1、E 718渣男鉴别攻略 告别错的才能找到真爱(双语)来源:沪江英语)He offers to buy you a drink then insists that you owe him one in return。他会主动给你买饮料,然后坚持说你回头欠他一瓶I have finally just learned what a “fuckboy” is, and Im so glad someone came up for a word for the guy weve known, for generations, to exist. Fuckboys look different as ti
2、me moves on, but they are, at their core, exactly the same。我最终明白渣男是怎么一回事。有人给这样一个世世代代都存在的类型的人起了“渣男”这一称呼,让我很是高兴。时代在发展,渣男的外表也在改变,但他们实际在本质上却是一样的。In the real world, fuckboys are everywhere. And the main thing you need to know about a fuckboy is that this isnt the kind of guy you want to be messing with.
3、Fuckboys, primarily, do not respect women。现实是渣男到处有。而对于渣男,你主要需要了解,这类男孩是你不想扯上关系的。说白了,渣男不尊重女性。He doesnt know how to cook, and is proud of it。他不懂得怎么烧菜,却以此为傲When you run into people he knows in public, he either doesnt introduce you, or refers to you as his “friend” even though youve been dating for mont
4、hs。当你在公共场合碰到了他认识的人,他要么不把你介绍给人认识,要么把你称为他的“红颜知己”,即便你几个月前便名花有主Or worse, ab pics。或者更糟,秀腹肌图片。注:ab=the muscle of abdomenHe wont stand up for you, ever, even when youre being hurt or are in the right。当你正伤心,甚至是在有理的一方时,他也不愿站出来挺你15招合格绅士炼成法:做你的完美男友(双语)男士们还在为找不到合适的女朋友而担心吗,快学学下面的小贴士,帮你成功找到你的女神。 来源:沪江英语)1. A gent
5、leman opens doors for a lady。绅士会为女士开门。As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but rather courtesy and deference。对于绅士而言,所有女性都应该被当成“女士”对待。开门不是一种谦虚的手势,更是礼节和尊重。小编提示:为女士开门(开车门也不例外),是绅士“女士优先”礼节的显现。2. A gentleman
6、 walks closest to the curb。绅士走在靠近路边的一侧。The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities。这个做法是为了保护女士免收交通、碎石、水坑还有其他城市灾害。3. A gentleman gives her his jacket。绅士会为她披上自己的外套。Especially when its freezing. Especially when its snowing. Especially in the rain.
7、If she looks cold, shes cold. Just take your jacket off。尤其是寒冷的天气。尤其是下雪天。尤其是阴雨连绵,如果她身着单薄,她定是觉得寒冷。脱下你的大衣(给她披上)吧。4. A gentleman rises when she enters the room。绅士在她进入房间时会站起身来。You should also rise when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again when she returns. Even a partial ris
8、ing shows gentle manners, but its best to fully stand if possible。你也应该在她离开时再次起身。在饭间,当她借口离开时你也要起身,她回来时也一样。甚至半起身也能展现你的良好教养,但是如果可能的话,还是全身直立为好。5. A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often。绅士时常给予真挚的赞美。The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date should be along the lines of y
9、ou look stunning.你和女士约会时,从你口中说出的第一句话必然是:“你看上去美极了。”小编提示:即使你们在恋爱,真正的绅士都会像初见你时那样,真挚用心的赞美你。6. A gentleman helps her to be seated。绅士帮助她就坐。1) Pull the chair out for her。为她拉开椅子。2) As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest。当她屈膝坐下时,轻轻双手为她推进椅背。小编提示:把这点记在你的约会笔记里,是迅速提升好感
10、的方法哦7. A gentleman says please and thank you.绅士会说“请”和“谢谢”。Far too often overlooked, a simple please and thank you can go a very long way。常常被忽略的一句简单的“请”和“谢谢”恒久受用。8. A gentleman minds his table manners。绅士注重他的餐桌礼节。Even if youve never mastered the continental style of using utensils (left hand, fork; ri
11、ght hand, knife), it doesnt take any training to not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open。即使你从不精通于使用欧式餐具(左手拿叉右手拿刀),嘴里塞得满满,或是咀嚼东西的时候不要开口说话,这不需要任何训练吧。9. A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter。绅士从不因任何事对服务员、调酒师,或其他人无礼。There is nothing more offe
