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1、s just the occasional phone call, e-mail or a weekly get-together.1）On your computer at home or work, make a note to call friends regularly.2）Keep a Post-it note on the phone, the bathroom mirror, the car dashboard, anywhere youre likely to see it.3）Also make sure your friends phone numbers are prog

2、rammed into your phone. Then call a friend when you have a spare 10 minutes.4）Schedule a regular once-a-month lunch same time, same place.2.Remember: a true friend doesnt flee when changes occur. Nothing is sadder for new parents than to find that their single friends have abandoned them because of

3、the baby. A good friend is one who stays true through it all marriage, parenthood, new jobs, new homes, any losses. Just because a situations changed doesnt mean the person has.3.Make sure you arent being a burden to a friend. Friendships fade away if there isnt an equilibrium between the give and t

4、he take. Be sensitive to how much your friend can and cant offer you be it time, energy or help and dont overstep the mark. And vice versa: friendships that drain you will not last. If a friendship is out of balance, talk the situation through.4.Be a good listener. It can be the hardest thing in the

5、 world to do simply to listen as he or she pours it all out or is seeking your advice or opinion. To be a better listener, follow this advice:1）Maintain eye contact. Offer nods and murmurs to indicate that you understand his or her point of view.2）Dont finish your friends sentences. If you catch you

6、rself planning your response while your friend is still talking, gently remind yourself to focus.3）Minimize distractions dont write or read e-mails, open the mail or watch television while youre on the phone to your friend. He or she will hear the lack of interest in your responses.4）Be careful with

7、 advice. Assume your friend wants to let off steam, not necessarily ask for a plan of action.5.Be in your friends corner if he or shes not there to defend him or herself. If youre at a gathering at which someone mentions your friend disparagingly, defend him or her against gossip or criticism. Say,

8、Mary is my friend, and it makes me feel bad to hear you talk this way. Sooner or later, news of your loyalty will travel back to your pal, and it will deepen your friendship.当朋友不在场时要站出来为他们辩护。当你站在一群人中正在说你朋友的坏话，你要站出来为他辩护，说，“玛丽是我的朋友，你们这样说她，我感觉很不好。”早晚，你朋友会知道你对友情的忠诚，而且会加深你们的友谊。女性更容易泄密加入收藏 【大 中 小】 2010-11

9、-19 谁都不希望自己的秘密被他人说出去，但是万一那个人是女性的话基本上这个秘密保守不了多长时间。据调查发现，大多数女性都不善于保守秘密。 The average woman cannot keep a secret for longer than 47 hours, a new study suggests.Researchers found that women are overcome by a burning desire to share gossip as soon as they hear it.They will typically spill the beans to at

10、least one other person in 47 hours and 15 minutes.Depending on who the gossip is about, their boyfriend, husband, best friend or mother are most likely to be the initial recipients of the information.The study of 3,000 women aged between 18 and 65 also found that four out of ten admitted they were u

11、nable to keep a secret no matter how personal or confidential the news was.It also found that alcohol usually gives us a helping hand to blurt out secrets with more than half admitting a glass or two of wine could prompt them to dish the dirt.Michael Cox, UK Director of Wines of Chile, which commiss

12、ioned the research to mark Chiles National Day on Friday, said: Its official women cant keep secrets.We were really keen to find out with this survey how many secrets people are told. What we didnt bank on was how quickly these are passed on by those we confide in.No matter how precious the piece of

13、 information, its often out in the public domain within 48 hours.The study found the nations ladies hear three nuggets of gossip a week, but end up passing it on to at least one other person.Six in 10 end up telling someone completely uninvolved so the person the secret belongs to wont know.Three in

14、 10 admitted having the urge to reveal someones secret. Nearly half （45 per cent） disclose secrets just for the weight to be lifted from their shoulders.However, two thirds end up feeling guilty after passing on secrets.Three quarters say they are capable of keeping quiet about a secret, and 83 per cent consider themselves 100 per cent trustworthy within each group of friends.Yet, four in ten admit to gossiping to a close friend from another friendship group.More than four in ten think it is acceptable to share a friends secret with someone who does not know them, with