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TED英语演讲稿改善工作的快乐之道
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改善工作的快乐之道
wheniwassevenyearsoldandmysisterwasjustfiveyearsold,wewereplayingontopofabunkbed.iwastwoyearsolderthanmysisteratthetime--imean,i'mtwoyearsolderthanhernow--butatthetimeitmeantshehadtodoeverythingthatiwantedtodo,andiwantedtoplaywar.sowewereupontopofourbunkbeds.andononesideofthebunkbed,ihadputoutallofmyjoesoldiersandweaponry.andontheothersidewereallmysister'smylittleponiesreadyforacavalrycharge.
therearedifferingaccountsofwhatactuallyhappenedthatafternoon,butsincemysisterisnotherewithustoday,letmetellyouthetruestory--(laughter)--whichismysister'salittlebitontheclumsyside.somehow,withoutanyhelporpushfromherolderbrotheratall,suddenlyamydisappearedoffofthetopofthebunkbedandlandedwiththiscrashonthefloor.nowinervouslypeeredoverthesideofthebedtoseewhathadbefallenmyfallensisterandsawthatshehadlandedpainfullyonherhandsandkneesonallfoursontheground.
iwasnervousbecausemyparentshadchargedmewithmakingsurethatmysisterandiplayedassafelyandasquietlyaspossible.andseeingashowihadaccidentallybrokenamy'sarmjustoneweekbefore(laughter)heroicallypushingheroutofthewayofanonxxingimaginarysniperbullet,(laughter)forwhichihaveyettobethanked,iwastryingashardasicould--shedidn'tevenseeitxxing--iwastryingashardasicouldtobeonmybestbehavior.
andisawmysister'sface,thiswailofpainandsufferingandsurprisethreateningtoeruptfromhermouthandthreateningtowakemyparentsfromthelongwinter'snapforwhichtheyhadsettled.soididtheonlythingmylittlefranticsevenyear-oldbraincouldthinktodotoavertthistragedy.andifyouhavechildren,you'veseenthishundredsoftimesbefore.isaid,"amy,amy,wait.don'tcry.don'tcry.didyouseehowyoulanded?
nohumanlandsonallfourslikethat.amy,ithinkthismeansyou'reaunicorn."
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nowthatwascheating,becausetherewasnothingintheworldmysisterwouldwantmorethannottobeamythehurtfiveyear-oldlittlesister,butamythespecialunicorn.ofcourse,thiswasanoptionthatwasopentoherbrainatnopointinthepast.andyoucouldseehowmypoor,manipulatedsisterfacedconflict,asherlittlebrainattemptedtodevoteresourcestofeelingthepainandsufferingandsurpriseshejustexperienced,orcontemplatinghernew-foundidentityasaunicorn.andthelatterwonout.insteadofcrying,insteadofceasingourplay,insteadofwakingmyparents,withallthenegativeconsequencesthatwouldhaveensuedforme,insteadasmilespreadacrossherfaceandshescrambledrightbackupontothebunkbedwithallthegraceofababyunicorn(laughter)withonebrokenleg.
whatwestumbledacrossatthistenderageofjustfiveandseven--wehadnoideaatthetime--wassomethingthatwasgoingbeatthevanguardofascientificrevolutionoccurringtwodecadeslaterinthewaythatwelookatthehumanbrain.whatwehadstumbledacrossissomethingcalledpositivepsychology,whichisthereasonthati'mheretodayandthereasonthatiwakeupeverymorning.
whenifirststartedtalkingaboutthisresearchoutsideofacademia,outwithxxpaniesandschools,theveryfirstthingtheysaidtoneverdoistostartyourtalkwithagraph.theveryfirstthingiwanttodoisstartmytalkwithagraph.thisgraphlooksboring,butthisgraphisthereasonigetexcitedandwakeupeverymorning.andthisgraphdoesn'tevenmeananything;it'sfakedata.whatwefoundis--
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ifigotthisdatabackstudyingyouhereintheroom,iwouldbethrilled,becausethere'sveryclearlyatrendthat'sgoingonthere,andthatmeansthaticangetpublished,whichisallthatreallymatters.thefactthatthere'soneweirdreddotthat'supabovethecurve,there'soneweirdointheroom--iknowwhoyouare,isawyouearlier--that'snoproblem.that'snoproblem,asmostofyouknow,becauseicanjustdeletethatdot.icandeletethatdotbecausethat'sclearlyameasurementerror.andweknowthat'sameasurementerrorbecauseit'smessingupmydata.
sooneoftheveryfirstthingsweteachpeopleineconomicsandstatisticsandbusinessandpsychologycoursesishow,inastatisticallyvalidway,doweeliminatetheweirdos.howdoweeliminatetheoutlierssowecanfindthelineofbestfit?
whichisfantasticifi'mtryingtofindouthowmanyadviltheaveragepersonshouldbetaking--two.butifi'minterestedinpotential,ifi'minterestedinyourpotential,orforhappinessorproductivityorenergyorcreativity,whatwe'redoingiswe'recreatingthecultoftheaveragewithscience.
ifiaskedaquestionlike,"howfastcanachildlearnhowtoreadinaclassroom?
