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哲学家说:
「人因梦想而伟大」,心理学家以「认知改变态度」演绎这句名言,而本书《你做得到-改变人生的100个方法》则以作者的自身体验,詮释了生活中小故事的智慧。
作者曾经以为,其他人在某个时候获赠了一本「如何让人生成功」的指南,而因为某种理由,当他们发这本书时他正好不在。
「一直到三十五、六岁的时候,我还在挣扎,对前途很悲观,生活也没有目标。
」直到他开始接触到「自我激励」的书籍与课程,才逐渐与「沮丧」说再见。
希望快乐、成功、致富是人心底或强烈的慾求,然而事实却是,我们受沮丧、挫折、不良的习惯与负面的想法的折磨。
作者在近中年时才开始这一连串的接触体验,最后他成为一位企业训练专家,四处演讲「自我激励」的主题。
这本书则是收录了他最常与大眾分享的100个促使「改变」发生的信念与方法。
悲观的人看这类像是「卡内基式」的自我激励书籍不免认为:
「他的成功不过是从小幸运吧。
」可亲的是,作者在书中多次自己悲观的幼年期、吸毒的青年期,也提到许多受沮丧困扰的其他人,让读者觉得自己的沮丧并不孤单,而篇幅长度正好,不至於多到让人陷入自怜的情绪中。
过去三十年,大眾心理学与自助式书籍在美国阅读市场佔有一个重要的位置,一方面是由於,不是人人都负担得起接受「心理治疗」的高昂费用,另一方面,这类书籍中强调「我办得到」的积极态度,切中美国人相信人可以经由努力改善人生的信念。
本书则应用「认知改变态度、态度改变行为」这一个心理学概念,鼓励读者,成功始於每一个小小的行动改变。
简单的说,这是一本告诉人如何「成功」的书,藉由对自己正面喊话以鼓舞乐观,尤其适合主管送给新进业务员。
例如,对於财富我们想追求却又犹豫,作者说:
赚钱这件事是「我们以自己对世界的贡献,交换和使用金钱。
」、「如果我活在贫困之中,我能给孩子和其他人多少爱和帮助呢?
」赚钱、赚更多的钱没有什么不对,而且有了更高远的意义。
内容简介
一九七六年,当阿诺史瓦辛格告诉本书作者,他想成为好莱坞最受欢迎的电影明星时,只是一名身躯庞大而笨重的举重选手,且带着一口浓重的奥地利口音。
他达成那个目标的可能性几乎是零,但是阿诺后来做到了。
本书捕捉了阿诺成功的秘诀,再加上许多引人入胜的实际行动方案,将能帮助你培养自我激励的能力,把「如果当初那么做就好了!
」的悲观思想,转化成「我将来可以怎么做?
成为什么样的人?
」的乐观思想。
书中提出的方法,都是来自作者丰富的企业员工训练经验,一百个已被证实最能被人们记住的方法,将有助於你在事业和生活上创造一个行动计画,改变阻碍你达成目标的负面及悲观思想,朝向理想中的人生迈进。
作者:
史蒂夫.钱德勒是美国知名作者、公眾演说家及企业员工训练专家,在全美各地及加拿大为公司企业及非营利组织举行研习营和研讨会。
他为超过400家企业规划员工训练课程,包括:
摩托罗拉、德州仪器(TexasInstruments)、AlliedSignal、微软及AT&
T等。
其着作《你做得到:
改变人生的100个方法》曾荣登美加畅销书排行榜
这是整本书keyponits:
Actionisrequired.Goalsarenotenough.Youhavetotakeaction.
1.Createavision.*
Createavisionofwhoyouwanttobeandliveintothatpictureasifit'
salreadytrue.Youcreateit,youdon'
twaituntilyoureceiveit.Youcanmakeitup.
2.Tellatruelie.
Makeupalieabouthowgreatyouaretomakeyourselfsoundunbelievablywonderful.Thinkofapictureofwhoyouwanttobe.Withoutthatpicture,youcan'
tliveuptothatself.
3.Leaveyourcomfortzone.*
Oursocietyencouragesustoseekcomfort.Andyetonlychallengewilltestourskillsandmakeusbetter.Onlychallengeandtheselfmotivationtoengagethatchallengewilltransformus.Andeverychallengewefacecreatesamoreskillfulself.Lookforchallengestomotivateyourself.It'
suptoyoutonoticeyourstuckinacomfortzone.It'
suptoyoutobreakfreefromitandflyaway.
