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1、 2. 不要悲观 既然你已经怀疑你自己了，那就别再去怀疑别人了。你不喜欢别人批评你，所以也不要去批评别人。想想你做的事情会给别人怎么样的影响即使你是为了他们好，别人也不喜欢听到一些悲观的事情。 3. 不要拖延 我现在不想做-明天再做吧。当你拖延的时候，你仍旧停滞不前。无论你怎么拖延，你要做的事情还是得做；把问题解决了，才能继续向前。长此以往，你会更快乐。 4. 不要卑鄙 如果你踩到别人的鞋带，这完全可能不是你自己故意的但这些事总是发生。我们没有必要故意去做一些卑鄙的事情，所以有意识地让自己别再卑鄙了。如果有人做了对不起你的事，让他去吧。没有必要找机会复仇，除非你就是想做那样的人。 5. 不要出

2、去吃饭 外出吃饭是最浪费钱的。你觉得这是对你自己很好的待遇，但外出吃饭却是让你用完自己积蓄最快的方式。至少学着怎么烹调一些你自己喜欢的食物：那不仅可以省钱，还可以让你更健康，偶尔还能让别人眼前一亮。 6. 不要懒惰 懒人是很恼人的想让他们做点事情简直比登天还难。如果我连像自己看电影这种再平常不过的事都做不到，比起我还用了一个小时去劝你跟我一起去看电影，而你仍旧不愿意起床，那我宁愿一个人去。人们总是很难激励自己；更不要让你的朋友和家人浪费他们宝贵的精力去激励你。 7. 不要抱怨 我们都会遇到问题，有时候我们需要向别人倾诉。那是可以接受的，但是要注意你是怎么倾诉的。我们都喜欢帮助我们的朋友跟家人，

3、但是如果你从别人那里听到的全是悲观的东西，那打垮他们比帮助他们要简单得多，尤其是他们总是在抱怨同样的事情的时候。 8. 不要自私 如果你以自我为中心，你就只会看到你自己。用一分钟来想想你的行为是怎么影响别人的你有没有把休息室里的最后一杯咖啡喝掉了？再把它装满！你是不是跟别人住的？别把盒子里的牛奶喝光。所有的时间里，我们都在同时分享着这个世界，所以你的每一种行为都能影响到其他人。 9. 不要浪费时间 我曾经说过，接下来我还会再说：时间是我们所拥有的最宝贵的资源。不要把你的时间浪费在一些没有价值的事情上。如果你想要探索这个世界的黑暗角落，那就太棒了。我也认识一些没有固定工作的一些自由职业者，但我不

4、会以牺牲自己的短期或长期的目标为代价跟他们出去玩乐。 10. 不要给别人承诺 总是做出承诺，却总是做不到。当你每次做出承诺的时候，不仅给自己增添了责任，无论你的出发点有多好，你都不可能完成所有的事情。很多时候，你的承诺都太过绝对（比如“我发誓我永远爱你”），也只能在绝对的条件下才能实现。与其许下承诺，还不如在别人需要你的时候出现，然后用行动达到他们的期望。 11. 不要再做老好人 我们都生活在一个资本主义社会里，每个人都试图向我们推销什么。每个人再以这样或那样的方式找寻着自己，你也需要那样做。别因为你太害羞而不能拒绝却让害了自己。 12. 别听那些嫉妒你的人的话 无论你想干什么，总会有人告诉你

5、为什么不要这么做，那没有用。我可以想出成百万条推特不实用的理由，但它仍旧是互联网上最流行的社交网站之一。我的想法不会影响推特的成功，就像你无法劝科比退出NBA或乔什哈奈特不要当演员了一样，都毫无意义。那么为什么要让别人的想法来牵绊你呢？ 13. 别再浪费 你还没把饭吃完，就把食物扔掉了；刷牙的时候，水龙头还开着，宝贵的水就那样哗哗的流走；明明可以走到的地方你偏要开车，浪费汽油（无法再生资源）。如果你浪费了，那就赶紧停止这一恶习。 14. 不要乱扔垃圾 唯一让我觉得比浪费的人更可恶的就是乱丢垃圾的人。我最厌恶这种人，而且这种人永远多得让你数不清。如果你曾扔过一块口香糖，一张纸、糖果包装、烟蒂，那

6、么你就是恶心的乱丢垃圾的人。你应该为你自己感到耻辱。世界上有超过70亿的人如果每个人都无意识的往地上扔垃圾，那么全世界就会变成一个有70亿垃圾的垃圾场，还找不到罪魁祸首。 你的一个决定会改变很多，我不会让你去大马路大声高呼。如果你是那种人，那么就需要马上停止了。你要是不这么做的话，那就跟肮脏的动物一样了。停止这一举动吧，你已经知道该怎么做了。 15. 别把每件事太往心里去 人们会因为一些奇怪的事情感到被侵犯了。就拿Kendrick Lamar这个夏天备受争议的歌曲Control为例：他在歌词中挑衅了一些他认为比他弱的说唱歌手（的确是这样），一时激起千层浪，整个说唱界的歌手都蜂拥录歌作为回击。重

