1、Gervaise says more and more mothers are using Facebook as a platform to boast about their lives, their kids, their parenting techniques. And thats making it harder and harder for moms like her to log on without getting slapped in the face. Bragging about your kids is nothing new, but before Facebook
2、, the Compare & Contrast game was mostly played at the playground or the preschool parking lot. Moms would stand around discreetly scrutinizing kids to see who was hitting milestones faster or slower than their own children. Now its going on all day, every day, in a vast electronic sandbox.CFacebook
3、 moms are constantly bombarded with updates about their friends kids and their accomplishments. Daily, hourly even. According to Edison Researchs Moms and Media 2013 report, 57% of moms on Facebook are over 35 these women are the first generation to have raised their children entirely in the Faceboo
4、k era. They started out single, gossiping and posting party photos and flirting, and now theyre changing diapers, worrying about peanut allergies and diligently navigating the sometimes treacherous mommy waters. And if theyre active on Facebook, theyre learning in front of a huge, rapt audience.DMot
5、hers are heavy Facebook users. Edisons 2013 research reveals that 7 out of 10 moms have a profile, and there are more than 1,000 mommy groups, public and private. These groups range in size from hundreds of members to tens of thousands, and they are discussing everything from potty training to gamin
6、g that private-school admissions test.EOf all the members on Facebook, moms check in the most (an average of 5.1 times a day, according to Edison), and they keep coming back, even if they are being battered with subtle and sometimes not so subtle “My kids smarter /healthier /happier than yours” rema
7、rks. For the mom who barely gets her kids shoes on before hustling them off to school, posts that portray the perfect family can stir up guilt or even self-loathing (自我厌恶). “Who has time to draw pictures with children? Who has time to clean up the giant mess?” says Meredith DePersia, a working mothe
8、r of two in San Francisco. “When I see these posts, I definitely feel like a lazy person.”FThe great time-killer is now a massive ego-killer, and even a mommy-blogger with a huge following feels vulnerable. “Facebook makes me feel bad,” says Glennon Doyle Melton, who had a New York Times best-seller
9、 with Carry On, Warrior. “No matter how satisfied I am with my life, career, family, social life, house, etC. as soon as I log on to Facebook and peek into others lives, I immediately feel that unease caused by comparison.”GThis is turning many rooms off. “One thing that drove me crazy when my son w
10、as younger was moms posting about how well their baby slept,” a mom from Texas recalls. “Our son was a pretty poor sleeper, and we spent so much of that first year utterly exhausted. So to be honest, when I would see a post gloating, XX slept for six hours straight last night! I would immediately hi
11、de that person for a while because it would irritate me.” An online media professional and mom of one from Falls Church, Va., is so fired of playing the game. “I kind of avoid Facebook entirely,” she says, “because Im sick of everyones presentation of perfection.”HThere is nothing in the Facebook ru
12、les that requires complete honesty and total disclosure, and it is human nature to portray the best version of ones life. From carefully presenting our vacation pictures to sharing perfectly posed first-day-of-school photos, all of us, not just moms, try to portray a problem-free, fun-filled, blissf
13、ul life. And that can be pretty annoying if youve just spent the morning watching your 4-year-old repaint your kitchen walls with oatmeal (麦片粥).I“An acquaintance posted a drawing her daughter had made, and it was so perfect. Way more than my son could do, even though he is the same age,” says a teac
14、her and mother from Texas. “I panicked for a minute, but talked myself down. If someone is posting positive, cheerful, perfect things all the time, I always think: Nope. Not buying it. No ones life is that perfect.”JPart of the problem is that this isnt happening in real time, face to face. That mea
15、ns moms who might not mean to offend are missing the social cues that normally put a damper on excessive crowing. “Social networks like Facebook havent changed the way people respond to bragging; theyve changed how much people brag,” says Dr. Pamela Rutledge, director of the Media Psychology Researc
16、h Center. “The ability to publicize so much has blurred the line between sharing and boasting. When you brag in a group, you notice when they wander away. When you brag on Facebook, its harder to tell who youre alienating.”KDr. Saedi, author of the blog Millennial Media, thinks its important to keep
17、 it all in perspective. “Remember that, like TV, not everything you see on Facebook is true. No ones life is perfect. And the more that people try to prove how great it is, the more its often a sign that its not. Its important for moms on Facebook to take a step back, get some distance and reassess.
18、”LMany feeling-smothered mothers dont want to “step back”; they want to escape, to be free. “I deleted my Facebook account!” crows a stay-at-home mom of two in Austin, Texas. “I hated the Keeping up with the Joneses behavior that Facebook engenders.” Not everyone is ready or able to completely cut t
19、he Facebook umbilical cord (脐带). One mom decided she just needed to take control of her page, and silence the braggers and know-everything. “I cleaned house a year ago and only connect with people Im actually friends or family with,” she says. “I found that Id catch up on Facebook and be bad-tempere
20、d after, so I changed my profile to only let Facebook be what I want it to be.”MEven mommy-blogger Melton took a Facebook vacation. For 40 days, the 101,000 followers of her Momastery website waited patiently as she took a rest. It was during this break that she realized how unhappy Facebook made he
21、r at times. “I called my younger sister the other day and said, Im going to quit Facebook. I dont use it right. Whether I want to or not, I just end up comparing myself to everyone else.”N“And (my) sister said, Actually, youre using it for the exact thing it was originally designed for. Remember, so
22、me college guys made it so that students could compare women to each other and decide who was hotter.” Melton ponders this for a moment. “And I thought: Ah, right. Huh. The origin of Facebook is really annoying and offensive, when you think about it. And even more annoying is that we often still use
23、 it for what it was originally intended: comparison.”6填空题1分1Due to the non-real-time communication on Facebook, moms dont know they have hurt others when they boast about themselves.答案:1.J7填空题1分Kimberly Gervaise hopes some of her almost 400 friends on Facebook can be modest a bit.1.A8填空题1分Facebook m
24、akes it possible now for mothers to compare and boast kids at every moment every day.1.B9填空题1分People on Facebook are not required to tell completely true stories about themselves when sharing information with others.1.H10填空题1分Dr. Saedi thinks that when people post their perfect life on Facebook, the
25、 reality may not be the case.1.K11填空题1分Comparison was the original function when people designed Facebook and the function has been in use since then.N12填空题1分A mom from Falls Church, Va. is fed up with the endless comparison and the show-off of ones perfect life on Facebook.1.G13填空题1分Meredith DePers
26、ia felt ashamed for herself when she read from Facebook the perfect life of others.1.E14填空题1分According to Edison 2013 research, mothers use Facebook a lot since 70% percent of them own a profile.1.D15填空题1分Edison Research finds that more than half of the Facebook moms have started to use it even before they were married.1.C
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