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1、E daily reading material 已编辑A4打印阅读英语材料 1026囧研究：坚持这8条 你就能有段完美恋爱关系Psychologists have spent years studying thetraitsthat are fundamental to successful long-term relationships and come up with a few key ideas.心理学家花了多年研究保持长期恋爱关系的特点，发现了关键的几条。You think about your partner often when youre not together你们不在一起

2、的时候，你也在想你的爱侣Certain relationship characteristics were linked to stronger feelings of love. One especially interesting finding: The more often people reported thinking about their partner when they were apart, the more in love they felt.某些恋爱关系的特点和更深层的情感相关联。有个有趣的发现：和伴侣分开始想着伴侣越多，他们感受到的爱也更多。You respond

3、positively to each others good news你们对彼此的好消息都作出正面回应A passive-constructive response would be understated support - a warm smile and a simple Thats good news.富积极建设意义的回应是含蓄的支持，如温暖的微笑和简单一句“这是好消息”。You spend some time apart, with your own friends你们会分开和自己的朋友一起共度时光If you want to be happy in your marriage, i

4、ts best not to look to your partner for all yourexistentialneeds. Psychologists recommend finding yourself in hobbies, friends, and work as well.如果你希望婚姻幸福，最好不要把你的伴侣视作满足你生存需求的对象。心理学家们推荐,要找到自己的兴趣爱好、朋友和工作。You have a similar sense of humor你们的幽默感相似Having a private language with your partner - i.e. nickna

5、mes and jokes- can help facilitate bonding and often predicts relationship satisfaction.和你的伴侣有“私密”的语言，如昵称和笑话，有助加强关系，通常预示恋爱关系满足感。You split chores evenly你们平分家务琐事In onepoll, as many as 62% of adults said that sharing chores is very important to a successful marriage.一项民意测试显示有多达62%的成年人称分担琐事对成功的婚姻至关重要。Yo

6、u try new things together你们一起尝试新事物Novelty alone is probably not enough to save a marriage in crisis. But for couples who have a reasonably good but slightly dull relationship,noveltymay help reignite old sparks.新意本身并不足以拯救婚姻危机，但对于关系尚可稍稍无趣的恋爱关系而言，新颖有趣有助重燃起过往的火花。You dont have a lot of extreme downturns

7、 in your relationship你们的恋爱关系里没有太多极端的低谷转折Conflict-ridden couples fought often and had a lot of mini-fluctuations in their level of commitment.常有争执牵绊的伴侣经常吵架，在婚姻承诺中常有起起落落。You know how to recover from a fight你们知道如何争执后恢复关系The No. 1 shared trait among successful relationships is being able to repair the b

8、ond after a fight. Its about the way you approach it.成功婚姻关系共有的特点中，第一条就是争执后能够修复关系。是你如何处理问题有声美文：早晨五分钟，开启美好的一天If you feel a twinge of jealousy each time you read about another successful person who wakes up at 4 a.m. to meditate, jog, read a novel, and eat two grapefruits, take heart. You dont have to

9、add three leisurely hours to your morning routine to be happy or productive. In fact, plenty of the habits that can help you start your day takefive minutes or less. Several of those habits are listed under the Quora thread, What can I do in 5 minutes in the morning to make my whole day better?是否在你每

10、次读到关于某位成功人士早晨四点起床、冥想、慢跑、读小说、吃两瓣葡萄柚时，就会十分嫉妒呢？那就请你振作起来吧。你不必再花三个宝贵的钟头来做早晨那些琐事，就为开心或者效率更高些。事实上，很多习惯可以帮您开启新的一天，而且只需五分钟的时间或者连五分钟都用不了。有很多习惯在Quora thread网站上都有列出，“早晨用五分钟来做些什么可以让我整个一天都不一样呢？”Below, find some of the simplest routines to tackle your day feeling refreshed and ready to tackle whatever challenges c

11、ome your way. 下面，就是一些最简单的小事，这些小事可以让你一天都感觉精神抖擞并且能帮你拥有时刻做好应对挑战的积极状态。1. Write down three things youre grateful for1.写下三件你感恩的事情Quora user Nela Canovic suggests writing down three things youre grateful for every morning. Think about what you already have in your life, she writes. Dont focus only on mater

