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Unit1HappyFamilyLife

（1）

PartIWarmingup

A.

Tipsforahappymarriage

1Goondateswitheachother.Renewromanticfeelingsbyspending

specialtimetogether.

2.Beasspecificasyoucanwhenyoucomplain,makearequest,or

offerpraise.

3Whenstressedbyfatigueoryourowninsecurities,imagineyouandyourpartnerinafoxhole,surroundedbydanger.Insteadofstrikingoutatyourpartner,findawaytoprotectthepartnership!

4.Whenyoufeel"distant,"talkaboutitwithyourpartner.

5.Beassuredthatpartnersinallmarriagessometimesgettired,irritable,ordistracted.Worktogethertounderstandeachother.

6.Respecteachother.Leaveifdangerexists.Findprofessionalhelpifphysical,sexual,emotional,orverbalabuseoccurs.

7Fightto"understand,"notto"win."

Tape-script

HereareafewgeneralideasIbelievehelpmakeamarriagework:

1.Goondateswitheachother.Renewromanticfeelingsbyspendingspecialtimetogether.

2.Beasspecificasyoucanwhenyoucomplain,makearequest,orofferpraise.

3.Whenstressedbyfatigueoryourowninsecurities,imagineyouandyourpartnerinafoxhole,surroundedbydanger.Insteadofstrikingoutatyourpartner,findawaytoprotectthepartnership!

4.Whenyoufeel"distant,"talkaboutitwithyourpartner.

5.Beassuredthatpartnersinallmarriagessometimesgettired,irritable,ordistracted.Worktogethertounderstandeachother.

6.Respecteachother.Leaveifdangerexists.Findprofessionalhelpifphysical,sexual,emotional,orverbalabuseoccurs.

7.Fightto"understand,"notto"win."

B.Tapescript:

Havingbeenmarriedformorethan40years,Icanattesttothetruthofthefollowingstatement:

Toexcelintheartofdomesticargument,onemustmastertheartof1osing.

Modernpsychologistsaretakenwiththe"win-win"solution.Butinmarriage,successresidesmorein"lose-lose"solutions.Outofthese,bothpartiescanwin.Forintheloveconfiguration,losinggivesa~thatalwaysreturns.

Theissuesthatpeopleargueovermostinmarriage,suchashowtospendmoney,oftenaren'ttherealones.Thekeyissueis:

Whoisgoingtobeincontrol?

WhenIwasyounger,myneedtocontrolaroseoutoffear,alackoftrust,insecurity.ThedayIfinallyrealizedIdidn'tneedtocontrolmywife--that,indeed,Ioughtnottocontrolher,thatIcouldn'tcontrolher,andthatifItriedto,Iwoulddestroyourmarriage--wasthedayourmarriagebegan.

Whatisitwewantmostfromamarriage?

Toloveandbeloved.Tobehappyandsecure.Togrowtodiscover.Aloverelationshipisthegardeninwhichweplant,cultivateandharvestthemostpreciousofcrops,ourownself,andinwhichourspouseisprovidedthesamerichsoilinwhichtobloom.

Wecannotobtainwhatwewantunlessourpartneralsogetswhatheorshewants.Soremember:

ifyouwanttofeellovedandrespected,giveupcontrol.

1.Thesefamilymembersmustbeabletoshowthattheman'sfamilyisatleastofthesamesocialclassasthewomanandthatacertainamountofmoneyexiststoallowthemarriagetogoforward.

2.ProbablyasfarasIcanseeit,thereasonisthattheygointomarriageorarelationshipwithaveryromanticviewoflovewhichIthinkhasbeencreatedbythepopsongs,byallthelovestories,bytheBarbaraCartlandnovels,etc.,thatyoungpeopleread.

3.Theotherwomanwho..,endeduporderingapizzathathadabunchofstuffonitthatIreallylikedandshe...Iorderedapizzathathadabunchofstuffonitthatshereallyliked,sowepickedateachother'spizzasallnightandwerealizedthatwewere...sortofhadanidealrelationship,sothatwecouldorderreallyanypizzaonthemenuand..,we'dbothbehappy.

PartIIAllyouneedislove?

Criteria1.Havingsimilarsocialbackgrounds.

Criteria2.Havingthesameraceorsameethnicbackground.

Criteria3.Havingthesamereligion.

1.Whydoesthespeakersaythatsomeofthepastpracticesrelatedtomarriagecustomsareweakening?

Japan/9.2%/arrangedmarriages

2.WhydoesthespeakersaythattheracesarestilllargelyseparateinmarriageintheU.S.?

3%/betweenblacksandwhites

A.Tape-script.

ManypeopleinWesterncultureschoosetheirownwivesandhusbands.Inmanyothercultures,spousesareoftenchosenbytheparents.InChinaandJapanbeforethiscentury（20thcentury）,upper-classmarriageswerearrangedbytheoldermales.InmanyculturesintheMiddleEast,Asia,andpre-industrialEurope,theman'sfamilynegotiateda"brideprice"withthewomen'sfamily;theman'sfamilywasexpectedtopayit.InHinduIndia,thebride'sfamilypaida"groom'sprice"tothefamilyoftheman.Thesecustomsareweakening;forinstance,only9.2percentofJapanesemarriagesarenowarranged.

Whatarethecriteriaforchoosingmates?

Mostmarriages-whetherarrange