4 Loving Mother Always Spoils Her Child.docx

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DebatingandDiscussing

4LovingMotherAlwaysSpoilsHerChild

EverydayEnglish

Topicsentencefortoday:

Ohso-so.

Paul:

Hi!

I’mback!

嗨！

我回来了。

Alice:

Youmustbeexhausted.Haveyoubeenworkingallnight?

你肯定累坏了。

整晚都在工作吗？

Paul:

Yesbutatleastwedealtwithmostofthecasualties.Howwasyourevening?

是的，但是我们至少已处理了大部分的伤亡。

今天晚上你过得怎么样？

Alice:

Ohso-so.

哦，不怎么样。

Paul:

WasNancyOK?

汤米还好吗？

Alice:

Shewasquiteproblematic,actually.Youshouldhavewarnedme.

事实上她的问题可多了。

你本应该早警告我这一点。

Paul:

Whatabout?

Whatdidyoudotoher?

She’saperfectlynormal5year-old.

怎么？

你对她做了什么？

她只是一个很乖的5岁大的正常小孩。

Alice:

Normal?

Youthinkit’snormaltohaveatempertantrum,behavelikeaspoilt

bratandonlygotobedbecauseyou’reorderedto?

Ifthat’swhatyoucallnormal,maybeyourparentingskillsaren’tquiteasgreatasyouthinktheyare.Now,I’mgoinghomeforsomewell-earnedrest.

正常？

你认为表现地像一个被宠坏的捣蛋鬼发脾气，仅仅会按照你的要求上床睡觉就是正常的？

如果这就是你所谓的正常，那么你的教育方式可能没有你认为的那么好。

现在，我要回家了，理所应当的好好休息一下。

Paul:

Alice!

爱丽丝！

Alice:

Andnexttimeyouneedababysitter,findsomeothermug!

下一次，你需要另外找一个傻瓜保姆了！

In-puttextforspeaking

Readthefollowingpassage

Underlinethekeywordswhilereading

LittleEmperors

Chinaeconomicgrowthhastremendouslyelevatedtheannualpercapitaincomeofurbanareasaswomenhavebecomeincreasinglymorerepresentedwithintheworkforcefrequentlyresultinginfamilieshavingtwosourcesofincome.ThisgreatlyimprovedpurchasingpoweroftheChinesefamilyunitcoupledwithexcessivepamperingofonlychildrenisthecauseforincreasedspendingonchildren.Fromtoystoclothes,parentsshowertheirchildinmaterialgoodsandgiveintoeverydemand;itisnotuncommonforchildrentobethe“best-dressedmembersoftheirfamilies.”

Recently,itiscommonfornearlyhalfafamily’sincometobespentonthechild.Thiseffecthasbecomeconsiderableenoughtobenoticedonaglobalscale:

marketinggroupsattributeaneardoublingofplatinumjewelrysalesinChinato“China’s‘spoiltbrat’generation.”However,theLittleEmperorsbearnotonlytheindulgenceoftheirparents,butalsotheburdenofheavyexpectations.Againconsideredpartoftheparents’“compensationsyndrome,”astheylivevicariouslyhavinglosttheirchanceintheCulturalRevolution,thesechildrencarryimmensepressuretosucceedandcompeteacademically.Fromanearlyageparentspushtheironlychildtoeducationalextremesastheycatertotheirwhims;“ThoughmanyoftheseprecociouskidscanrecitetheEnglishalphabetorreadnewspapersintraditionalChinesecharactersbythetimethey’re10,theirparentsoftenstillperformbasictasksforthem:

fixingtheirhair,tyingtheirshoes,wipingtheirbottoms.”Boardingschool,privateEnglishlessons,musiclessonsandanadditionalrangeofextracurricularactivitiesarethenormalfarethoughaftertoughcompetitiononlytwopercentoftheLittleEmperorswillbeabletostudyatauniversity.

