最新新编大学英语3课文原文Word格式.docx

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short,tall,dull,intelligent,young,old,slim,overweight.Shypeopleareanxiousandself-conscious;

thatis,theyareexcessivelyconcernedwiththeirownappearanceandactions.Worrisomethoughtsareconstantlyswirlingintheirminds:

WhatkindofimpressionamImaking?

Dotheylikeme?

DoIsoundstupid?

I'

mugly.I'

mwearingunattractiveclothes.

Itisobviousthatsuchuncomfortablefeelingsmustaffectpeopleadversely.Aperson'

sself-conceptisreflectedinthewayheorshebehaves,andthewayapersonbehavesaffectsotherpeople'

sreactions.Ingeneral,thewaypeoplethinkaboutthemselveshasaprofoundeffectonallareasoftheirlives.Forinstance,peoplewhohaveapositivesenseofself-worthorhighself-esteemusuallyactwithconfidence.Becausetheyhaveself-assurance,theydonotneedconstantpraiseandencouragementfromotherstofeelgoodaboutthemselves.Self-confidentpeopleparticipateinlifeenthusiasticallyandspontaneously.Theyarenotaffectedbywhatothersthinkthey"

should"

do.Peoplewithhighself-esteemarenothurtbycriticism;

theydonotregardcriticismasapersonalattack.Instead,theyviewacriticismasasuggestionforimprovement.

Incontrast,shypeople,havinglowself-esteem,arelikelytobepassiveandeasilyinfluencedbyothers.Theyneedreassurancethattheyaredoing"

therightthing"

.Shypeopleareverysensitivetocriticism;

theyfeelitconfirmstheirinferiority.Theyalsofinditdifficulttobepleasedbycomplimentsbecausetheybelievetheyareunworthyofpraise.Ashypersonmayrespondtoacomplimentwithastatementlikethisone:

"

You'

rejustsayingthattomakemefeelgood.Iknowit'

snottrue."

Itisclearthat,whileself-awarenessisahealthyquality,overdoingitisdetrimental,orharmful.

Canshynessbecompletelyeliminated,oratleastreduced?

Fortunately,peoplecanovercomeshynesswithdeterminedandpatienteffortinbuildingself-confidence.Sinceshynessgoeshandinhandwithlackofself-esteem,itisimportantforpeopletoaccepttheirweaknessesaswellastheirstrengths.Forexample,mostpeoplewouldliketobe"

A"

studentsineverysubject.Itisnotfairforthemtolabelthemselvesasinferiorbecausetheyhavedifficultyinsomeareas.People'

sexpectationsofthemselvesmustberealistic.Dwellingontheimpossibleleadstoasenseofinadequacy,andevenfeelingsofenvy,orjealousy.Weareself-destructivewhenweenvyastudentwhogetsbettergrades.

Ifyouareshy,herearesomespecifichelpfulstepstowardbuildingself-confidenceandovercomingshyness:

1.Recognizeyourpersonalstrengthsandweaknesses.Everyonehasboth.Asself-acceptancegrows,shynessnaturallydiminishes.

2.Setreasonablegoals.Forexample,youmaybetimidaboutbeingwithagroupofstrangersataparty.Don'

tfeelthatyoumustconversewitheveryone.Concentrateontalkingtoonlyoneortwopeople.Youwillfeelmorecomfortable.

3.Guiltandshamearedestructivefeelings.Don'

twastetimeandenergyonthem.Supposeyouhavehurtsomeone'

sfeelings.Feelingashamedaccomplishesnothing.Instead,acceptthefactthatyouhavemadeamistake,andmakeupyourmindtobemoresensitiveinthefuture.

4.Therearenumerousapproachestoallissues.Fewopinionsarecompletelyrightorwrong.Don'

tbeafraidtospeakupandgiveyourpointofview.

5.Donotmakenegativecommentsaboutyourself.Thisisaformofself-rejection.Avoiddescribingyourselfasstupid,ugly,afailure.Accentthepositive.

6.Acceptcriticismthoughtfully.Donotinterpretitasapersonalattack.If,forexample,afriendcomplainsaboutyourcooking,acceptitasacommentonyourcooking,notyourself.Beassuredthatyouarestillgoodfriends,butperhapsyourcookingcouldimprove.

7.Rememberthateveryoneexperiencessomefailuresanddisappointments.Profitfromthemaslearningexperiences.Veryoftenadisappointmentbecomesaturningpointforawonderfulexperiencetocomealong.Forinstance,youmayberejectedbythecollegeofyourchoice.However,atthecollegeyouactuallyattend,youmayfindaqualityofeducationbeyondwhatyouhadexpected.

8.Donotassociatewithpeoplewhomakeyoufeelinadequate.Trytochangetheirattitudeoryours,orremoveyourselffromthatrelationship.Peoplewhohurtyoudonothaveyourbestinterestsatheart.

9.Setasidetimetorelax,enjoyhobbies,andre-evaluateyourgoalsregularly.Timespentthiswayhelpsyoulearnmoreaboutyourself.

10.Practicebeinginsocialsituations.Don'

tisolateyourselffrompeople.Trymakingoneacquaintanceatatime;

eventuallyyouwillcirculateinlargegroupswithskillandself-assurance.

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