1、7. Understand, winPart I - C40, excel, domestic argument, losingwin-win, lose-lose, win, a gift, returnsargue over, arent, who, in control, fear, didnt need, ought not to , couldnt, tried to, destroy, marriagelove, loved, secure, discover, garden, cultivate, the most precious, own self, bloom.obtain
2、, our partner, loved and respected, control.Part II- AA21. similar social backgrounds.2. the same race or same ethnic background.3. the same religion.A3Japan / 9.2% / arranged marriages3% / between blacks and whitesMany people in Western cultures choose their own wives and husbands. In many other co
3、untries, spouse are often chosen by the parents. In China and Japan before this century (20th century), upper-class marriages were arranged by the older males. In many cultures in the Middle East, Asia, and pre-industrial Europe, the mans family negotiated a bride price with the womans family; the m
4、ans family was expected to pay it. In Hindu India, the brides family paid a grooms price to the family of the man. These customs are weakening;for intance, only 9.2 percent of Japanese marriages are now arranged. What are the criteria for choosing mates? Most marriages-whether arranged by families o
5、r occurring from personal attraction or love-are based on similar social backgrounds. In other words, the man and the woman come from the same social class (or else a class that is only slightly higher or slight lower). Among many people in Egypt, key members of the mans family must go to the family
6、 of the woman and propose marriage. These family members must be able to show that the mans family is at least of the same social class as the woman and that a certain amount of money exists to allow the marriage to go forward.Having the same race or the same ethnic background is the second main cri
7、terion for marriage throughout the world. In the U.S,. Where there are many different races, only 3 percent of all marriages are between blacks and whites, meaning that the races are still largely separate in marriage.In many countries, marriage is also based on the woman and man having the same rel
8、igion; this is a third common criterion for choosing a mate. In culture in which religion is very strong value, marriages would often not take place if there were religious differences. Part II - B1. physical appearance; 2. what somebody looks like, ., look beyond the physical appearance3. the high
9、percentage of divorces.4. falling love with somebody,. ,loving somebodyWhat do you think it is that attracts people to each other, that makes people want to be together?I think that perhaps unfortunately in the initial stages its the physical appearance that attracts. I think unless you find somebod
10、y attractive, unless theres something about them-it could only perhaps be the way they smile or they laugh, or a twinkle in their eye, or the way of a curl falls over their forehead. But something like that has to make you interested enough to find out more about that person, unless thats there I th
11、ink you just dont bother. So initially physical attraction I think is all important.Why do you say unfortunately?Because in fact it shouldnt be what somebody looks like that is important. You should be able to look beyond he physical appearance and see what sort of a person he or she is, whether the
12、y are selfish or selfless, whether they are kind, caring. But I think initially you are not bothered with that. That come perhaps later.In pop songs and magazines and newspapers and son on, the idea of falling love in s always emphasized, so people have this idea that you have to fall in love. Do yo
13、u think this is misleading for people? Do you think people expect something that in fact doesnt exist?Yes, I do. In fact I think we can probably lay the blame for the high percentage of divorce-its a third I think now, isnt it? I think one in three people get divorced. Probably as far as I can see i
14、t, the reason is that they go into marriage or into a relationship with a very romantic view of love which I think has been created by the pop songs, by all the love stores, by the Barbara Cartland novels, etc. , that young people read. Really, you meet someone, you fall in love, and thats it., its
15、the beginning, they live happily even after. And I think thats the problem, because people just expect that, and its not like that.So what is it, do you think, that really sustains a relationship, that keeps a relationship going?Well, I think you have to differentiate between falling in love with so
16、mebody, which I see as more superficial, and loving somebody, which I see as a deeper emotion and one that perhaps lasts. Falling in love is superficial attraction, being attracted to somebody physically, having fun together, whereas loving somebody I think is an emotion that grows, it comes with sh
17、ared experiences, perhaps enjoying doing the same things together, shared hobbies, shared interests, suffering together as well, going through the bad times, helping each other, supporting each other. I think all that needs time to grow, and Id call that love, and I think thats what makes a relation
18、ship last.Part II - Cone of the biggest decisions they will make in life,as the just-right wife for him,definition of what the wife is,the millionaire man and the poor man ,her physical qualities,different words,by her physical qualities,in two different atmospheres,also have their definition of the
19、 wife,the German mans definition is different from the Spanish mans.Part IIIA baseball diamond frizzly hair / glasses/ funny/ monologue A wine bar pizzaA fancy-dress party the man dressed as Cheshire CatOutside a cinema coincidence/ hed also missed the filmA boat/ the river bank fell in river/ he di
20、ved in and rescued herKate: I was on my way home from junior high and in order to get to my house you have to walk by this baseball diamond. And there was a game of baseball going on and it looked kind of interesting, so I stopped. There werent very many people watching. And there was this guy and h
21、e wasnt really very good-looking, but he had frizzly hair and glasses and he was really funny. He did this kind of monologue thing, which war great. And I went home and I told my mother I was going to marry him after talking to him for half an hour. And when I got to high school, he was president of
22、 the student body and he asked me out and.weve got our picture in the yearbook together holding hands, and its really nice.Ke: Well, Id arranged to have a drink with a friend of mine, a woman friend of mine whos a platonic friend of mine. And she insisted on bringing this friend of hers who she said
23、 Id like to meet and I thought she was trying to fix us up and I said, Please dont! But she did bring this friend and we hit it off. And after the wine bar we went to have a pizza and we all had a few more drinks and the other woman who ended up ordering a pizza that had a bunch of stuff on it that
24、she really liked, so we picked at each others pizzas all night and we realized that we were sort of had an ideal relationship, so that we could order really any pizza on the menu and wed both be happy. And anyway we ended up living together and still are.Coralyn: We met at a party and it was fancy-d
25、ress party. A friend of mines twenty-first and it was quite big and I went dressed as Alice in Wonderland and this person, this guy that I married was dressed as the Cheshire Cat. And it just seemed so amazing that, you know, we were both from the same thing and we started chatting and ended up bein
26、g together.Jill: Id arranged to go to the cinema with a group of friends and unfortunately I missed the train that would have got me to standing outside-the film had started. So I wasnt allowed in. And there was a chap outside, hed also missed the film and we started to talk and we talked quite a bi
27、t and he said,Lets go down the road and see that film, because that one hasnt started at the Odeon. So we went down there and weve been going out ever since!Carole: I first met my partner when he was on a boat and I was on the river bank, standing and looking generally into the distance and he was c
28、oming in to land with his boat and he threw me a rope and said,Would you mind catching this? and I caught it and missed and tripped over it and fell in the river and he had to dive in and rescue me. And that was it!Part IVBook, choked, disappointment, take you to dinner, tolerant smile, went by, ros
29、e, big restaurant, test, understand and admireJohn Blanchard stood up from the bench, straightened his army uniform, and studied the crowd of people making their way through Grand Central Station. He looked for the girl whose heart he knew, but whose face he didnt, the girl with the rose. His intere
30、st in her had begun thirteen months before in Florida library. Taking a book off the shelf he found himself intrigued, not with the words of the book, but with the notes penciled in the margin. The soft handwriting reflected a thoughtful soul and insightful mind. In the front of the book, he discovered the previous owners name, Miss Hollis Maynell.With time and effort he located
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