OnefactorfrequentlyassociatedwiththeLittleEmperoreffect,thefour-two-onefamilystructurereferstothecollapseofthetraditionallylargeChinesefamilyintofourgrandparentsandtwoparentsdotingononechild.Beyondtheobviousfurtherfunnelingofresourcestowardsthewhimsandpotentialoftheonlychild,thisfour-two-onereconfigurationofthefamilialstructurehasdistinctramificationsforChinesesociety.TheLittleEmperorsoftheone-childpolicyhavewarpedthetraditionalfamilybeyondrecognition;“inthepast,thepowerinahouseholddevolvedfromthefather,”whoruledoveramultitudeofoffspring.However,withinthecurrentinfluenceofthe“spoiled”onlychildren,thehouseholdstructuresitselfentirelyaroundtheonechild.Thisshiftfromearlierstructuresthatsupportedthecultureoffilialpietyhascausedmuchconcern;“traditionally,agreatnumberofchildren,particularlysons,wasseenasproofofthefamily’sstandinganditguaranteedthecontinuityofancestor-worshippingcustoms.”Specificallythemostsalientissuestemsfromtheworryaboutwhowilllookaftertheelderly.Asidefromapotentiallyradicalshiftinculturalnormsconcerningthetreatmentoftheelderly,thisnewfamilystructureposesapurelydemographicproblem:

“thecompositionofthedependentpopulationisshiftingawayfromchildrentowardelderlypopulation.”

Out-putactivities

1.Canyoumakeacomparisonofpersonalitytraitsofonlyandsiblingchildren?

2.Supposeyouareabusinessman,whatbenefitscanyougetfromthe“littleemperor”effect?

3.Whatparticularissuesrelatedtolittleemperorswouldyouliketodiscusswithyourclassmates?

Brainstorm:

Help1RelatedwordsPhrasesandsentences

Trytorememberthefollowingwords,phrasesandsentences.

sibling兄弟，姐妹peers同辈

offspring子女，后代demographic人口统计的

adolescence青春期，青少年期authoritative权威的，命令的

authoritarian独裁的，专制的indulgence溺爱

egocentric以自我为中心

psychologicalwounds心理伤害excessivepermissiveness过度纵容和放任

spoiledbrats被宠坏的顽童juveniledelinquency青少年犯罪

parentallaxity管教不严格corporalpunishment体罚

filialpiety子女的孝顺four-two-onefamilialstructure4+2+1家庭模式

1）TheperceivedmaladjustmentoftheLittleEmperorsisanexaggeratedsubjectwithinthemedia.ThegovernmenthastriedtocopewiththeLittleEmperorproblemthroughfrequentcautionarystoriesinthepress.

我们察觉到的“小皇帝”们的失调行为成了媒体渲染的主题。

政府试图通过新闻中频繁出现的警示性故事来解决“小皇帝”问题。

2）ThediscussionofLittleEmperorshassaturatedpublicdiscussionconcerningthegenerationoftheone-childpolicywithinChineseandinternationalmedia

中外媒体充斥着公众对计划生育一代人所产生的“小皇帝”问题的讨论。

3）Resultsfromearlierstudiesshowthattherearedifferencesindependency,helpingothers,oraggressivebehaviorbetweenonlychildrenandchildrenwithsiblingsandotherstudiesconcludethatonlychildrenweremoreegocentricandthatchildrenwithsiblingsweremorepersistentandcooperative,andtheyhadhigherpeerprestige.

较早之前的研究表明独生子女和有兄弟姐妹的小孩在独立行为、帮助他人和攻击性行为方面有所不同。

其他研究也表明独生子女更自我为中心；而又后者更坚定、更具合作精神并且在同辈中享有更高的威信。

4）Sometimesparentsspoiltoomuchtheirchildren,becausetheyofferthemtoomuchattentionandtrytocarryoutalltheirwishes:

theybuychildrenallthetoystheywant,theclothestheywishorthesweetstheyadore.

