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7.Understand,win

PartI-C

40,excel,domesticargument,losing

win-win,lose-lose,win,agift,returns

argueover,aren'

t,who,incontrol,fear,didn'

tneed,oughtnotto,couldn'

t,triedto,destroy,marriage

love,loved,secure,discover,garden,cultivate,themostprecious,ownself,bloom.

obtain,ourpartner,lovedandrespected,control.

PartII-A

A2

1.similarsocialbackgrounds.

2.thesameraceorsameethnicbackground.

3.thesamereligion.

A3

Japan/9.2%/arrangedmarriages

3%/betweenblacksandwhites

ManypeopleinWesterncultureschoosetheirownwivesandhusbands.Inmanyothercountries,spouseareoftenchosenbytheparents.InChinaandJapanbeforethiscentury（20thcentury）,upper-classmarriageswerearrangedbytheoldermales.InmanyculturesintheMiddleEast,Asia,andpre-industrialEurope,theman'

sfamilynegotiateda"

brideprice"

withthewoman'

sfamily;

theman'

sfamilywasexpectedtopayit.InHinduIndia,thebride'

sfamilypaida"

groom'

sprice"

tothefamilyoftheman.Thesecustomsareweakening;

forintance,only9.2percentofJapanesemarriagesarenowarranged.

Whatarethecriteriaforchoosingmates?

Mostmarriages-whetherarrangedbyfamiliesoroccurringfrompersonalattractionorlove--arebasedonsimilarsocialbackgrounds.Inotherwords,themanandthewomancomefromthesamesocialclass（orelseaclassthatisonlyslightlyhigherorslightlower）.AmongmanypeopleinEgypt,keymembersoftheman'

sfamilymustgotothefamilyofthewomanandproposemarriage.Thesefamilymembersmustbeabletoshowthattheman'

sfamilyisatleastofthesamesocialclassasthewomanandthatacertainamountofmoneyexiststoallowthemarriagetogoforward.

Havingthesameraceorthesameethnicbackgroundisthesecondmaincriterionformarriagethroughouttheworld.IntheU.S,.Wheretherearemanydifferentraces,only3percentofallmarriagesarebetweenblacksandwhites,meaningthattheracesarestilllargelyseparateinmarriage.

Inmanycountries,marriageisalsobasedonthewomanandmanhavingthesamereligion;

thisisathirdcommoncriterionforchoosingamate.Incultureinwhichreligionisverystrongvalue,marriageswouldoftennottakeplaceiftherewerereligiousdifferences.

PartII-B

1.physicalappearance;

2.whatsomebodylookslike,.....,lookbeyondthephysicalappearance

3.thehighpercentageofdivorces.

4.fallinglovewithsomebody,.....,lovingsomebody

Whatdoyouthinkitisthatattractspeopletoeachother,thatmakespeoplewanttobetogether?

Ithinkthatperhapsunfortunatelyintheinitialstagesit'

sthephysicalappearancethatattracts.Ithinkunlessyoufindsomebodyattractive,unlessthere'

ssomethingaboutthem-itcouldonlyperhapsbethewaytheysmileortheylaugh,oratwinkleintheireye,orthewayofacurlfallsovertheirforehead.Butsomethinglikethathastomakeyouinterestedenoughtofindoutmoreaboutthatperson,unlessthat'

sthereIthinkyoujustdon'

tbother.SoinitiallyphysicalattractionIthinkisallimportant.

Whydoyousay"

unfortunately"

?

Becauseinfactitshouldn'

tbewhatsomebodylookslikethatisimportant.Youshouldbeabletolookbeyondhephysicalappearanceandseewhatsortofapersonheorsheis,whethertheyareselfishorselfless,whethertheyarekind,caring.ButIthinkinitiallyyouarenotbotheredwiththat.Thatcomeperhapslater.

Inpopsongsandmagazinesandnewspapersandsonon,theideaoffallingloveinsalwaysemphasized,sopeoplehavethisideathatyouhavetofallinlove.Doyouthinkthisismisleadingforpeople?

Doyouthinkpeopleexpectsomethingthatinfactdoesn'

texist?

Yes,Ido.InfactIthinkwecanprobablylaytheblameforthehighpercentageofdivorce--it'

sathirdIthinknow,isn'

tit?

Ithinkoneinthreepeoplegetdivorced.ProbablyasfarasIcanseeit,thereasonisthattheygointomarriageorintoarelationshipwithaveryromanticviewoflovewhichIthinkhasbeencreatedbythepopsongs,byallthelovestores,bytheBarbaraCartlandnovels,etc.,thatyoungpeopleread.Really,youmeetsomeone,youfallinlove,andthat'

sit.,it'

sthebeginning,theylivehappilyevenafter.AndIthinkthat'

stheproblem,becausepeoplejustexpectthat,andit'

snotlikethat.

Sowhatisit,doyouthink,thatreallysustainsarelationship,thatkeepsarelationshipgoing?