12、ial things (such as a car or computer), but rather think in more simple or basic terms. For example, you might express gratitude for friends, family, or your education. This strategy is similar to the three good things exercise recommended by Martin Seligman, a professor of psychology at the Univers

13、ity of Pennsylvania and one of the founders of the positive psychology movement. Seligman and colleagues advise people to take time each night to write down three positive developments that happened that day, along with an explanation for why they did. You can, however, easily adapt this exercise fo

14、r the morning and think about three things youre grateful for in general.Quora用户Nela Canovic建议每天早晨写下三件你所感恩的事情。“想想你所拥有的，”她写道。“不要只集中在物质方面（如车或者电脑），而是要想那些更简单的或者更基本的名目。比如，你可以对你所拥有的朋友，家人或者所受的教育表示一下感恩。这一策略跟“三件好事”运动很相似，这一活动是由宾夕法尼亚大学的心理学教授以及积极心理学运动创始人之一Martin Seligman提倡的。Seligman和他的同事们建议人们每晚花点时间写下当日发生的三件积极发展

15、的事情，并且要附上理由说明。然而，你也可以在早晨借鉴一下这项运动并且总体思考一下你所心怀感恩的三件事情。2. Think about what would make today great2.想象一下什么事情可以让这一天变得很棒Canovic recommends another, more prospective exercise: Write one sentence about something that, if it were to happen, would make you feel like today will be a positive, productive, uniqu

16、e day. It can be something as simple as going to bed before midnight or spending an hour doing something you love, she says. Once you figure out exactly what would make you feel happy and accomplished, you can go about making it happen.Canovic提倡另一个更有前景的运动：“用一个句子描述一件事情，这件事情如果发生就会让你感觉今天是个积极向上的、高效率的、独特

17、的一天。这可能简单如午夜之前就寝或者花个把小时做自己喜爱做的事情，她说。一旦你弄明白到底是什么会让你感觉开心且有成就感，你就可以将它付诸实施。3. Meditate3.冥想Science suggests meditation has myriad benefits, from helping you deal with stress and negative emotions, to boosting your memory, to strengthening your immune system. But meditation doesnt necessarily mean sitting

18、 in silence for hours on end. As Ariel Banayan points out, sitting for five minutes to detach from the thoughts of your mind will have a profound impact on your day. If youre unsure how to get started, the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center offers some free guided meditations, some of them five

19、minutes or shorter.科学显示冥想有很多好处，可以帮你减轻压力，舒缓消极情绪，提高记忆力还可以增强你的免疫系统。但冥想不等于默默地坐上几个小时。如Ariel Banayan指示，坐上五分钟，并且让思维游离开去会给你的一天带来深远的影响。如果你还不确定如何开始，加利福尼亚大学洛杉矶分校思想意识研究中心提供了一些免费的指导，其中有一些只需要五分钟或者更短。4. Exercise4.锻炼Minh Killy Le recommends five minutes of exercise right after you wake up. His favorite is planking,

20、 which is similar to a push-up. Research suggests that working out before you eat breakfast can help you lose weight and boost your energy levels though the workouts in these studies lasted about an hour, or until the participants had burned 400 calories. Regardless of how long you choose to exercis

21、e, be sure to warm up beforehand, since your muscles will likely be stiff from sleep. Minh Killy Le建议醒来后锻炼五分钟。他最喜爱的锻炼是平板支撑，类似于俯卧撑。研究显示早餐之前锻炼一下可以帮你减肥，并且可以提高你的能量水平，尽管这些研究中，锻炼持续时间大概是一个小时，或者直到参与者们燃烧了400卡路里的能量 。不管你选择运动多久，事先一定要热身，因为你的肌肉还未从睡眠的僵硬中舒缓开来。5. Make your bed5.铺床Raviteja Chirala says he loves comin

22、g home to a neatly made bed. Meanwhile, journalist Charles Duhigg writes in his book The Power of Habit that making your bed can help increase your productivity for the rest of the day. Thats because its a keystone habit that can spark chain reactions that help other good habits take hold.Raviteja C