有些时候，父母太过溺爱孩子，因为他们对孩子太过关注，总是尽全力实现他们的愿望，为他们买所想要的玩具、衣物和糖果。

5）Positiveparentingisnotjusttheabsenceofnegativeinfluences,butinvolvestakinganactiveroleinachild’slife.

正面的家长教育不仅仅是避免负面影响，而且是对孩子的一生起到积极的作用。

Help2Apassage

Readthefollowingpassagequicklyandbrainstormthepotentialtopicsfordebateordiscussionrelatedtoit.Herearesomesuggestionsforyourreference.

•What’syourresponsetothefollowingpassage?

•Doesthelovingmothertendtospoilherchild?

•Workoutalistof“does”and“don’t”foramotherinhereducationofthechild.Givereasons.

TheProsandConsofPermissiveParenting

Permissiveparentingisontherise.Thedaysofparentalauthority,boundaries,anddisciplinearegoingoutfast,onlytobereplacedbyparentswhobelievethebestwaytolovetheirchildrenistoletthembe.

“Permissiveparenting”isamisnomer,sinceitisnotreallyaboutparentingatall.Itisreallyaboutself-esteem:

thechild’sself-esteemissupposedlyboostedbyallowinghimfreedom,andtheparent’sself-esteemisboostedbythefactthatthechildlikeshim.

BeforeIpointoutthemanydangersofthiskindofparenting,letmebrieflyoutlinesomeofthethingsthatcanbeconsideredadvantagestopermissiveparenting.

Oneadvantageisthatyourkidswilllikeyou.Youcanbebuddieswithyourchildren.Theymayevencallyou“cool.”Also,permissiveparentingiseasierthanauthoritativeparenting.Itiseasiertojustletyourchildrendowhattheywantthantomakethemobey.Anotheradvantagetopermissiveparentingisthatsomechildrenmaybecomeindependent.Lackinginparentalleadership,somechildrenmaytaketheinitiativeanddothingsontheirown.Thisdevelopsindependence.

Nowlet’slookatthedangers.

First,withoutparentalcontrol,thereischaos.Childrenneedinstruction,andtheyneedboundaries.Babiescomeintothisworldasself-centeredhumanbeings.Withoutboundaries,theywillrunwildwithnoregardforothers.Yourchildrenneedhelpmakinggooddecisions.Ifyourchildrenareraisedinapermissivehome,theywillonlymakepoordecisionswhentheyventureoutintotherealworld.Therearerulesandboundariesintheworld,andchildrenneedtolearnthisfromthestart,inthesafetyoftheirownhome.

Yourchildrenwillalsoloserespectforyou.Sure,theymightbeyourfriendatfirst,buteventuallytheywillwonderwhyyoudidn'tsetboundariesforthem.Theywillespeciallyloserespectforthefather,viewinghimasweak.Theymayevenquestionyourlove.Youmaythinkthatallowingthemtodowhattheywantwillproveyourlove,butoftenchildren,whentheygetolder,wonderwhytheirparentsdidn'tlovethemenoughtomakerulesanddisciplinethem.

Finally,thereisevidencenowthatpermissiveparentingcancausesleepdisturbances.AccordingtotheCenterofAdvancementofHealth,inastudydoneinOctober1997,“lax”parentingwasstronglyassociatedwithsleepdisturbances.

Permissiveparenting,althoughusuallydoneinlove,isnotgoodfortheparentsorthechildren.Godgivesuschildrentoraise,nurture,andlove.Settingboundariesandmakingrulesispartofraisingchildrenwhowillbehappy,healthyandwelladjustedadults.

Help3Situationalplays:

Workinsmallgroups.Eachgroupmemberselectsoneofthefollowingroles,andthentriestoperformapaneldiscussionbeforethewholeclassaftersomepreparation.

A:

Amiddleschoolteacher.

B:

Achildren’seducationexpert.

C:

Asoc