4.Findyourkey.
Book:
"
TheMasterKeytoRiches"
byNapoleonHill."
Thegreatmasterkeytorichesisnothingmoreorlessthantheselfdisciplinenecessarytotakecompletefullcontrolofyourownmind.Remembertheonlythingyouhavecompletecontrolisyourownmentalattitude."
Maybethehillbookisnotyour"
key"
butyou'
llfindyourowninstructionbookifyoulookforit.It'
soutthere,waitingforyou.
5.Planyourwork.*
Whenyourtoodepressedorwhenyourtooupsettostartsomethingnew.Butthenthat'
stheperfecttimetolearnlife'
simportantrule.Theruleisthetransmutationofthosenegativeemotionsthrough"
definitelyplannedwork."
Definitelyplannedworkisthepathtoselfmotivationafteryoucreateyourvisionofwhoyouwanttobe.DefinitelyplannedworkcontainedthepowerofPURPOSE.Onehourofplanningsavesthreehoursofexecution.Itisimpossibletoworkpassionatelywithasenseofpurposeandfeeldepressedatthesametime.Successfullyplannedworkwillmotivateyoutodomoreandmorethanyoueverthoughtpossible.
6.Moveyourgoalposts.
Mostpeopledon'
trealizethereasontheirnotgettingwhattheywantinlifeisbecausetheirmajorgoalsaretoosmallandtoovague.Andthereforehavenopower.Yourmajorgoalwillnotbereachedifitfailstoexciteyourimagination.WhatreallymovesyouistosetalargeandspecificPOWERgoal.ApowergoalisaDREAMthatdrivesyou.PeoplethatcreatepowergoalsarelivingonPURPOSE.Theyknowwhattheiruptoinlife.Youknowyouhadapowergoalbyobservingit'
seffectonyou.It'
snotwasagoalisthat'
simportant,it'
swhatitdoes.
7.Dribblewithyourotherhand.
It'
snotthatyoucan'
t,it'
sthatyouhaven'
t.Youneedtostartreprogrammingyourhabitsofthinking.Youcanthinkoptimisticallyifyoubuilditupslowlyonethoughtatatime.i.e.withsmallpersistentincrementalvictories.
8.Playyourcharacter.
Howyouactiswhoyoubecome.Wecangetenergyandmotivationbydoingthecharacterwhowewanttobe.Wecanbecomethatcharacterifwepracticebeingthatcharacterallthetime.
9.Don'
tjustdosomething,sitthere.
Sitquietlyanddoabsolutelynothing.Bealoneforalongtimeallbyyourself.Sittinginsilenceallowsyourtruedreaminlifetotakeshapeandclarity.Inlifetoday,youreitherlivingyourdreamorsomeoneelses.Andunlessyougiveyourdreamsthetimeandspaceitneedstoexpressitself,you'
lllivethebetterpartofyourlifelivingthedreamsofotherpeople.
10.Usetherightchemicals.
Usethechemicalsthatalreadyexistsinyoursystemwhenyoulaugh,sing,dance,hugsomeone.Whenyourhavingfun,yourbodychemistrychanges.Onceyoumakeajobfun,yousolvedtheproblemofselfmotivation.
11.Leavehighschool.
Inhighschoolwebecomefearingaboutwhatothersthinkofus.Ourmissioninlifebecamenotbeingembarrassed.Wewereafraidtolookbad,sowemadeapointnottotakerisks.Mostpeopledesignedtheirentirelivesbasedonwhatotherpeoplethinkofthem.Butwecanleavethathabitbehind.Emerson:
WhyshouldthewayIfeeldependonthethoughtinsomeoneelse'
shead."
12.Loseface.
Youcancreateaselfthatdoesn'
tcareaboutwhatotherpeoplethink.Youcanmotivateyourselfbyleavingthepainfulselfconsciousnessofhighschoolbehind.ShowmeaguywhoisafraidtolookbadandIcanshowyouaguyyoucanbeateverytime.
13.Singwithoutfeeling.
Becomeaperformer.Actlikeyoufeellikeyouwanttofeel."
Wedonotsingbecausewe'
rehappy.We'
rehappybecausewesing."
Ifyouwanttobehappy,findthehappiestsongyouknowandsingit.Itworks.
