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哲学家说：

「人因梦想而伟大」，心理学家以「认知改变态度」演绎这句名言，而本书《你做得到-改变人生的100个方法》则以作者的自身体验，詮释了生活中小故事的智慧。

作者曾经以为，其他人在某个时候获赠了一本「如何让人生成功」的指南，而因为某种理由，当他们发这本书时他正好不在。

「一直到三十五、六岁的时候，我还在挣扎，对前途很悲观，生活也没有目标。

」直到他开始接触到「自我激励」的书籍与课程，才逐渐与「沮丧」说再见。

希望快乐、成功、致富是人心底或强烈的慾求，然而事实却是，我们受沮丧、挫折、不良的习惯与负面的想法的折磨。

作者在近中年时才开始这一连串的接触体验，最后他成为一位企业训练专家，四处演讲「自我激励」的主题。

这本书则是收录了他最常与大眾分享的100个促使「改变」发生的信念与方法。

悲观的人看这类像是「卡内基式」的自我激励书籍不免认为：

「他的成功不过是从小幸运吧。

」可亲的是，作者在书中多次自己悲观的幼年期、吸毒的青年期，也提到许多受沮丧困扰的其他人，让读者觉得自己的沮丧并不孤单，而篇幅长度正好，不至於多到让人陷入自怜的情绪中。

过去三十年，大眾心理学与自助式书籍在美国阅读市场佔有一个重要的位置，一方面是由於，不是人人都负担得起接受「心理治疗」的高昂费用，另一方面，这类书籍中强调「我办得到」的积极态度，切中美国人相信人可以经由努力改善人生的信念。

本书则应用「认知改变态度、态度改变行为」这一个心理学概念，鼓励读者，成功始於每一个小小的行动改变。

简单的说，这是一本告诉人如何「成功」的书，藉由对自己正面喊话以鼓舞乐观，尤其适合主管送给新进业务员。

例如，对於财富我们想追求却又犹豫，作者说：

赚钱这件事是「我们以自己对世界的贡献，交换和使用金钱。

」、「如果我活在贫困之中，我能给孩子和其他人多少爱和帮助呢？

」赚钱、赚更多的钱没有什么不对，而且有了更高远的意义。

内容简介

一九七六年，当阿诺史瓦辛格告诉本书作者，他想成为好莱坞最受欢迎的电影明星时，只是一名身躯庞大而笨重的举重选手，且带着一口浓重的奥地利口音。

他达成那个目标的可能性几乎是零，但是阿诺后来做到了。

本书捕捉了阿诺成功的秘诀，再加上许多引人入胜的实际行动方案，将能帮助你培养自我激励的能力，把「如果当初那么做就好了！

」的悲观思想，转化成「我将来可以怎么做？

成为什么样的人？

」的乐观思想。

书中提出的方法，都是来自作者丰富的企业员工训练经验，一百个已被证实最能被人们记住的方法，将有助於你在事业和生活上创造一个行动计画，改变阻碍你达成目标的负面及悲观思想，朝向理想中的人生迈进。

作者：

史蒂夫．钱德勒是美国知名作者、公眾演说家及企业员工训练专家，在全美各地及加拿大为公司企业及非营利组织举行研习营和研讨会。

他为超过400家企业规划员工训练课程，包括：

摩托罗拉、德州仪器（TexasInstruments）、AlliedSignal、微软及AT&

T等。

其着作《你做得到：

改变人生的100个方法》曾荣登美加畅销书排行榜

这是整本书keyponits:

Actionisrequired.Goalsarenotenough.Youhavetotakeaction.

1.Createavision.*

Createavisionofwhoyouwanttobeandliveintothatpictureasifit'

salreadytrue.Youcreateit,youdon'

twaituntilyoureceiveit.Youcanmakeitup.

2.Tellatruelie.

Makeupalieabouthowgreatyouaretomakeyourselfsoundunbelievablywonderful.Thinkofapictureofwhoyouwanttobe.Withoutthatpicture,youcan'

tliveuptothatself.

3.Leaveyourcomfortzone.*

Oursocietyencouragesustoseekcomfort.Andyetonlychallengewilltestourskillsandmakeusbetter.Onlychallengeandtheselfmotivationtoengagethatchallengewilltransformus.Andeverychallengewefacecreatesamoreskillfulself.Lookforchallengestomotivateyourself.It'

suptoyoutonoticeyourstuckinacomfortzone.It'

suptoyoutobreakfreefromitandflyaway.