23、hirala说他喜欢回到家就躺在一张收拾整洁的床上。与此同时，记者Charles Duhigg在他的书中写道“铺床这种习惯的力量可以提高你一天的效率。那是因为铺床就是一个关键的，可以引发连锁反应的习惯，它能帮你抓住其他的好习惯。”6. Prioritize6.优先选择Chirala also suggests writing a list of things you want to accomplish that day. That way, youll have a clear set of priorities to guide your work for the next few hou

24、rs. Psychologist Travis Bradberry says this kind of careful planning boosts your chances of achieving your goals. He personally likes to set his daily goals after his mindfulness practice.Chirala还建议列一张你要完成的事情的清单。那样的话，你将有一个明确的优先安排，指导你接下来几个小时的工作。心理学家Travis Bradberry说这样精心的计划安排可以提高你达成目标的效率。他个人喜欢在正念练习后设定

25、一天的目标。7. Visualize the rest of the day7.预想一下其余时光Harrison Thorne recommends a morning visualization routine: Simply picture your short- and long-term goals, and affirm your abilities to complete these goals. In his second book, Smarter Faster Better, Duhigg outlines a similar technique: Tell yourself

26、 stories about how the day will unfold. Duhigg writes about researchers at MIT who studied the most productive people at a recruiting firm and found that they were obsessive, in fact, about trying to explain the world to themselves and their colleagues as they went about their days. For example, the

27、y might ask colleagues to help them imagine how a future conversation or a pitch meeting might go, so that they were more prepared when the events actually happened. He recommends making a habit of this strategy by spending your morning commute telling yourself a detailed story about the rest of the

28、 day. Harrison Thorne提倡早晨设想活动：“简单设想一下你短期或者长期的目标，并确定你能完成它们。在他的第二本书更聪明、更快、更好中，Duhigg概述了一个简单技巧，即，告诉自己这一天将怎么进行。Duhigg写道那些麻省理工学院的研究人员， 他们研究那些招聘公司最有效率的人们，发现他们很具强迫性，事实上，他们试图向他们自己以及他们的同事们解释这个世界，如他们所经历的那样。他们也许会要求同事们帮他们想象一下将来的某次谈话将怎样进行，或者推销会将如何进展，所以他们在事情发生时，往往会更有准备。他建议养成一个这样的习惯，就是利用早晨通勤的时间来思考一下接下来的一天会发生什么。囧研究

29、：女人不婚也幸福？！那要老公有卵用Once women hit age 60, those who are married and those who have never been married are equally happy, a new research finds.一项新研究指出，女性到了60岁，无论结没结婚，她们都一样幸福。In a survey of more than 51,000 adults in the United States, married people reported the highest happiness levels, and people who

30、 were widowed,divorcedor never married reported lower happiness levels.美国一项针对51000多名成年人进行的调查指出，结了婚的人，他们的幸福指数最高；而那些丧偶、离异或从未结过婚的人，他们的幸福指数较低。But the exception was older, never-married women.然而，那些从未结过婚的年长女性是个例外。Marriage and happiness婚姻和幸福The researchers used data gathered over 38 years from the General

31、Social Survey. Survey participants answered the question, Taken all together, how would you say things are these days would you say that you are very happy, pretty happy or not too happy?调研员利用综合社会调查在38年间收集的数据进行了研究。调查的参与人员回答了这样一个问题：“总的来说，你觉得这几天过得怎么样，你会说自己非常幸福，很幸福还是不太幸福呢？”The researchers compared the

32、reported happiness levels of different groups of men and women: married, unmarried, divorced and widowed people. Also, because widowed and divorced people are often older, on average, than married people, the researchers did a separate analysis for people age 60 and older.研究人员比较了男性和女性不同群体的幸福指数，这几个群体分别为结婚的、未婚的、离异的以及丧偶的群体。另外，通常情况下，丧偶和离异的人往往比结了婚的人要年长一些，因此，研究人员对年龄在60岁及以上的人群进行了独立分析。Happy as a clam非常幸福The researchers were surprised to find that the reported happiness levels of never-married, older women are, in a lot of years,indistinguishablefro