"scientistschangetheanswerto"howfastdoestheaveragechildlearnhowtoreadinthatclassroom?
"andthenwetailortheclassrighttowardstheaverage.nowifyoufallbelowtheaverageonthiscurve,thenpsychologistsgetthrilled,becausethatmeansyou'reeitherdepressedoryouhaveadisorder,orhopefullyboth.we'rehopingforbothbecauseourbusinessmodelis,ifyouxxeintoatherapysessionwithoneproblem,wewanttomakesureyouleaveknowingyouhave10,soyoukeepxxingbackoverandoveragain.we'llgobackintoyourchildhoodifnecessary,buteventuallywhatwewanttodoismakeyounormalagain.butnormalismerelyaverage.
andwhatipositandwhatpositivepsychologypositsisthatifwestudywhatismerelyaverage,wewillremainmerelyaverage.theninsteadofdeletingthosepositiveoutliers,whatiintentionallydoisxxeintoapopulationlikethisoneandsay,why?
whyisitthatsomeofyouaresohighabovethecurveintermsofyourintellectualability,athleticability,musicalability,creativity,energylevels,yourresiliencyinthefaceofchallenge,yoursenseofhumor?
whateveritis,insteadofdeletingyou,whatiwanttodoisstudyyou.becausemaybewecangleaninformation--notjusthowtomovepeopleuptotheaverage,buthowwecanmovetheentireaverageupinourxxpaniesandschoolsworldwide.
thereasonthisgraphisimportanttomeis,wheniturnonthenews,itseemslikethemajorityoftheinformationisnotpositive,infactit'snegative.mostofit'saboutmurder,corruption,diseases,naturaldisasters.andveryquickly,mybrainstartstothinkthat'stheaccurateratioofnegativetopositiveintheworld.whatthat'sdoingiscreatingsomethingcalledthemedicalschoolsyndrome--which,ifyouknowpeoplewho'vebeentomedicalschool,duringthefirstyearofmedicaltraining,asyoureadthroughalistofallthesymptomsanddiseasesthatcouldhappen,suddenlyyourealizeyouhaveallofthem.
ihaveabrotherin-lawnamedbobo--whichisawholeotherstory.bobomarriedamytheunicorn.bobocalledmeonthephonefromyalemedicalschool,andbobosaid,"shawn,ihaveleprosy."(laughter)which,evenatyale,isextraordinarilyrare.butihadnoideahowtoconsolepoorbobobecausehehadjustgottenoveranentireweekofmenopause.
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seewhatwe'refindingisit'snotnecessarilytherealitythatshapesus,butthelensthroughwhichyourbrainviewstheworldthatshapesyourreality.andifwecanchangethelens,notonlycanwechangeyourhappiness,wecanchangeeverysingleeducationalandbusinessoutxxeatthesametime.
wheniappliedtoharvard,iappliedonadare.ididn'texpecttogetin,andmyfamilyhadnomoneyforcollege.whenigotamilitaryscholarshiptwoweekslater,theyallowedmetogo.suddenly,somethingthatwasn'tevenapossibilitybecameareality.wheniwentthere,iassumedeveryoneelsewouldseeitasaprivilegeaswell,thatthey'dbeexcitedtobethere.evenifyou'reinaclassroomfullofpeoplesmarterthanyou,you'dbehappyjusttobeinthatclassroom,whichiswhatifelt.butwhatifoundthereis,whilesomepeopleexperiencethat,whenigraduatedaftermyfouryearsandthenspentthenexteightyearslivinginthedormswiththestudents--harvardaskedmeto;iwasn'tthatguy.(laughter)iwasanofficerofharvardtocounselstudentsthroughthedifficultfouryears.andwhatifoundinmyresearchandmyteachingisthatthesestudents,nomatterhowhappytheywerewiththeiroriginalsuccessofgettingintotheschool,twoweekslatertheirbrainswerefocused,notontheprivilegeofbeingthere,norontheirphilosophyortheirphysics.theirbrainwasfocusedonthexxpetition,theworkload,thehassles,thestresses,thexxplaints.
whenifirstwentinthere,iwalkedintothefreshmendininghall,whichiswheremyfriendsfromwaco,texas,whichiswhereigrewup--iknowsomeofyouhaveheardofit.whenthey'dxxetovisitme,they'dlookaround,they'dsay,"thisfreshmandininghalllookslikesomethingoutofhogwart'sfromthemovie"harrypotter,"whichitdoes.thisishogwart'sfromthemovie"harrypotter"andthat'sharvard.andwhentheyseethis,theysay,"shawn,whydoyouwasteyourtimestudyinghappinessatharvard?
seriously,whatdoesaharvardstudentpossiblyhavetobeunhappyabout?
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embeddedwithinthatquestionisthekeytounderstandingthescienceofhappiness.becausewhatthatquestionassumesisthatourexternalworldispredictiveofourhappinesslevels,wheninreality,ifiknoweverythingaboutyourexternalworld,icanonlypredict10percentofyourlong-termhappiness.90percentofyourlong-termhappinessispredictednotbytheexternalworld,butbythewayyourbrainprocessestheworld.andifwechangeit,ifwechangeourformula