7、点在于，所有的人都认为自己是最好的说唱者。每个人都把这件事太往心里去，这就是他的目的所在。这件事教给我们的无非就是不是所有的事都要围着你转，如果你太在意，总会被别人利用以此来达到他的目的。 16. 不要再乱说话 有时候干脆就闭嘴吧特别在人际关系里。我都记不清有多少次因为说错话引发了本可以避免的争端。即使你想说的非常重要，那也闭嘴，自行消化。你可以用行动证明一切，毕竟你自己说话的时候是听不见的。附：英文版Life is short. It may feel like it takes forever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and

8、 a short time later, you die. It happens so quickly, many people dont even realize they had a life until its already over.1. Stop Doubting YourselfIf you dont believe in yourself, nobody will. Success starts in your mind, and if all youre doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, itll b

9、ecome a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and more successful, youll spread it to everyone around you.2. Stop Being NegativeNow that youre done doubting yourself, stop doubting others. You dont like when people are critical of you,

10、 so stop being critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel even if you have good intentions, people dont like hearing negativity.3. Stop ProcrastinatingI dont feel like procrastinating right now Ill do it tomorrow. When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whatever youre puttin

11、g off doesnt go away; resolve the problem, and move on. Youll be much happier in the long run.4. Stop Being MeanIts completely possible to step on someones toes without meaning to it happens all the time. Theres no need to pile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stop

12、 being mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. Theres no need to seek vengeance unless thats the type of person you want to be.5. Stop Eating OutEating out is the biggest waste of money. Every so often its nice to treat yourself, but eating out for every meal is the quickest way to drain your bank a

13、ccount. Learn how to cook at least a handful of foods you enjoy: Itll save you money, keep you healthier, and occasionally impress people.6. Stop Being LazyLazy people are annoying its like pulling teeth getting them to do anything. If I cant do something as simple as going to a movie with you witho

14、ut having to factor in an hour of convincing you to get your lazy butt out of bed, Id rather go alone. People have enough trouble motivating themselves; dont make your friends and family waste their valuable energy motivating you as well.7. Stop ComplainingWe all have problems, and sometimes we need

15、 to vent to someone. Thats acceptable, but pay attention to how often youre venting. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get from someone is negativity, its easier to cut them off than help, especially if theyre always complaining about the same things.8. Stop Being SelfishI

16、f you only think about yourself, youll soon find yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute and think about how your actions affect other people did you take the last cup of coffee from the break room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Dont drink out the milk carton. We share this world 100% of the t

17、ime, so every action you take can affect other people.9. Stop Wasting TimeIve said it before, and Ill say it again: time is the most valuable resource we have. Dont waste your time on unproductive things. If you want to explore the worlds dark corners, thats great. I still associate with people who

18、have not-so-kosher careers, but I dont hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-term goals.10. Stop Making PromisesAlways under-promise and over-deliver. When you make a promise, youre adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not

19、be able to deliver on. More often than not, your promise is an absolute （i.e “I promise Ill always love you”），and only Sith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply be there when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions.11. Stop Being a PushoverW

20、e live in a capitalistic society in which everyones trying to sell us something. Everyones looking out for themselves in one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself out because youre too shy to say no.12. Stop Listening to HatersNo matter what you want to do in life, there

21、s always someone around to tell you why it cant and wont work. I can come up with millions of reasons Twitter wont work, and yet its one of the most popular social media sites on the web. My opinion didnt stop Twitters success any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnett t

22、o stop acting. Why would you let someones opinion stop you?13. Stop Being WastefulYou dont finish your meals, and away food instead. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth, pouring precious water down the drain. You drive places you could easily walk, burning gasoline （a non-renewabl

23、e resource）。You are wasteful, and it needs to stop.14. Stop LitteringThe only thing I hate more than wasteful people are litterbugs. Litterbugs are my least favorite bug, and there are more than youd think. If youve ever thrown even one piece of gum, paper, candy wrapper, cigarette butt, etc on the

24、ground, youre a disgusting litterbug, and you should be ashamed of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the world if each person only throws one “innocent”piece of garbage on the ground, thats 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a world in which nobody “did it”.Your one decision makes a HU

25、GE difference, and I will not allow you to blow it off and walk around with your head held high. Youre a litterbug, and it needs to stop immediately. You dont get a lifehack for this one, you filthy animal. Just stop you already know how.15. Stop Taking Everything PersonallyPeople get offended about

26、 the strangest things. Take Kendrick Lamars now-infamous verse on “Control”this summer: he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks hes better than （and hes right）.The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response. The thing is, all K-Dot said

27、 is hes the best rapper. Everyone took it personally, and thats exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if youre easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.16. Stop TalkingSometimes its best to just STFU（shut the fuck up） espe

28、cially in relationships. I cant even count how many times I created an issue that didnt need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth. Even if what you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out. You can say more with your actions than words, and you cant listen when youre talking.