4.Findyourkey.

Book:

"

TheMasterKeytoRiches"

byNapoleonHill."

Thegreatmasterkeytorichesisnothingmoreorlessthantheselfdisciplinenecessarytotakecompletefullcontrolofyourownmind.Remembertheonlythingyouhavecompletecontrolisyourownmentalattitude."

Maybethehillbookisnotyour"

key"

butyou'

llfindyourowninstructionbookifyoulookforit.It'

soutthere,waitingforyou.

5.Planyourwork.*

Whenyourtoodepressedorwhenyourtooupsettostartsomethingnew.Butthenthat'

stheperfecttimetolearnlife'

simportantrule.Theruleisthetransmutationofthosenegativeemotionsthrough"

definitelyplannedwork."

Definitelyplannedworkisthepathtoselfmotivationafteryoucreateyourvisionofwhoyouwanttobe.DefinitelyplannedworkcontainedthepowerofPURPOSE.Onehourofplanningsavesthreehoursofexecution.Itisimpossibletoworkpassionatelywithasenseofpurposeandfeeldepressedatthesametime.Successfullyplannedworkwillmotivateyoutodomoreandmorethanyoueverthoughtpossible.

6.Moveyourgoalposts.

Mostpeopledon'

trealizethereasontheirnotgettingwhattheywantinlifeisbecausetheirmajorgoalsaretoosmallandtoovague.Andthereforehavenopower.Yourmajorgoalwillnotbereachedifitfailstoexciteyourimagination.WhatreallymovesyouistosetalargeandspecificPOWERgoal.ApowergoalisaDREAMthatdrivesyou.PeoplethatcreatepowergoalsarelivingonPURPOSE.Theyknowwhattheiruptoinlife.Youknowyouhadapowergoalbyobservingit'

seffectonyou.It'

snotwasagoalisthat'

simportant,it'

swhatitdoes.

7.Dribblewithyourotherhand.

It'

snotthatyoucan'

t,it'

sthatyouhaven'

t.Youneedtostartreprogrammingyourhabitsofthinking.Youcanthinkoptimisticallyifyoubuilditupslowlyonethoughtatatime.i.e.withsmallpersistentincrementalvictories.

8.Playyourcharacter.

Howyouactiswhoyoubecome.Wecangetenergyandmotivationbydoingthecharacterwhowewanttobe.Wecanbecomethatcharacterifwepracticebeingthatcharacterallthetime.

9.Don'

tjustdosomething,sitthere.

Sitquietlyanddoabsolutelynothing.Bealoneforalongtimeallbyyourself.Sittinginsilenceallowsyourtruedreaminlifetotakeshapeandclarity.Inlifetoday,youreitherlivingyourdreamorsomeoneelses.Andunlessyougiveyourdreamsthetimeandspaceitneedstoexpressitself,you'

lllivethebetterpartofyourlifelivingthedreamsofotherpeople.

10.Usetherightchemicals.

Usethechemicalsthatalreadyexistsinyoursystemwhenyoulaugh,sing,dance,hugsomeone.Whenyourhavingfun,yourbodychemistrychanges.Onceyoumakeajobfun,yousolvedtheproblemofselfmotivation.

11.Leavehighschool.

Inhighschoolwebecomefearingaboutwhatothersthinkofus.Ourmissioninlifebecamenotbeingembarrassed.Wewereafraidtolookbad,sowemadeapointnottotakerisks.Mostpeopledesignedtheirentirelivesbasedonwhatotherpeoplethinkofthem.Butwecanleavethathabitbehind.Emerson:

WhyshouldthewayIfeeldependonthethoughtinsomeoneelse'

shead."

12.Loseface.

Youcancreateaselfthatdoesn'

tcareaboutwhatotherpeoplethink.Youcanmotivateyourselfbyleavingthepainfulselfconsciousnessofhighschoolbehind.ShowmeaguywhoisafraidtolookbadandIcanshowyouaguyyoucanbeateverytime.

13.Singwithoutfeeling.

Becomeaperformer.Actlikeyoufeellikeyouwanttofeel."

Wedonotsingbecausewe'

rehappy.We'

rehappybecausewesing."

Ifyouwanttobehappy,findthehappiestsongyouknowandsingit.Itworks.