12、nsive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors。没有什么比居高临下同别人说话,还有对待他们似乎是自己的下级那样更冒犯了。小编提示:其实我们生活中很常见的一类人就是“snobbery”(摆绅士架子):ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you(无礼,并对你身边的每个人态度恶劣)。10. A gentleman pays。绅士会你付钱。Under no circumstances should she see the check
13、or have any idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as always。在任何情况都不能让她看到你付了多少钱。一个抿嘴的微笑代表了你永远都是她的友人。小编提示:英文中有个词叫“going Dutch” (各付各帐,AA制),这个词其实有侮辱的意味,因为真正的绅士才不会让女士掏腰包呢!11. A gentleman listens。绅士会倾听。Listening does not mean waiting for your chance to talk. It means being attenti
14、ve, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someones emotional landscape。倾听并不代表“等待你开口诉说的机会。”这意味着你要很留心,学着去理解回答,理解回应,并引导他人的情绪。12. A gentleman pays attention to details。绅士注重细节。Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size. Her favorite color. This infor
15、mation will prove useful and when it does it shows you care。在脑中记下这些细节:她喜欢什么,不喜欢什么,她的鞋码,她最喜欢的颜色。这些信息会证明它们的用处,用处一旦显现就证明你在意她。13. A gentleman is a jack of all trades。绅士样样全能。A gentleman knows how to do things. He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that life throws at him。一个绅士了
16、解如何做事。他很自信,并且交际灵活,有能力掌控任何生活中的任何突发状况。14. A gentleman shows initiative。绅士展现出主动性If youre asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better.have an actual opinion. They both look the same or whatever you like are not actual opinions. Likewise, if youre asking someone on a date,
17、 have a destination in mind. Have a plan。如果她问你哪条裙子,哪件牛仔裤,或是哪双鞋更好看真诚的给她建议。“它们看上去没差,”或是“你喜欢就好”不是真挚的建议。同样的,如果你要提出约会,脑中要有个目的地,一个方案。15. He goes out of his way to let her know he cares. Every. Single. Day。他总会用自己的方式让她知道,他在意她。每一天。Flowers. Affectionate post-it notes. Simple compliments. All of those things a
18、dd up. So show your affection every day。鲜花,深情款款的留言,简单的赞美,所有这些叠加起来,足以证明你日日的爱恋双语:调查显示只要熬过40岁工作越来越顺心来源:沪江英语)It is a popular internet thing to focus on the upside of being in your 30s, and it is nice to know how to do basic modern-human-being things like paying your taxes and cooking a simple meal. But
19、it can be a less-rosy story at work: People in their late 20s to early 40s tend to report lower levels of job satisfaction and higher levels of emotional exhaustion than other age groups, according to new research。人们喜欢在网上关注30岁后的种种好事。30岁以后,你会掌握各种现代人类必备基本技能,比如说如何纳税和做煎蛋饭菜。但是在工作上事情就不那么美好了:根据最新研究显示,相对于其他
20、年龄段的人,将近30到40出头这个年龄段的人普遍感到工作满意度较低、情绪衰竭度较高Theres the obvious reason: These tend to be the ages that people have young children at home, and the researchers did find that this group reported feeling increasingly crunched for time. But adding to that pressure, co-worker support also tends to dissipate
21、at this age. BPS Research Digest interprets the findings:一个显而易见的原因是:处于这一年龄段的人往往负担着养育幼子的责任该研究发现,这些人群往往感到时间上越来越有压迫感。不仅如此,在这一年龄段,同事间的合作关系也开始涣散。英国心理学会博客对这一现象作出了如下解释:Support from co-workers probably dips in midlife as peers compete for scarce resources (promotion bottlenecks are often encountered during
22、this career stage). Also, whereas younger counterparts are often hungry to forge new social networks, and older workers seek identity-affirming work experiences in their remaining tenure, midlifers find it demanding enough just to maintain existing social networks. Meanwhile, time pressure likely in
