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MydadgrewupduringtheDepressionandlaterfoughtinWorldWarII.Whenhewasborn,hisownfatherwastoooldandtiredtoinvestanytimeinhisonlychild,somydadlearnedearlyonhowtoworkhardandmakemoney.Andnomatterhowbadthingsmightbe,mydadalwaysknewhowtolookstrong.Inthepostwarera,wheneveryonewantedtoerasetheirhorrifyingmemoriesandemotions,myfatherbecameamasteratburyinghisfeelings.Afterliberatingtheconcentrationcampsandseeingtheworstthatanywarhadtooffer,keepinghisfeelingsinsidewastheonlywaymydadknewhowtosurvive.
Withoutrealizingit,mydadbecamedomineeringandcontrolling.Asaparent,hedidanythingforhischildrenandworkedhardtoprovidethebestforus.However,ifhedidn’tagreewithusaboutsomething,ourfeelingsdidn’tinteresthim;hisopinionsalwaysprevailed―“caseclosed.”Whenitwastimeforemotionalintimacyorvulnerability,myfatherplayedhiscardsclosetohischest.Hekepthisfeelingslockedinavaulttowhichnoone,includinghimself,hadthecombination.
Still,despiteourbeingverydifferentemotionally,mydadwasmyhero.
Hewasaworld-classbusinessman,amarketinggenius,anentrepreneur,asingerandatruevisionary.WhenIwaslearninghowtodream,hetaughtmehowtodreambig.“Broadenyourhorizons,sweetie,”heusedtosay.“There’sawholeworldoutthereandnothing’sstoppingyou.”Iemulatedhim,quotedhimandlistenedforeverynuggetofwisdomIcouldgleanfromhim.
Iwasamusician,actressandwriter.Somehow,thoseoccupationsjustdidn’tfitthebillwithmyfather;whatIdidneverseemedtomeethisapproval.Poetryandsongwritingwereintangibleandinvolvedanareaunsafeforhim:
emotions.
“Whatareyoudoingoutthereinthebackyardwithyourguitarandyourjournals,anyway?
”hewouldaskmesarcasticallywhenIwasyounger.
“I’mjustwritingsongs,”Ianswered,tryingnottofeelashamed.
“Writingsongs?
Howareyougoingtoearnaliving?
Whatareyougoingtohavetofallbackon?
”hedemanded,exasperated.
Therewerethingswecouldnevertalkabout,thingsthatwerepainfullyleftunsaid.Iwantedwithallmyhearttotellmydadwhataherohewastome.IwantedhimtounderstandwhoIreallywas.Ibegantowonderifthereasonhecouldn’tapproveofmewasthatheneverreallyapprovedofhimself.Hewassohardoneverybody,buthewasthehardestandmostunforgivingofhimself.Itriedtocrackthedoortohisheartonmanyoccasions.Itriedsohardtosharemyfeelingsandcreateabondofintimacy,butitwastooawkwardforhim,toofrightening.IoftensenthimsentimentalcardsandtoldhimIlovedhim.Hewouldhugme,butthencrackajokeandcoverit.TherewassomuchthatIneededtosaytohim,butIdidn’tknowhowtodoit.
OneFridaynightIcamehomelatefordinnerandmysonannounced,“Grandpa’sbeentryingtocallyoualldayandiswaitingforyoutocallhim.”
Howstrange,Ithought.Itwasalwaysmymomwhodidthelong-distancecallingwhilemydadsatinhisreclinerandreadthepaper,callingoutthingsthatshewassupposedtoremembertotell“thekids.”Whywouldmydadbetryingalldaytoreachme?
Iwastiredandhungryandthoughtaboutcallinghiminthemorning,butdecidedtodialhimthen.Heansweredrightawayandwasrelievedtohearfromme.
“I’vegotaproblem,sweetie,”hesaiddirectly,“andIneedyouradvice.”
Myadvice?
Whenhadmyfathereverapproachedmeasanadultforadvice?
Hewasupsetaboutsomethingsgoingonamongourrelativesandactuallywantedtoconfideinmeaboutit.Iwasshocked.Hewasthoughtfulandintrospectiveanditdrewmein.
“Oh,Iprobablyshouldn’tworryaboutthem,”hesaidtryingtoappearstrong,“butitjustdrivesmecrazy.”
Wetalkedalongtimeandasheopeneduptome,Ifeltthatdoortohisheartcrackopen,somethingIhadwaitedformywholelife.Themorehesharedhisfrustrationsandreachedouttome,themoreIfeltIcouldcrossthelineandtellhimhowIreallyfelt.
“Dad,”Ibegan.“Youknow,you’renotonlyagreatperson,youdidagreatjobasafather.DidIevertellyouthat?
”
Hedidn’tsayanything,butIknewhewaslisteningintently.“Youdidagreatjob,”Iexhorted.“Iknowyou’reupsetnow,butthingswillworkoutwitheverybody.ThemainthingIjustwantyoutodoistogiveyourselfcredit―younevergiveyourselfenoughcredit,Dad.Yousentmetocollege,yougavemeavision,yousupportedme.”
I’dfinallysaidit.
Helaughedgood-naturedly.Icontinued,“Ioweyouathankyou,andIhopeyourealizehowmuchyoudidformeasmydad.”
Icouldalmosthearhimsmilingontheotherend.Iknewhewastouchedandfeltalittleawkward.Hisvoicesoundedshaky.“Well,wegotyoueducated,”hesaid,laughingnervously.
“Youdidmorethanthat,”Isaid.“Youdidgood.”
“Youlikeyourhousenow,andyourlife?
”heaskedquietly,catchingmeoffguard.
“Yeah,Dad,I’mhappy.Youdon’thavetoworry―thingsaregoinggreatforus.”
“That’sgood,”hesaid,withasighofrelief.“Soeverything’sokay,then?
”heasked,almostasifhewerecheckingitalloffalistthatwouldallowhimtoresteasier.
“Everything’sgreat,Dad.”
ItoldhimIlovedhimandhetoldmehelovedmeandIhungupthephone.AsIgotreadyforbed,Ithoughtaboutwhatanamazingconversationwehad.Iwashighwiththeemotionalintimacy,whichhadbeenlongoverdue.
Tenhourslater,mymothercalled,wakingme.Icouldhardlyunderstandwhatshewastryingtosay.
“Yourfather’sdead!
”shescreamed.“Ifoundhimlyingonthediningroomfloor.Hehadjustopenedthedrapestoletthesunin,andhefelloverdead.”
SuddenlyIwasstandingstraightupbesidemybed,clingingtothephoneandsobbing.
“Whereareyourightnow,Mom?
”
“I’msittingherewaitingforthepolicetocome.”
“Areyoutherealone?
”
“Yes,buttheneighborsareontheirwayover.”
Iwasathousandmilesaway.AllIcouldthinkaboutwashowmanyhours,minutesandsecondsitwouldtakemetojumponaplaneandgetthere.Ithoughtaboutmymothersittingtherealonewithmyfather,andIcouldn’tmovefastenough.
Theflightwaslongandpainful,likeaslow-motiondream.Ihadplannedongoinghometoseemydadandmominanothermonth,andIweptaloud,thinkingIwastoolate.ThenIsuddenlyrealizedtheincrediblemiracleofitall:
Ihadn’tbeenlateatall.Actually,everythinghadbeenrightontime.