14.Killyourtelevision.*

Ifyourwatchingtoomuchtelevision,youmightfinditusefultoaskthisquestion.Whichsideoftheglassdoyouwanttoliveon?

Whenyouwatchingtelevision,you'

rewatchingotherpeopledowhattheylovetodoforaliving.Thosepeopleareonthebestsideoftheglassbecausethey'

rehavingfunandyou'

repassivelywatchingthemhavefun.They'

regettingmoneyandyou'

retheonepaying."

Ifindtelevisionveryeducational.Everytimesometurnsiton,Igototheotherroomtoreadabook."

15.Readyourselfastory.*

AbrahamLincolnwouldreadthenewspapereverydayaloud.Hediscoveredthatherememberedtwiceasmuchifhereadaloudthanifhereaditsilentlyandherememberedtwiceaslongofatime.

16.Getonyourdeathbed.*

Manyofuskeeppretendingthatourgamehasnoend.Weplantodogreatthingssomedaywhenwefeellikeit.Confrontingourowndeathdoesn'

thavetowaituntilwerunoutoflife.Infactbeingabletovividlyimagineourlasthoursonourdeathbedcreatesaparadoxicalsensation.Thefeelingofbeingbornalloveragainandthat'

sthefirststepofselfmotivation.

17.Belazytobeginwith.****

"

Thereisn'

tanyjobthatcan'

tbehandledifyoubreakitdownintosmallpieces"

-HenryFord.Whenyoubreakajobdown,remembertoallowyourselfsomelazinessinthebeginning.Becauseitisn'

timportanthowfastyou'

redoingit,what'

simportantisthatyouAREdoingit.Theironyis,thesloweryoustartsomething,thefasteryou'

llfinish.Whenyoufirstthinkaboutdoingsomethinghardandoverwhelming,you'

remostlyawareofhowyoudon'

twanttodoitatall.Inotherwords,thementalpictureyouhaveofdoingtheactivityfastandfuriouslyisnotahappypicturesoyouthinkofwaystoavoiddoingthejoballtogether.Thinkingaboutstartingslowlyiseasy.Anddoingitslowlyallowsyoutoactuallystartdoingit.Thereforeitgetsfinished.

18.Leaveyourfriends.

Stayawayfromsoulcallfriendswhodon'

tsupportyourgoals.Whenyou'

reinaconversionwithapessimistspossibilitiesseemstohaveawayofdisappearingandasenseofcynicism.Remember,cynicsdonotcreate.Everyoneknowsthatenthusiasmiscontagious.Andbeinginaconversationwithanoptimistopensusuptomoreandmoreoflife'

spossibilities.

19.Planyougame.

Designyourownlifegameplan.Letthegamerespondtoyouratherthantheotherwayaround.ActonthecrucialdifferencebetweenCREATINGverusRESPONDING.

20.FindyourinnerEinstein.

ThenexttimeyouseeapictureofAlbertEinstein,realizethat'

sactuallyyou.Everyhumanhasthecapacityofgenius.ToexperienceEinstein'

screativelevelofthinkingallyouhavetodoiscommenttousingyourimagination.Thisissometimesadifficultrecommendationforgrownupstofollow.Grownupsbecomeusingtheirimaginationforonlyonething,worrying.Grownupsvisualizeworstcasescenariosalldaylong.Alltheirenergyforvisualizationischanneledintocolorfulpicturesofwhatcangowrong.WorryingisaMISUSEoftheimagination.Whatpeopledon'

tcomprehendisthatthehumanimaginationwasdesignedforbetterthings.Peoplewhousetheirimaginationtocreateoftenachievethingsthatworriersneverdreamofachieving.EveniftheworriershavemuchhigherIQ（s）.Dreamingisthedesignstageofcreatingthefuture.Imagineyourselflivingamotivatedlife.

21.Feelgoodfirst.*

Mostpeoplethinkthey'

llfeelgoodoncetheyreachsomegoal.TheythinkhappinessisOUTTHEREsomewhere.Theproblemwithfeelinggoodaboutyourselfuntilyouhitagoalisthatitmightneverhappen.Bylinkinghappinesstosomethingyoudon'

thaveyet,youdenyingyourselfthepowertocreateitinthemoment.Yourhappinessisyourbirthright.Itshouldn'

tdependonyouACHIEVINGsomething.Startb