Well,Ithinkyouhavetodifferentiatebetweenfallinginlovewithsomebody,whichIseeasmoresuperficial,andlovingsomebody,whichIseeasadeeperemotionandonethatperhapslasts.Fallinginloveissuperficialattraction,beingattractedtosomebodyphysically,havingfuntogether,whereaslovingsomebodyIthinkisanemotionthatgrows,itcomeswithsharedexperiences,perhapsenjoyingdoingthesamethingstogether,sharedhobbies,sharedinterests,sufferingtogetheraswell,goingthroughthebadtimes,helpingeachother,supportingeachother.Ithinkallthatneedstimetogrow,andI'

dcallthatlove,andIthinkthat'

swhatmakesarelationshiplast.

PartII-C

oneofthebiggestdecisionstheywillmakeinlife,

asthe"

just-right"

wifeforhim,

definitionofwhatthe"

wifeis,

themillionairemanandthepoorman,

herphysicalqualities,

differentwords,

byherphysicalqualities,

intwodifferentatmospheres,

alsohavetheirdefinitionofthe"

wife,

theGermanman'

sdefinitionisdifferentfromtheSpanishman'

s.

PartIII

Abaseballdiamondfrizzlyhair/glasses/funny/monologue

Awinebarpizza

Afancy-dresspartythemandressedasCheshireCat

Outsideacinemacoincidence/he'

dalsomissedthefilm

Aboat/theriverbankfellinriver/hedivedinandrescuedher

Kate:

Iwasonmywayhomefromjuniorhighandinordertogettomyhouseyouhavetowalkbythisbaseballdiamond.Andtherewasagameofbaseballgoingonanditlookedkindofinteresting,soIstopped.Thereweren'

tverymanypeoplewatching.Andtherewasthisguyandhewasn'

treallyverygood-looking,buthehadfrizzlyhairandglassesandhewasreallyfunny.Hedidthiskindofmonologuething,whichwargreat.AndIwenthomeandItoldmymotherIwasgoingtomarryhimaftertalkingtohimforhalfanhour.AndwhenIgottohighschool,hewaspresidentofthestudentbodyandheaskedmeoutand...we'

vegotourpictureintheyearbooktogetherholdinghands,andit'

sreallynice.

Ke:

Well,I'

darrangedtohaveadrinkwithafriendofmine,awomanfriendofminewho'

saplatonicfriendofmine.AndsheinsistedonbringingthisfriendofherswhoshesaidI'

dliketomeetandIthoughtshewastryingtofixusupandIsaid,"

Pleasedon'

t!

"

Butshedidbringthisfriendandwehititoff.Andafterthewinebarwewenttohaveapizzaandweallhadafewmoredrinksandtheotherwomanwhoendeduporderingapizzathathadabunchofstuffonitthatshereallyliked,sowepickedateachother'

spizzasallnightandwerealizedthatweweresortofhadanidealrelationship,sothatwecouldorderreallyanypizzaonthemenuandwe'

dbothbehappy.Andanywayweendeduplivingtogetherandstillare.

Coralyn:

Wemetatapartyanditwasfancy-dressparty.Afriendofmine'

stwenty-firstanditwasquitebigandIwentdressedasAliceinWonderlandandthisperson,thisguythatImarriedwasdressedastheCheshireCat.Anditjustseemedsoamazingthat,youknow,wewerebothfromthesamethingandwestartedchattingandendedupbeingtogether.

Jill:

I'

darrangedtogotothecinemawithagroupoffriendsandunfortunatelyImissedthetrainthatwouldhavegotmetostandingoutside--thefilmhadstarted.SoIwasn'

tallowedin.Andtherewasachapoutside,he'

dalsomissedthefilmandwestartedtotalkandwetalkedquiteabitandhesaid,"

Let'

sgodowntheroadandseethatfilm,becausethatonehasn'

tstartedattheOdeon."

Sowewentdownthereandwe'

vebeengoingouteversince!

Carole:

IfirstmetmypartnerwhenhewasonaboatandIwasontheriverbank,standingandlookinggenerallyintothedistanceandhewascomingintolandwithhisboatandhethrewmearopeandsaid,"

Wouldyoumindcatchingthis?

andIcaughtitandmissedandtrippedoveritandfellintheriverandhehadtodiveinandrescueme.Andthatwasit!

PartIV

Book,choked,disappointment,takeyoutodinner,tolerantsmile,wentby,rose,bigrestaurant,test,understandandadmire

JohnBlanchardstoodupfromthebench,straightenedhisarmyuniform,andstudiedthecrowdofpeoplemakingtheirwaythroughGrandCentralStation.Helookedforthegirlwhoseheartheknew,butwhosefacehedidn'

t,thegirlwiththerose.HisinterestinherhadbegunthirteenmonthsbeforeinFloridalibrary.Takingabookofftheshelfhefoundhimselfintrigued,notwiththewordsofthebook,butwiththenotespenciledinthemargin.Thesofthandwritingreflectedathoughtfulsoulandinsightfulmind.Inthefrontofthebook,hediscoveredthepreviousowner'

sname,MissHollisMaynell.

Withtimeandefforthelocated