23、tensifies mid-career as colleagues try to leverage ones knowledge and experience。在中年时期,同志之间为了争夺稀缺资源(在这个职场阶段,许多人会遭遇升职瓶颈),对彼此的支持程度很可能降低。不仅如此,年轻一辈的职员在饥渴的构建新的社交人脉网络,老一辈的职员则是在任职的中间阶段探寻维护自己的职场地位的方法,如此一来,对这些中年人来说,要维持现有的社交人脉网络就已经够受的了。与此同时,由于其他同事竭力凸显自己的学识和资历,这些中年职员还会感到时间上的压迫感越来越强烈。But the good news is that a
24、fter about a decade of suck, things start to pick back up again. Occupational psychologists say that happiness at work recovers when people reach their 40s, and that people in their 50s are more satisfied with their jobs than any other age group. Hang in there, 30-somethings soon you will be old(er)
25、, but at least work will suck less!但是,好消息是,在十年艰苦的日子之后,这种状况就会好转起来。职业心理学家称,到人们四十几岁的时候,对工作的满意程度就会恢复,而五十多岁的人对自己的工作比任何其他年龄层的人都满意。坚持住,而立之年的人们很快你们会变老,但至少生活不会这么糟糕了!爱的代价:研究称谈恋爱会损失2个好友(组图)来源:沪江英语)Falling in love comes at the cost of losing close friends, because romantic partners absorb time that would otherw
26、ise be invested in platonic relationships, researchers say。研究者称谈恋爱的代价是损失亲密的朋友,因为恋人会占用原本投入到友情中的时间。A new partner pushes out two close friends on average, leaving lovers with a smaller inner circle of people they can turn to in times of crisis, a study found。一项研究表明,谈一次恋爱平均让人损失两个朋友,使得他们身处困境时可以求助的好朋友更少。T
27、he research, led by Robin Dunbar, head of the Institute of Cognitive and Evolutionary Anthropology at Oxford University, showed that men and women were equally likely to lose their closest friends when they started a new relationship。这项研究由牛津大学人类认知与进化学研究协会会长罗宾邓巴发起,研究显示无论男性还是女性,开始一段新恋情都会使他们失去亲密的朋友。Pre
28、vious research by Dunbars group has shown that people typically have five very close relationships that is, people whom they would turn to if they were in emotional or financial trouble。邓巴的团队在之前的研究发现人们通常维系五段亲密关系也就是5个在发生情感危机或是财政危机时能求助的人。If you go into a romantic relationship, it costs you two friends
29、. Those who have romantic relationships, instead of having the typical five core set of relationships only have four. And of those, one is the new person whos come into their life, said Dunbar。邓巴称:“如果你谈恋爱了,那么你会失去两个朋友。那些谈恋爱的人只维系4段亲密关系,而不是一般人的5段。并且其中一个是才开始关系,刚要融入他生活的人。”The study, submitted to the jour
30、nal Personal Relationships, was designed to investigate how people trade off spending time with one person over another and suggests that links with family and closest friends suffer when people start a romantic relationship。这项研究已提交给了杂志个人关系,研究意在调查人们如何分配自己与人交往的时间,结果表明人们开始一段恋情时,亲情和友情会受到影响。Dunbars team
31、 used an internet-based questionnaire to quiz 428 women and 112 men about their relationships. In total, 363 of the participants had romantic partners. The findings suggest that a new love interest has to compensate for the loss of two close friends。邓巴的团队通过网上发起问卷,调查了428位女性和112位男性的个人关系。参与调查的人中,总共有363位有恋人。结果表明新的恋情是以牺牲两个死党为代价的。Speaking at the British Science Festival in Birmingham, Professor Dunbar said: This was a surprise for us. We hadnt expected it. 在伯明翰举行的英国科学节上,邓巴说:“研究结果令人意外,我们从未料想过。”If you dont see people, y
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