1、_1_ In?deed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns. “People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness,” says Dr. Freder?ic Luskin, who wrote the book Forgive for Good. So how do you start the healing? Try following these steps
2、:Calm yourself. Take a couple of breaths and think of some?thing that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love. Dont wait for an apology. _2_ Luskin says, “They may have wanted to hurt you or they just dont see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you
3、 could be waiting a very long time.” Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean coming to terms with the person who upsets you or forgiving his or her action after your quarrel._3_ Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain. “Instead, learn to look for
4、the love, beauty and kindness around you.” Luskin says._4_ If you attach great importance to that person, you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance, fear and even love. To gain others stand, you may want to write a letter to yourself from your offenders point of view._5_ Research ha
5、s shown that people who forgive make a good show of more energy, better appetite and better sleeping patterns.Dont forget to forgive yourself. “For some people, forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge. Luskin says, “but it can rob you of your self-confidence if you dont do it.”A. Many times th
6、e person who hurt you may never think of apologizing.B. Break away from the influence of your offender on you early.C. But forgiveness is possible and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental health.D. Try to see things from the other persons stand.E. So it is difficult to forgive
7、others and even yourself.F. Recognize the benefits of forgiveness.G. Forgiveness is not good of people.(二)Why do some people have many friends while others do not? _1_ However, it is not so. Lets look at two psychological experiments which will give you the key to happy interpersonal relations.The f
8、irst experiment is called the “Hawthorne effect” after Hawthorne, Illinois(伊利诺斯美国州名), where the experiment took place. A group of psychologists examined the work patterns of two groups of workers in the Western Electric Company. _2_. The psychologists changed the working conditions for one group twi
9、ce but left the other group alone. They were surprised to find that productivity increased on both occasions and in both groups. They concluded that the increase in productivity came from the attention given to the workers by the management. It had increased their motivation and so they had worked h
10、arder. In other words, if you take an interest in others, they will want to please you and you will have good relations with them._3_. After Martin Luther King, Jr was killed in 1960s, a teacher, Jane Elliott, living in an all- white town decided to help her class of young children understand why th
11、e Civil Rights Movement had been necessary in America.She divided the class into two groups: one with blue eyes and other with brown eyes. Other eye colors such as hazel or green were excluded from his exercise. Then she told the class that brown-eyed people were cleverer than blue-eyed ones because
12、 of an agent(化学作用) for brown color found in their blood. Blue-eyed people were stupid, lazy and not to be trusted. Jane Elliott did not need to say any more. The brown-eyed students quickly got used to their new role as the leaders of the class. The blue-eyed students became quiet and withdrawn. The
13、n she discovered something very interesting. Four poor brown-eyed readers began to read fluently in a way they had never done before. _4_. So if you want to be successful and happy, take an interest in others whether they are your classmates or workmates. Congratulate them on their success and sympa
14、thize with them in their troubles. _5_.A. Before the experiment the management talked to both groups of workers and explained that they wanted to find the best working environment for them.B. Remember that the way you treat others will decide their attitude and behavior to you.C. The second experime
15、nt shows what happens to personal relations if you are rude to or ignore others.D. The ones who have more friends usually are those who care about others.E. Jane Elliott had shown that the way people are treated affects not only their behavior but also their confidence and their performance.F. You may even imagine that this ability was something they were born with because it seems so effortless to them.G. The second experiment tells us what teachers said had a great effect on the students.
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