us what the young people expect from the present society. Dr. Li Yinhe of the Sociological Institute of Beijing University has made a study of a certain amount of matrimonial advertisements, and he found that the present generation of China put great emphasi

4、s on, in order of importance, (1) age, (2) height, (3) education as the three most important standards in choosing a spouse. Next comes (4) character and temperament, (5) profession, (6) marital status and personal history, (7) appearance and (8) health. Such order of emphasis is peculiarly Chinese.

5、 Other conditions such as religion, race and love, so important to people of other nations are completely missing in Dr. Li,s list. Many foreign scholars are also interested in the Chinese idea of an ideal spouse and they just cant understand why the Chinese men especially set so much store by age w

6、hen they choose a spouse. A man of over forty would want a woman under thirty and a man of thirty would want his future spouse to be under twenty- five. One possible explanation is that youth is almost synonymous with beauty. At least the two words young and beautiful always go together. The Chinese

7、 people have not yet discovered mature beauty. Height definitely is uniquely Chinese in playing such an important role when people choose a spouse. To be eligible a man has to be at least 1.70m. in height. It is said that to a choosy girl, any man under 1. 70m. is considered a semiinvalid! So far no

8、 one has offered a satisfactory explanation to such a strange phenomenon. As to the third important condition, that of educational level, people find it a puzzle too, because in present day China education doesnt give you high social status, nor does it bring you good pay. Yet both sexes set a great

9、 store by it. The thing to notice is that a man with a university education is content to have a wife with senior middle school education while a woman with a university education would never consider a man with only a senior middle school education: Her husband has to be at least a university gradu

10、ate too, preferably someone with a post-graduate degree. What conclusion can can we draw from all this? I think that in seeking a husband or wife, we Chinese have not yet freed ourselves from our feudal tradition of arranged marriages. Instead of having our marriages arranged by our parents, we now

11、arrange our own marriages.In the old days stress was put on equal social and economic status of the two families, which was considered a condition of a good match.Now love marriages boil4down to more or less the same thing, except that stress is no longer placed on the condition of the two families,

12、 but on the two individuals themselves. And conditions vary with the trend of the times. Not so long ago it was Party membership that was all important. A girl who was a Party member would not be satisfied with a man who was only a League member. He had to be at least a Party member, and preferably

13、a Party member with a responsible position. In essence we are still selling ourselves to the highest hidder. To put it another way: We are still trying to get the best bargain with what capitai we have. Is it so much different from the old mercenary marriage?II. Read Read the following passages. Und

14、erline the important viewpoints while reading. 1. Husband and Wife by Arrangement. Yoshio and Hiromi Tanaka are a young Japanese couple living in the USA while he studies electrical engineering. They clearly love each other very deeply, but, says Yoshio, We didn t marry for love in the Western sense

15、. We got married in the time-Itcanoured Japanese way. Our parents arranged our marriage through a matchmaker. ln Japan we believe that marriage is something that affects the whole family; not just tbe young couple concerned. So we think it is very important to match people according to their social

16、background, education and so on. Matchmakers are usually middle-aged women who keep lists of suitable young people with information about their families, education and interests. When our parents thought it was time for us to get married they went to a local matchmaker and asked her for some suggestions. We