14.Killyourtelevision.*
Ifyourwatchingtoomuchtelevision,youmightfinditusefultoaskthisquestion.Whichsideoftheglassdoyouwanttoliveon?
Whenyouwatchingtelevision,you'
rewatchingotherpeopledowhattheylovetodoforaliving.Thosepeopleareonthebestsideoftheglassbecausethey'
rehavingfunandyou'
repassivelywatchingthemhavefun.They'
regettingmoneyandyou'
retheonepaying."
Ifindtelevisionveryeducational.Everytimesometurnsiton,Igototheotherroomtoreadabook."
15.Readyourselfastory.*
AbrahamLincolnwouldreadthenewspapereverydayaloud.Hediscoveredthatherememberedtwiceasmuchifhereadaloudthanifhereaditsilentlyandherememberedtwiceaslongofatime.
16.Getonyourdeathbed.*
Manyofuskeeppretendingthatourgamehasnoend.Weplantodogreatthingssomedaywhenwefeellikeit.Confrontingourowndeathdoesn'
thavetowaituntilwerunoutoflife.Infactbeingabletovividlyimagineourlasthoursonourdeathbedcreatesaparadoxicalsensation.Thefeelingofbeingbornalloveragainandthat'
sthefirststepofselfmotivation.
17.Belazytobeginwith.****
"
Thereisn'
tanyjobthatcan'
tbehandledifyoubreakitdownintosmallpieces"
-HenryFord.Whenyoubreakajobdown,remembertoallowyourselfsomelazinessinthebeginning.Becauseitisn'
timportanthowfastyou'
redoingit,what'
simportantisthatyouAREdoingit.Theironyis,thesloweryoustartsomething,thefasteryou'
llfinish.Whenyoufirstthinkaboutdoingsomethinghardandoverwhelming,you'
remostlyawareofhowyoudon'
twanttodoitatall.Inotherwords,thementalpictureyouhaveofdoingtheactivityfastandfuriouslyisnotahappypicturesoyouthinkofwaystoavoiddoingthejoballtogether.Thinkingaboutstartingslowlyiseasy.Anddoingitslowlyallowsyoutoactuallystartdoingit.Thereforeitgetsfinished.
18.Leaveyourfriends.
Stayawayfromsoulcallfriendswhodon'
tsupportyourgoals.Whenyou'
reinaconversionwithapessimistspossibilitiesseemstohaveawayofdisappearingandasenseofcynicism.Remember,cynicsdonotcreate.Everyoneknowsthatenthusiasmiscontagious.Andbeinginaconversationwithanoptimistopensusuptomoreandmoreoflife'
spossibilities.
19.Planyougame.
Designyourownlifegameplan.Letthegamerespondtoyouratherthantheotherwayaround.ActonthecrucialdifferencebetweenCREATINGverusRESPONDING.
20.FindyourinnerEinstein.
ThenexttimeyouseeapictureofAlbertEinstein,realizethat'
sactuallyyou.Everyhumanhasthecapacityofgenius.ToexperienceEinstein'
screativelevelofthinkingallyouhavetodoiscommenttousingyourimagination.Thisissometimesadifficultrecommendationforgrownupstofollow.Grownupsbecomeusingtheirimaginationforonlyonething,worrying.Grownupsvisualizeworstcasescenariosalldaylong.Alltheirenergyforvisualizationischanneledintocolorfulpicturesofwhatcangowrong.WorryingisaMISUSEoftheimagination.Whatpeopledon'
tcomprehendisthatthehumanimaginationwasdesignedforbetterthings.Peoplewhousetheirimaginationtocreateoftenachievethingsthatworriersneverdreamofachieving.EveniftheworriershavemuchhigherIQ(s).Dreamingisthedesignstageofcreatingthefuture.Imagineyourselflivingamotivatedlife.
21.Feelgoodfirst.*
Mostpeoplethinkthey'
llfeelgoodoncetheyreachsomegoal.TheythinkhappinessisOUTTHEREsomewhere.Theproblemwithfeelinggoodaboutyourselfuntilyouhitagoalisthatitmightneverhappen.Bylinkinghappinesstosomethingyoudon'
thaveyet,youdenyingyourselfthepowertocreateitinthemoment.Yourhappinessisyourbirthright.Itshouldn'
tdependonyouACHIEVINGsomething.Startb