1、thirtys the new 20, alex would say, and as far as i could _, she was right. work happened later, _rriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later. twentysomethings like alex and i had nothing but time. but before long, my supervisor pushed me to push alex about her love life. i
2、 pushed back. i said, sure, shes dating down, shes sleeping with a knucklehead, but its not like shes going to _rry the guy. and then my supervisor said, not yet, but she might _rry the next one. besides, the best time to work on alexs _rriage is before she has one. thats what psychologists call an
3、aha! moment. that was the moment i realized, 30 is not the new 20. yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didnt _ke alexs 20s a developmental downtime. that _de alexs 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it. that was when i realized that this sort of b
4、enign neglect was a real problem, and it had real consequen _s, not just for alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of twentysomethings everywhere. there are 50 million twentysomethings in the united states right now. were talking about 15 per _nt of the populati
5、on, or 100 per _nt if you consider that no ones getting through _hood without going through their 20s first. raise your hand if youre in your 20s. i really want to see some twentysomethings here. oh, yay! yalls awesome. if you work with twentysomethings, you love a twentysomething, youre losing slee
6、p over twentysomethings, i want to see okay. awesome, twentysomethings really _tter. so i specialize in twentysomethings because i believe that every single one of those 50 million twentysomethings deserves to know what psychologists, sociologists, neurologists and fertility specialists already know
7、: that claiming your 20s is one of the _st, yet most transfor _tive, things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness, _ybe even for the world. this is not my opinion. these are the facts. we know that 80 per _nt of lifes most defining moments take pla _ by age 35. that means that eight out
8、of 10 of the decisions and experien _s and moments that _ke your life what it is will have happened by your mid-30s. people who are over 40, dont panic. this crowd is going to be fine, i think. we know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money youre going to ear
9、n. we know that more than half of americans are _rried or are living with or dating their future partner by 30. we know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for _hood, which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the t
10、ime to change it. we know that personality changes more during your 20s than at any other time in life, and we know that fe _le fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35. so your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options. so when we think about child d
11、evelopment, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain. its a time when your ordinary, day-to-day life has an inordinate impact on who you will bee. but what we hear less about is that theres such a thing as _ development, and our 20s are tha
12、t critical period of _ development. but this isnt what twentysomethings are hearing. newspapers talk about the changing timetable of _hood. researchers call the 20s an extended adoles _n _. journalists coin silly nicknames for twentysomethings like twixters and kidults. its true. as a culture, we ha
13、ve trivialized what is actually the defining decade of _hood. leonard bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time. isnt that true? so what do you think happens when you pat a twentysomething on the head and you say, you have 10 extra years to start your life? nothing happens. you have robbed that person of his urgency and ambition, and absolutely nothing happens. and then every day, s _rt, interesting twentysomethings like you or like
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