TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可浪费的光阴附翻译.docx

1、TED英语演讲稿二十几岁不可浪费的光阴附翻译TED英语演讲稿：二十几岁不可浪费的光阴（附翻译）when i was in my 20s, i saw my very first psychotherapy client. i was astudent in clinical psychology at berkeley. she was a 26-year-old woman named alex. now alex walked into her first session wearing jeans and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto t

2、he couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems. now when i heard this, i was so relieved. my classmate got an arsonist for her first client. (laughter) and i got a twentysomething who wanted to talk about boys. this i thought i could handle.but i

3、didnt handle it. with the funny stories that alex would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road. thirtys the new 20, alex would say, and as far as i could tell, she was right. work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, ev

4、en death happened later. twentysomethings like alex and i had nothing but time.but before long, my supervisor pushed me to push alex about her love life. i pushed back.i said, sure, shes dating down, shes sleeping with a knucklehead, but its not like shes going to marry the guy.and then my superviso

5、r said, not yet, but she might marry the next one. besides, the best time to work on alexs marriage is before she has one.thats what psychologists call an aha! moment. that was the moment i realized, 30 is not the new 20. yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didnt make alexs 20s

6、 a developmental downtime. that made alexs 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it. that was when i realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequences, not just for alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and th

7、e futures of twentysomethings everywhere.there are 50 million twentysomethings in the united states right now. were talking about 15 percent of the population, or 100 percent if you consider that no ones getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.raise your hand if youre in your

8、 20s. i really want to see some twentysomethings here. oh, yay! yalls awesome. if you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, youre losing sleep over twentysomethings, i want to see okay. awesome, twentysomethings really matter.so i specialize in twentysomethings because i believe th

9、at every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know: that claiming your 20s is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, maybe eve

10、n for the world.this is not my opinion. these are the facts. we know that 80 percent of lifes most defining moments take place by age 35. that means that eight out of 10 of the decisions and experiences and aha! moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. people who ar

11、e over 40, dont panic. this crowd is going to be fine, i think. we know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money youre going to earn. we know that more than half of americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. we know that the

12、brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it. we know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that fema

13、le fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. so your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.so when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. its a time w

14、hen your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become. but what we hear less about is that theres such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.but this isnt what twentysomethings are hearing. newspapers talk about the chang

15、ing timetable of adulthood. researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence. journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like twixters and kidults. its true. as a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.leonard bernstein said that to achieve great th

16、ings, you need a plan and not quite enough time. isnt that true? so what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, you have 10 extra years to start your life? nothing happens. you have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens.and then every day, smart, interesting twentysomethings like you or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say